What People Miss

Do you know how you are contributing or taking away from your joy? What keeps you steady? What does steadiness look like? Emotional or Physical state of being? Life can is exhausting these days Enjoy this short useful podcast to create your inner joy and maintain steadiness when times get hard. For more useful tips follow me on social media @ CordeliaGaffar and for somatic guidance sign up for you...

It appears that we begin with the whole answer…believe me…there is soooo much more! There are at least five practices to implement in your marriage and relationship. Everything from healthy eating to intimacy, no stone goes unturned. The top practices that are undermining your joy and pleasure. How to create a loving space The importance of Appreciation The Distinction between Acknowledgement vs A...

You will love this nugget filled episode with Cordelia and Dr. Ben. Yes we talk about Dads but we also talk about how that relationship creates moms. What does it take to be a Terrific Dad? Tune in and find out! Dr. Binyamin Rothstein is a board-certified family physician with over 25 years of experience working with families. His career began serving as a physician in the US Army, after which he...

Most people don’t need more motivation, they need a pattern interrupt. Do you feel like you have been crawling through life lately? Here are a few ways to come back to yourself. You can’t control everything happening in the world. But you can control: what you feed your body what thoughts you keep repeating how you respond when life feels heavy That’s the shift…detachment from what you can’t contr...

Two Gratitudes, One Ingratitude while Holding Grief with Aaron Hendon Life is so not all about the good vibes only. It is about receiving bad news with permission to grieve and gratitude. The distinction is stark. When you allow yourself to grieve and be grateful for the opportunity to grieve, the bad news seems less. Now the news becomes information and proof that you are moving towards everythin...

Stillness is not the goal. If you are overwhelmed, burnt out, emotionally stuck, or quietly holding everything together, this episode challenges the idea that “calm” is the highest spiritual achievement and makes a much bolder case: be honest about your discombobulation and let yourself be held in community. Here I reframe self-nurturing as a radical act and introduce a different way to think abou...

Shame is not the price of pleasure. Cordelia Gaffar makes the case for reclaiming sexuality as a sacred, embodied practice and shows why learning to slow down, communicate, and choose joy can transform your relationships, your body, and your life. Using her own journey from marriage to divorce, from motherhood to deep self-knowledge, Cordelia challenges the morality scripts that keep people discon...

Unlock Your Power: How Pleasure, Psychedelics, Spiritual Connection Rewire Your Nervous System What if your pleasure was the key to unlocking your highest self—and the liberation of your entire nervous system? In this groundbreaking episode of What People Miss, host Cordelia Gaffar welcomes Logina Mustafa—a visionary community builder, future psychedelic with a Masters in Public Health, and expert...

In this transformative episode of *What People Miss*, host Cordelia Gaffar sits down with Logina, multicultural soul navigator, Director of Psychedelics Community and much more, for a raw, illuminating conversation about healing from emotional overwhelm, reclaiming erotic power, and remembering your authentic self through community, spirituality, and radical self-love. Logina shares her profound j...

One thing you may be missing is being replenished. You know the deep nourishing feeling within your soul. In this episode of What People Miss, I explore practical ways you can identify your inner thirst. If quenching your thirst is what you've been missing, this is the episode you have been waiting for! If this speaks to you share this with another heart, share this with another soul. If this call...

Enjoy this week’s episode “Healing and Reclamation with Dr. Lulu” Building on my conversation with my daughter, Dr. Lulu gives the Mama side of being outward facing, protecting her children against the world. Dr. Lulu (she/her), also known as Coach Udaku, is a former Lt. Col and commander in the US Air Force and a proudly disabled veteran. She is queer Nigerian immigrant pediatrician, certified li...

Episode Three: How We Heal Together This is the episode you have been waiting for! Ameenah and I sat down and talked about our healing journey together. There are some topics that might not be suitable for all audiences including but not limited to suicidal ideation, military trauma and family dysfunction. Ameenah Gaffar is the co-founder of Gaffar Enterprises LLC, a Navy veteran and the spiritual...

Many women think they're facing a permanent problem when they're actually trapped in a repetitive emotional pattern. This Juneteenth, let's talk about another kind of freedom: Freedom from the stories, reactions, and beliefs that keep ...

Juneteenth is about freedom. Freedom begins in the body. It comes from choosing savoring and choosing the thought process of who is holding me with delight. What does it feel like to be held and cherished and loved? Listen&nb...

This is the end of Season 2. It is very simple silence is and celebration can be the result. Nothing has to be a production...everything may be silently enJoyed! Listen to this episode and lean into what is silence for&n...

Economic distraction. Unworthiness. Don’t feel anything. What happens when the life you built to survive is no longer the life you want to inhabit? In this raw and reflective episode, I explore the lived reality of female-bodied&n...

We live in a world where keeping a cheerful façade feels mandatory. Social feeds are overrun with polished highlights, workplaces ask us to "stay positive," and even with close friends, venting can feel unwelcome. Underneath ...

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar delves into the often-overlooked connection between emotional neglect and physical health. Discover why your emotions are not just fleeting feelings but essential nutrition for your body and soul. Throu...

Have you ever felt like the world is telling you you’re not enough? Tag someone who needs to hear this. In this episode of Reclaiming Your Joy and Your Humanity, I open up about how easily we lose sight of real happiness in a society obsessed with buying and achieving more. We’re surrounded by messages that say joy comes from possessions—but what if genuine fulfillment is found in the stillness of...

What if your rage wasn’t something to silence—but a guide leading you toward healing and wholeness? In this deeply honest conversation, we dive into the often misunderstood emotion of rage as an opening to transformation. Together, we explore how trauma, spiritual growth, and self-awareness can turn even our darkest emotions into pathways of love, resilience, and inner power. Through personal stor...

In this juicy episode of Rooted and Embodied with Jameelah Creates , we play on the edges of aliveness, leadership, and liberation. Jameelah breaks down alignment with her now-iconic moving walkway metaphor, opens up about how suicidal ideation became a doorway back to her lineage, and exposes how food deserts are weaponized against communities while reclaiming intuitive, ancestral eating as every...

Ramadan is often seen as a sacred month only for Muslims, yet its deeper invitation is profoundly human: a chance to reset your nervous system, release emotional weight, and remember that you are safe to lead. For twenty years, I navigated a tumultuous, emotionally abusive marriage. The practice of Ramadan—fasting, reflection, and surrender—became the lifeline that helped me regulate my limbic sys...

Root. Reveal. Rise. with Embodied Visioning. Every January for the past four years The Wholeness Center has offered The Visioning Retreat virtually and in person. This year I was one of the facilitators. This episode is both a recap of this years' event from the perspective of each facilitator/ participant and one participant and an invitation to view visioning differently.  Bemene Piaro, the...

In this episode, Cordelia Gaffar invites you to stop contorting yourself to fit standards that were never made for your wholeness. Explore the hidden costs of being “palatable,” how those patterns once kept you safe, and how to transcend them through embodiment, presence, and joy. It’s time to move from surviving to savoring — from performance to authentic power. Follow Cordelia at https://cordeli...

Success has a shadow. For many successful men, it’s the quiet exhaustion that comes from constantly managing how others see you. In boardrooms, at home, and even in friendships—you’ve learned how to be “palatable.”  Charming. Strategic. Controlled. But behind that mastery lies a truth: being endlessly adaptable is slowly draining the very energy you need to live fully. When you spend years be...