What People Miss

Are you wearing your crown and creating your life—or simply waiting to see what life gives you? Here’s the truth: It is your birthright to choose. To savor—not just survive. To feel—not just function. To rise—not only react. As we welcome June and prepare to honor Juneteenth, let’s recognize this holiday for more than a moment in time. Let’s use it as a mirror and a map —revealing where we’ve been...

In this conversation, Abeo Noel and I explore the multifaceted concept of self-care, emphasizing its importance in personal well-being and relationships. We discuss the necessity of recognizing one's own needs, the role of retreats in self-discovery, and the connection between self-care and pleasure. We also touch on cultural perspectives of self-care and practical tips for integrating it into dai...

Think of this episode as a blend of how you consciously and unconsciously make choices. Zai Miztiq and I were talking one day and this came up.  You get to hear our thoughts and the psychology behind why beautiful women choose ugly men. That means behavior as well as looks. I am bringing levity to mental health awareness whether you are a beautiful woman or ugly man join us 😂🥰🎉 According t...

Summary In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar discusses the often-overlooked challenges that mothers face in balancing work and family life. She highlights the emotional labor involved, the impact on self-worth, and offers practical solutions for reclaiming joy and nurturing oneself amidst the chaos of motherhood. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care, breathing techniques, and the ne...

My series on Mothers and Motherhood begins Monday on What People Miss. This week let’s be honest about Mothers and Divorce. Some women don’t want it. Some women do want it. Both groups sometimes stay bondage to the emotions of their decision and the circumstances which created it for years. What if you could not only be free of it but use the emotions as the fuel for liberation? What if you could...

In this heartfelt conversation, Renee Miller and I explore the profound themes of love, accountability, and the beauty of life. We discuss the importance of integral love, which emphasizes responsibility and empathy in our interactions. The conversation delves into the barriers that prevent a loving world, including personal struggles and societal issues. Ultimately, they highlight the power of ch...

In this engaging conversation, Cordelia Gaffar and Renee Miller explore the multifaceted nature of love, relationships, and personal growth. They discuss the importance of shadow work, effective communication in new relationships, and the role of compassion in leadership. The dialogue emphasizes the need for emotional intelligence and the impact of love blockages on personal and professional inter...

In this enlightening conversation, Cordelia Gaffar and Dr. Neema Moore delve into the often-overlooked aspects of menopause, discussing its beauty, the challenges of perimenopause, and the impact of hormonal changes on women's health. They explore the significance of community support, the effects of fibroids, and the positive transformations that can occur during this life stage. The discussion e...

Summary In this conversation, Cordelia Gaffar explores the critical differences between equity and equality, emphasizing the importance of focusing on equity to achieve fairness and justice. She discusses cultural transformation, the need to value all forms of work, the significance of financial inclusion for women, and the empowerment that comes from self-care and joy. Gaffar encourages listeners...

, "Aging has a wonderful beauty, and we should have respect for that." Have you questioned your looks? Felt judged for them? Or even avoided discussing them for fear of (fill in the blank)? Let's talk about what beauty is and is not. self awareness,  self love,  rediscovery and  the importance of recognizing the beauty within us. Introducing Dr. Chi Quita Mack, MSW: distinguished so...

Many intelligent and successful women suffer in silence with an unspoken trauma. Sometimes because they don’t acknowledge it and sometimes because it is not recognized as a REAL form of abuse.  According to https://www.womenslaw.org/👍 Emotional abuse is defined as “...mostly non-physical behaviors that the abuser uses to control, isolate, or frighten you. Often, the abuser uses it to break d...

Hi I am your host Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you love your life. I do that by showing you how to play with Intimacy. You will reveal yourself to yourself so that you can reveal yourself to those you love. Today I will present what care looks like in all areas of life: Business Career Home life Intimate relationships The distinction bet...

Hi I am your host Cordelia Gaffar, the Ultimate Joy Goddess inviting you to choose joy and pleasure so that you love your life. I do that by showing you how to play with Intimacy. You will reveal yourself to yourself so that you can reveal yourself to those you love. Would you like to help me write my next book? Starting April 14th I am offering a small group of women a six week experience called...

Have you ever been told you’re too much? Or warned not to step outside the boundaries of your industry? If you’ve ever felt boxed in or pressured to shrink yourself, this episode is your permission slip to break free. My next guest is the embodiment of living all that she is , and she’s here to inspire you to do the same. In this soul-nourishing conversation, we explore the beauty, power, and free...

Have you ever thought about how our personal stories shape our professional journeys? Tomorrow, I’m thrilled to host a new episode of my podcast, "What People Miss," featuring the incredible Sophia Lewis. We’ll dive deep into the power of telling our trauma stories and how they can serve as valuable lessons in both our personal and professional lives. Sharing our experiences can be a powerful tool...

On February 17th, President's Day 2025, I started a new precedent of celebrating brilliant Black women instead in a long form event. Listen and come back for more. The commercial breaks include a poem, a somatic movement session and with a poem by Maya Angelou and song by Sherry Burden. This episode begins with is the continuation of my conversation with Lisa N. Alexander and continues with overla...

This President’s Day, let’s set a new precedent—one that honors and amplifies the brilliance of Black women. In this special episode, I’m collaborating with four extraordinary women from around the globe to shed light on what people often miss about our existence. Through their wisdom and lived experiences, we uncover the resilience, power, and depth of Black womanhood in ways that challenge the s...

Lisa N. Alexander is the founder of the platform This Woman Knows https://thiswomanknows.com/ She so graciously stepped in for my mother guest who had to attend to her child. During our time together, we discussed luxuriating in pause, the importance of listening to your body, a new perspective on your husband resting and a little on maternal health and fibroids. Listen for what you may be missing...

In this episode, I share the definition of Joy Drive and two stories on how it can improve your life in business and personally. If you would like to reclaim your joy and experiment with joy drive, schedule a call with me https://calendly.com/theultimatejoygoddess/reclaiming-your-joy-chat She is the founder of the Workout Around My Day Inc. and has a private healing practice. She is also the two t...

Graduating from Trauma Drive  I have really been enjoying being in the subtle noticing of my ways of being. This deeper level of self-awareness is so very enriching and kind! It is intriguing how I am becoming a vortex for healing and wholeness…not just for me but for those who are drawn to me. And those who are drawn to me are the me I was six years ago deep in trauma drive. Like the things...

Karla J. Aghedo is more than an attorney, she is a trailblazer for highly accomplished women. She has created a platform, the Renew Virtual Women's Summit and retreats where you not only avoid burnout but also have a community to reinforce it as a lifestyle. In our conversation learn about her current summit happening January 6-10, 2025 and follow her on LinkedIn at Karla J. Aghedo