101 Secrets of Effective Parenting

Secret#51 ‘Never say never’, ‘Never say die’. Let these be the attitudes you inculcate in your children. Nothing is impossible for the willing and the brave. Teach your children this mantra -‘ If I can’t, then I must’. Practise it yourself too!

Secret#50 Instead of making competition days into stressful days, why don’t you treat your children normally? Allow them to participate for the experience, not just for the prize. The prizes make sense only if they aim and strategize to win. They have to do this for themselves, or those prizes are not for them but for you!

Secret#49 Each one of your children is unique. So, instead of loving equally, learn how to LOVE UNIQUELY. Understand what is special about each of your children and love them for their special selves. Do you make sibling rivalry any bigger than it is?

Secret#48 Discuss patiently with your children, the purposes and motivations of studying. Share with them the larger picture, and you’ll find them more receptive than you imagined.

Secret#47 Do not judge too soon. Analyse the motivation behind your children’s actions, and in them you will surely find the answer to their behavioural challenges.

Secret#46 Let your children make their own choices, then allow them to face the consequences. As long as the situation is well under control, do not intervene to bail them out. Let them learn their lessons on their own.

Secret#45 Isn’t it true that only when you start loving and enjoying what you do, will you become good at it? Make study time fun and exciting for your children, so that they enjoy their studies as much as they enjoy playing.

Secret#44 Instead of feeling anxious, get excited about confusion. When confused, it means that your children are learning something new.

Secret#43 There are no inattentive students, only fallacious teaching methods, which can’t hold the children’s attention. Now think for yourself, and I am sure you can come up with appropriate pedagogic tools for them, and make them happy learners. Study time will also become fun time now!

Secret#42 Are you worried why your children seem to hate the regime of school so much, although they have a bright creative spark? Find out if your children are right-brain dominant.

Secret#41 The Left Brain children perform well in their studies but they are ‘Shy’. To be successful, children must be ‘Whole Brain Learners’.

Secret#40 Parents never transmit your sense of inadequacies or pains of your failures, to your children. Rather, help them live in a world of thoughts, colours, music, learning, and so on.

Secret#39 The paths of life are longer than we might think they are during moments of depression. So never think that the past and what is behind you, will be exactly mirrored in the future. It is always possible to turn over a new leaf, and live life anew, discover greener pastures and deeper sunsets, even if there were no promises of these in your past. Pass on this profound faith to your childr...

Secret#38 You don’t have to say yes to everything your children ask of you, but before saying no, understand why they are asking for something. Allow them to take some risks; They may outperform your expectations. They will understand that you trust them and not to let you down. Learn your children’s language and respect their way of thinking. That will go a long way in helping you build up a grea...

Secret#37 If you want your children to sleep right, and be more active, ensure they have exciting goals to look forward to in life..

Secret#36 Never wait for the world around to change for you. It simply means continuing in a situation in which both you and your children have no control, and wear a girdle of victim-hood. Come forward and take responsibility for what happens. Change yourself for the better. Take stock, and then take control of your life. Your children will follow.

Secret#35 As parents you should make a special effort to create a identity for yourselves by casting off your limiting beliefs. This way you can become a powerful role model for your children, who will emulate what you do.

Secret#34 Parenting is an opportunity to shape your life for the better! Remember, those little eyes are always watching you and will learn to do things exactly as you do!

Secret#33 Love your work. Or work on something you love. Your example will leave an indelible imprint on your children’s psyche. As a parent you must remember that through your children you’re building the future generation - let that generation do their work with more passion.

Secret#32 As a parent, when you scold your children about something, learn to direct your reprimand against the action or behavioural trait that you don’t like, and don’t accuse your children instead.

Secret#31 Every complete individual has learnt to give unconditionally towards the betterment of humanity. Their heart naturally goes out to the needy. The best time to offer this approach to your children is when they are very young. Give them the opportunity to donate blood. Help your Children aspire to become wonderful human beings. Show them through your actions, donating blood being one examp...

Secret#30 Both parents must take time out in order to frame the rules that would operate within the family structure, and both parents should follow these rules too. That is the way of creating a sense of fairness among the children and preclude possibilities of favouritism.

Secret#29 Be careful when you discuss your children with others. You are putting up a glass for them to be seen through. With that glass, they can't see reality. If you colour their perspective green, they will see everything in a green haze, if it's black, they will see everything as black. Do not restrict your children's lives to a uni-colour zone, do not create an artificial identit...

Secret#28 Your children will become whatever you expect of them. Your responsibility is to make sure your expectations are positive, productive und useful to their lives. If you let them know that you expect them to be untidy, lazy and bad tempered, you will have untidy, lazy & bad tempered children. If you say that they helpful, friendly and smart, you will have helpful, friendly and smart ch...

Secret#27 Get ready now to make a visit to an orphanage with your children. Spend some time with the children there. Make your children realise the gifts and blessings they have received in life. From this is born sensitivity to others, and a sense of deep humility both of which go on to make your children great human beings.