101 Secrets of Effective Parenting

Secret#76 Help your children come up with wise strategies that enable effective preparation. Whenever your children feel over-whelmed by the amount of studies, talk to them and reinforce the positive belief that they can do it. Be prepared to be there for them, and your children will be ready for their exams.

Secret#75 Help your children to read faster and consequently, better.

Secret#74 Help your children implement the right strategies to improve their memory. It will make a world of difference to their confidence levels.

Secret#73 All sense should be used in the learning process. so, help your children in this regard.

Secret#72 Help your children create the right environment, for productive hours of studying.

SECRET#71 Create in your children a mindset of 'playing to win'. Make them realise the difference. It isn't only about the skills or about being lucky, it is about the mindset. The winning mindset!

Secret#70 This is a one-liner. NEVER GIVE UP .

Secret#69 If your children want to run better in the race of life, they must learn how to think smart .

Secret#68 Your children have it in them to make the impossible, possible! So, don't be 'realistic' and decide on their behalf what is achievable and what is not!

Secret#67 An appropriate role model often suggests how dreams may be turned into reality. Help your children select a positive role model they admire and are inspired by.

Secret#66 Let your children live their dreams, and follow that path of their choice. They will undoubtedly be much happier that way, and reach great heights of creative and professional satisfaction.

Secret#65 Teach your children the powerful practice of taking responsibility for one’s own life, since that gives one the power to make changes. No blames, No Excuses, No Complaints - should be one of the favourite adages in your family.

Secret#64 Consciously cultivate those beliefs about parenthood which enable you to become a better, happier and more positive parent.

Secret#63 Whenever children fail to reach their target, you must teach them to take the results as feedback and not give up. Once they understand that failure is something that they can really learn from, they will stop making the same mistakes in future, and never be depressed by the burden of taking failure too seriously!

Secret#62 Inculcate in your children the belief that nothing is impossible and that everything can be achieved if they believe in their dreams. Having the right strategy and a strong belief will help your children turn what they thought was impossible into possible!

Secret#61 You display it as a parent, and your children will learn the secret from you.

Secret#60 Positive commands make a huge difference to your children’s behavior. Negative commands make them subconsciously think they should do what they shouldn’t do! It has nothing to do with your children, and everything to do with the words you use! Make a conscious change in your vocabulary-Weed out the negatives!

Secret#59 If you start doubting certain actions immediately after concluding them, and have passed on this behavioural pattern to your children. Don’t hold your children responsible for displaying a similar behaviour pattern. Just create a practice of associating those actions with particular events. And the problem will solve itself soon enough.

Secret#58 Whenever you find your children resist your advice or answer back, it is time for you to sit with them and share your concerns. You’ll find that their response to this truth will be one of understanding you can work out a solution together.

Secret#57 Next time you say to yourself. ‘My children can’t learn’, give it some serious thought. Remind yourself of Anne Sullivan, Helen Keller’s teacher. Never forget the fact that, every child has the capacity to learn.

Secret#56 If you shout or scream at your children as you scold them, valid as your grounds are, they may miss the real lesson you wish to impart. So, never simply scold, always give your reasons for doing so.

Secret#55 You don’t need a special reason to celebrate. The fact that you are alive right here, right now is good enough. Once you learn to celebrate life, that is the biggest gift ever, which you give to your children. Your children will learn how to celebrate life and thus live life better.

Secret#54 Help your children face unfair treatment that life will unfortunately, but invariably, give them.

Secret#53 Your children have a greater mental capacity than you give then credit for, so don’t worry unnecessarily on their behalf. Indeed, their syllabus is nothing compared to the tools they have at their command. So, do not give them the vibes that their school work and extra-curricular activities are too much for them!

Secret#52 Think about how you can be flexible enough with your children during conversations, so that they understand the message you want to convey. The response you receive from your children will clearly tell you whether you are communicating in the right way!