Make Your Damn Bed

Toxic shame is a deep feeling of worthlessness and self-hatred often starting in childhood due to trauma or neglect. Deconstructing internalized toxic shame is an intense and overwhelming process, but it's a rewarding one. Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind . Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON . Get an occasional pe...

Analysis paralysis is a natural response to stress, but there are many ways to manage it. Respect the "thawing" process: this takes time. Ground yourself: breathing exercises, noting exercises, etc. Practice physical release: dance, shake, sing, yell, etc. Get therapeutic help: Practice healthier coping skills, uproot deeper issues. Read the PsychCentral article. Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support...

Inaction is not neutral.  I know I’m capable of great things but I am too afraid to do anything I want to do because it is easier to do nothing. It feels safer to do nothing but it’s not. Inaction is not neutral.  Just because I can’t solve every problem doesn’t mean I can’t solve any of them.  Its easy to criticize the problems and the issues and the systems even, and blame my inac...

Having a broken heart means you still have a heart. Feeling painful feelings means you can still feel. It's all part of the process of processing. "Keep my anger from becoming meanness. Keep my sorrow from collapsing into self-pity. Keep my heart soft enough to keep breaking. Keep my anger turned towards justice, not cruelty. Remind me that all of this, every bit of it, is for love. Keep me fierce...

This war is a ponzi scheme by people who use "rapture accelerationism" as a manipulation tactic. People ARE resisting, but we need to address what's really happening if we want to resist it properly. Professor Jiang's "Predictive History" Youtube . Wikipedia on Professor Jiang Xueqin Penn Live article on Jiang's predictions . Read Julie's Medium Blog . Support JULIE (and the show!) Support + get s...

"By highlighting psychological patriarchy, we see that everyone is implicated and we are freed from the misperception that men are the enemy. To end patriarchy we must challenge both its psychological and its concrete manifestations in daily life.  To end male pain, to respond effectively to male crisis, we have to name the problem. We have to both acknowledge that the problem is patriarchy a...

"No one has ever explained why accurately naming this system is funny. The laughter is itself a weapon of patriarchal terrorism. It functions as a disclaimer, discounting the significance of what is being named. It suggests that the words themselves are problematic and not the system they describe." - bell hooks Read the bell hooks work: understanding patriarchy . Read Julie's Medium Blog . Suppor...

Patriarchy is the single most life-threatening social disease assaulting the male body and spirit in our nation. Yet most men do not use the word “patriarchy” in everyday life. - bell hooks By highlighting psychological patriarchy, we see that everyone is implicated and we are freed from the misperception that men are the enemy. To end patriarchy we must challenge both its psychological and its co...

There is a tendency to think that what we see in the present moment will continue. We forget how often we have been astonished by the sudden crumbling of institutions, by extraordinary changes in people’s thoughts, by unexpected eruptions of rebellion against tyrannies, by the quick collapse of systems of power that seemed invincible. What leaps out from the history of the past hundred years is it...

"We're all losers until we win." - Astra Taylor "Change itself becomes invisible when your timeframe is shorter than that change and the short term view breeds defeatism and despair... The short term view breeds incomprehension and ineffectuality." - Rebecca Solnit Rebecca Solnit's blog + newsletter: https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/ Rebecca Solnit's Books: https://www.rebeccasolnit.net/bo...

The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing that. Hopefully working through the zine will help you to figure out your own emotional landscape (which feelings you tend to prefer, and which you tend to avoid). It’ll also give you several possible practices for learning to stay with your f...

The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing that. Hopefully working through the zine will help you to figure out your own emotional landscape (which feelings you tend to prefer, and which you tend to avoid). It’ll also give you several possible practices for learning to stay with your f...

The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing that. Hopefully working through the zine will help you to figure out your own emotional landscape (which feelings you tend to prefer, and which you tend to avoid). It’ll also give you several possible practices for learning to stay with your f...

The source: Feel your feelings "This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing that. Hopefully working through the zine will help you to figure out your own emotional landscape (which feelings you tend to prefer, and which you tend to avoid). It’ll also give you several possible practices for learning to stay with your f...

Every group is different, shaped by local needs, but all share common goals: ecological justice, boosting local economies, and strengthening community connections.  The resource: Small Practical Project Ideas And: https://transitionnetwork.org/ Read Julie's Medium Blog . SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!) DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund GET AN OCCASIONAL...

title credit: Alkaline Trio or read today's episode, here . The only thing that has helped me to stop doom scrolling was remembering that worst people in the world want me to doom scroll. We've become inundated and confused and overwhelmed and scared. And that's by design. They're banking on us disconnecting. They've invested a lot in forcing us to tap out. I don't like people telling me what to d...

"Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car. Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity. Easy to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad, You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself." - @CryptoSeneca Red Balloon Post on Tumblr Mary Oliver 's poem: Don't Hesitate Priming on very well mind: https://www.very...

What is the most you'd pay for lunch? What about baby formula? What about an uber home when your battery is on 1%? Those numbers will be different depending on your mood, location, and personality. Dynamic Pricing is a way for companies to exploit us out of the most possible money, by creating a personalized "profile" they can use to manipulate you into more profits. This is a form of priming that...

How do you naturally prime yourself for your day? Brushing your teeth to feel refreshed, playing hype music to get in a better mood, opening windows to let in fresh air. These are all forms of priming that affect how our mind feels going into things. We associate familiarity with ease. What do we do when people use priming with negative intentions? "Start by cultivating environmental awareness. Lo...

“The world makes much less sense than you think. The coherence comes mostly from the way your mind works.” - Daniel Kahneman, Thinking Fast and Slow Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092 Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38 Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/754...

Priming is not some all-powerful button that can reliably control someone's complex actions. Instead, they are small nudges that interact with a person's existing goals, personality, and environment. - Madeupmind.org on priming Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092 Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38 P...

shame thrives in secrecy. sometimes just recognizing your shame arising is enough to stop it, but when that isn't enough? maybe you need a break. grounding exercises have changed my life. sometimes i really just needed a sandwich or a nap. but when noticing + grounding isn't enough? there's the art of priming. Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-me...

YOU DON’T HAVE TO READ THE FILES. There are plenty of people pulling all nighters with this shit for their actual job, you (likely) don’t have to. You can’t retroactively stop these crimes by learning about them. Also, this has been one of the biggest assaults on victims privacy in history, the reductions protect the criminals, not the victims. You don’t have to fucking read them. If you’re going...

(Content warning) The whole point of patriarchy is to dominate. To exert power over the powerless. To brutalize people to the point of submission. Imperialism, colonialism, slavery… These things were never about having enough resources to survive, as the dirty ass settlers and hideous ass enslavers tended to have plenty of means. Hierarchy will always result in someone being on top, and someone be...

"The Working Class Uprising They Don't Teach You About" - Herman Husband Watch the original PBS Origins episode of Rebels + Revolutionaries Donate to support your local PBS station . Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog . SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!) DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodca...