12 Week Relationships Podcast

The end of a relationship can be devastating in many ways. Heartbreak is extremely painful and the first instinct is to try and remove that pain by any means. However, during this sensitive period, it's important to be mindful of your decisions as you heal and to help out, Pye and Dr. Glen provide some great tips for healthily processing the heartache and moving on from a relationship.

Pete Davidson recently shared that he has BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder). BPD is not only easy to misunderstand, it’s a disorder shared by many highly successful people. In this episode, Pye and Dr. Glen do a deep dive on Borderline Personality Disorder. What is BPD? What does it look like and what can it be often confused for? How do you manage BPD or create/maintain relationships with peo...

Cheaters are ultimately responsible for the act of cheating itself, but there's usually a much more complicated picture of the relationship that gets lost in the betrayal and shock. We can agree that cheating is bad, but does that make the cheater a bad person? The answer isn't so black and white.

We've discussed the Narcissist vs. People Pleaser dynamic and how it's the perfect toxic storm in a previous episode, but today's episode is all about what narcissism actually is. Pye and Dr. Glen dive deep into the wide spectrum of narcissism, what exactly goes on in the mind of a narcissist, and the nuances of this often misunderstood personality disorder.

Unconditional love is commonly seen as the ideal kind of love. A guaranteed and secure kind of love, much like a parent's love for their child. Unconditional love is also often expected within a romantic relationship. However, does such a love exist? Pye and Dr. Glen debate whether love and relationships can truly be unconditional or if all relationships, regardless of circumstance, are bound by s...

Having children or not is one of the most important decisions a couple has to make. It's a life changing choice and a difference in positions can cause deep rifts, but is calling it quits or conceding the answer? Can the difference be reconcilable? Will I or my partner change over time? This is a common discussion among couples and one that needs to be handled with careful thought and consideratio...

How do we convey empathy through a digital medium? How can we communicate complex ideas in simple and relatable ways to a broader audience? Matthias Barker is a therapist and popular content creator on topics around mental health and personal development. Widely known for his viral short-form videos, Matthias has mastered the ability to relay complex messages in a way that viewers of all ages and...

We talk a lot about our 12 week programs and how they're designed to help you become your own relationship expert in 12 weeks, hence our name, 12 Week Relationship. Lately, we've been getting a ton of questions asking what are the programs actually like? What is C.V.F.T.™? What do we actually do over the course of the 12 weeks? In this episode, Pye and Dr. Glen dive into the upcoming 12 Week Life...

A relationship built around trauma can be difficult to spot because they can feel "right" in so many ways. They fulfill deep needs created by past traumas and we tend to mistake that fulfillment for closeness and connection. The bonds and beliefs created by these wounds can be so powerful that they can blind each partner to deep differences in values and interests that would otherwise throw the re...

Conflict is stressful and it's easy to get lost in our elevated emotions. Nobody likes feeling attacked or one may be dead set on making their point. Either way, reason can tend to take a back seat and ego take the wheel, unnecessarily fanning the flames and prolonging the conflict. However, conflict is inevitable and necessary for growth and healthy dialogue is key to finding an effective resolut...

So far in our Roadmap episodes, we've discussed Desire and Quality Time as two key components for what makes a successful relationship and what happens when either are absent. Today, we're going to discuss the final piece of the Stupid-Simple Relationship Method: Sustainability. Sustainability dictates our emotional cost in maintaining a relationship. When we say a relationship lacks Sustainabilit...

Today, we're tackling some more of our community-submitted relationship questions. Our community is important to us! We love hearing your feedback and answering your questions. If you're curious about anything relationship related, you can DM us your questions on Instagram at @12weekrelationships. While we don't offer direct relationship advice, we may select your question for an upcoming Q&A epis...

When relationships grow apart, we often hear people fall back on explanations like "We just got too busy," or "We don't live near each other anymore." But the reality is that the relationship ended because it was nothing more than a casual relationship that was supported by circumstance rather than deliberate choice. Within these situational relationships, or Situationships, Desire is not a factor...

Like any relationship dynamic, some level of fighting and disagreements is expected in a family. There are healthy ways to settle disagreements but toss in a bit of dysfunction and things can quickly spin out of control. For those constantly finding themselves in the middle of family drama, seemingly to no end, Pye and Dr. Glen lay out some real-life examples and tips for diffusing the situation a...

Why is it that most of our acquaintances never turn into friendships? Along the same lines, why do most of our friendships tend to fade over time? What we're getting at here is Desire. Desire is essentially the "want" for the relationship. The emotional benefits that justify your efforts to create a new relationship or support your choice to spend time with an existing one. Without Desire, friends...

We're back with more community-submitted relationship questions! We love collaborating with our incredible community so if you're curious about anything relationship related, you can DM us your questions on Instagram at @12weekrelationships! While we don't offer direct relationship advice, we may select your question for an upcoming Q&A episode. We respect your privacy so we promise your name will...

Most of the relationships you create will fail to have long term significance. Don’t worry, there’s nothing wrong with you! This truth applies to virtually everyone. Of all the people you’ll encounter in your lifetime, a small portion will be a part of your social sphere. An even smaller portion will become close friends, and even fewer, intimate relationships. Who you spend your time with will al...

A healthy relationship is energizing and allows for each partner to be the best version of themselves without judgement. On the other hand, an unhealthy relationship leaves you feeling drained, anxious, and hesitant to be your true self. To help better understand if you're in an unhealthy relationship, Pye and Dr. Glen walk through some common signs and behaviors that may indicate a need for chang...

As soon as it happened, the questions began pouring in. We're talking about the Will Smith / Chris Rock controversy at this year's Academy Awards. So what really happened?? There are some interesting arguments being made including who's really at fault or whether this was about preserving masculinity and honor. In hopes of putting to bed some claims being shared on the internet, Pye and Dr. Glen p...

Through years of research, Pye simplified a relationship into three simple core components: Desire, Quality Time, and Sustainability. These three make up a loop called the Stupid-Simple Relationship Method, or SSRM. If a relationship runs into trouble, it often means that one or more of these three components is missing or has begun to fade. This stupid-simple formula is designed to help you bette...

In order to tell whether a relationship is healthy or not, look closely at their body language and subtle behaviors. These will often reveal more than words. Certain behaviors can indicate differences in values that will later become major conflicts. Certain body language can also indicate how each partner regards one another. Keep in mind that some of these signs can be subtle. But too many in a...

Pye and Dr. Glen asked 30+ professionals, "What does a healthy relationship look like?" And not one could provide an adequate answer and we're talking counselors, marriage therapists, relationship experts, life/relationship coaches, psychologists, etc. Their answers were no better than the bad relationship advice floating out there in the world. You know, the statements that sound profound but off...

Children are highly complex and intuitive. They're naturally filled with creativity, energy, and emotion. It's a parent's role to foster and nurture these qualities to ensure the children grow up with the necessary skills to healthily express themselves, handle conflict, and process emotions. Amanda Lee, creator of My Mommy the Artist, shares 4 great tips for communicating effectively with childre...

Our entire mission is to simplify the complex subject of relationships and to help in your journey by sharing practical and actionable guidance, backed by science and real-world research. Because we’re constantly looking for new science and data to improve every aspect of what we do, we're always creating new content! This is why we're creating a newsletter called the TWR Roadmap, where Pye and Dr...

Narcissism comes in many colors and Shake and Deepti are two different shades. Nuance is important when discussing narcissism and the role it plays in trauma-based relationships, particularly Shake and Deepti's. While that nuance seems to have been completely missed by the cast of Love is Blind, Pye and Dr. Glen are here to analyze Shake and Deepti's complex relationship and the heated exchange th...