A Gay and A NonGay

James and Dan are back with a bonus Dear Queerdrie episode, answering a listener's question: when did 'just sex' stop being enough? Let us know what you think on our socials @gaynongay or email us with your opinions and dilemmas - us@gaynongay.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Pride Month! In this episode, James and Dan are in conversation with writer and historian Peter Parker to discuss his new anthology series Some Men In London. The books explore discovered memoirs, letters and documents which depict what life was truly like for gay men in London between the 40s and late 50s. Both volumes are available to purchase now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit m...

How do you go about making male gay friends as a man in your 30s? Are heterosexual people allowed to use terms like 'top/bottom' and 'pillow princess'? And how does a closeted Hip-Hop MC go about embracing who he really is without risking his career? James and Dan explore it all in this episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan caught up with the winner of 2024 Eurovision, Nemo. They chat about how the winning single was created, what's the tea on the dropped trophy and advice for anyone who is non-binary and struggling with their coming out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan use a previous listener dilemma as a starting point for a wider discussion around labels and identity. They also answer the question of why gays and lesbians don't get along. Listen back to the chat with Helen Scott here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why are so many gays anti-pride? Is it internalised homophobia? Plus - are bisexuals just greedy? Dan ran the London Marathon in 3h 27! You can help him help Marie Curie here. Get tickets to see James’ new show at www.jamesbarrcomedy.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan react to RuPaul saying that monogamy is a hoax. Is there such thing as monogamy with men, and is it a different script for gays and nongays? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ahead of Eurovision, and James co-hosting Denmark's official pre party Malmohagen, Australian comedian and actor Joel Creasey joins James and Dan on this week's episode. Who will Joel be flirting with back stage at Eurovision? What was it like opening for Joan Rivers? And which Minogue sister would be amazing as a UK or Australian Eurovision entry? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone...

Netflix's 'Baby Reindeer' creator Richard Gadd had a chat with James and Dan back in 2019 at the Edinburgh Fringe Festival when it was first performed as a stage show. Trigger Warning - this episode does contain conversations about abuse and sexual violence. For help and guidance, you can find Survivors Network at survivorsnetwork.org.uk. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoi...

Have you seen the TradWives movement? What do you think? In this episode James and Dan explore whether coming out will always be 'a thing', the boom of the TradWives movement and answer your pressing life dilemmas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan share a deep conversation with Elliot Page and Dominic Savage, makers of the new film 'Close To You'. Sam (Elliot Page) has a chance encounter with an old friend (Hillary Baack) on his way home to a dreaded family reunion that forces him to confront long-buried feelings. They explore the creative process behind creating this film and the importance of trans masc representation in cin...

What would you do if you had to have tea with someone's mum on the first date? James and Dan are back and in this episode they explore whether online LGBTQ+ inclusivity posts actually do more harm than good... as well as responding to more of your pressing dilemmas! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Ken Day! ... But where were the gays in Barbieland?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Crystal Hefner sheds light on her time at the infamous Playboy Mansion, from the glamour of the mansion to the shadows of manipulation, abuse and control. James and Dan discuss Hugh Hefner's legacy and the dark underbelly of the Playboy empire. From the pressures of maintaining physical perfection to the emotional and financial exploitation. Crystal shares her conflicting feelings about her relati...

Do you find yourself attractive? Would you put your honey where your mouth is and literally taste your own penis? James and Dan are back with a chat about self-image, arousal, and how to navigate intimacy in modern relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is the "girlfriend effect" real? Do straight men suddenly get their act together because of their girlfriends? Plus James wants to know if it's okay to filter your pics before sliding into someone's DMs?  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan dive into the absurdity of rumors about Prince's alleged rib removal and an MP's peculiar habit. Plus what is docking? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's finally happened. What does Jamie Dornan think of Dan moonlighting as a Jamie Dornan look alike? Jamie Dornan makes a surprise appearance to settle the score on Dan's Jamie Dornan lookalike status. Plus our listener shares his struggles with being mistaken for gay and wonders if there's something he's missing about himself. Get in touch with us via our DMs, follow @gaynongay on your socials o...

James and Dan are back and we're answering your questions. Today, a straight man in his thirties, finds himself grappling with unexpected emotions for his friend who's about to tie the knot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

James and Dan sit down with acclaimed filmmaker Andrew Haigh to dive deep into his latest film, "All of Us Strangers." The movie explores the complexities of love, loneliness, and the queer experience, taking viewers on a journey through time and emotion. Andrew shares his insights into the creative process, discussing the challenges of revisiting his childhood home for the film's setting and the...

Join James and Dan for a trip through some of their favourite interviews from 2023.  Highlights include our chat with Eva Echo after she sued the NHS over waiting times for trans patients, a lively debate with gay Tory Councillor Andrew Boff, our emotional conversation with the Real Jill Nalder from It’s A Sin, a chilling conversation about chemsex murders with Patrick Strudwick and legendary DJ F...

Live at Cheerful Earful Festival Part 2. James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by legendary DJ Fat Tony for an in-depth conversation about addiction, recovery and how he finally found happiness. We also hear about Tony & Stavros wedding plans, and how their special day will be dedicated to the entire LGBTQ+ community. DJ Fat Tony interview starts at 01.35. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me...

In the first of two episodes recorded live at Cheerful Earful Festival in November, James Barr and Dan Hudson are joined by LGBTQ+ educator & YouTuber Jamie Raines - who gained a huge online following by sharing his personal transition with the internet. But first, Things Dan Cannot Say returns, and Dan thinks gays ‘should admit that RuPaul’s Drag Race is over’ 😱. Alyship REVOKED. Come back next...

James and Dan are joined by Cristal and Alisa from The Aces. We’re going to talk about the new album, growing up in the Mormon Church and why they decided to leave - how amazing their shows in Utah have been and the positive effect they have on queer youth around the world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Re-release: Our big gay show with Felicity Ward, Sophie Anderson and Vanessa Feltz. In light of the sad death of Sophie Anderson, this week there's another chance to hear our Big Gay Show. This episode was recorded live at the Underbelly Festival in September 2021 with very special guests Sophie Anderson, Vanesa Feltz and Felicity Ward. Episode Timings 04:14 - Things Dan Can't Say 09:13 - Felicity...