Make Your Damn Bed

Some more lessons for ya: You’re not doing worse than anyone. We never know where people had leg-ups, and we never know what invisible struggles people are experiencing. Focus on keeping you driveway clean and don’t worry about what’s happening on the other side of the street.  People’s responses to your boundaries, wants, needs, values, etc. say more about them than you. But the same goes fo...

My list continued: 16.Giving yourself the love/attention/value you seek from others is the key to being open to actually receiving the love you seek. 17. People show love in many different ways . At some point, we have to understand that just because someone isn’t capable of communicating love in a healthy way doesn’t mean they don’t love you. But it also doesn’t mean you have to put up with...

My list continued: 11. You don’t need to work so hard to be “liked”. Protect your peace, set appropriate boundaries, say no, but be kind + vulnerable + honest. The best people can see authenticity. The best way to be a crowd pleaser is not to be a people pleaser. It’s not your job to “fix” everything. 12. Leave shit better than you found it. Taking our time to respect the spaces we are intera...

THINGS I WISH I LEARNED SOONER You get one body. You get one mind. You get one round at this life . . You are not your thoughts. Your reality isn’t the only reality. Change your perspective, change your experience. Slow the fuck down . They aren’t mad at you. Nobody is paying attention to you as closely as you think they are. You are not unlovable. You are a badass human. You have had positive imp...

Question: What happens when I ask a robot to do my job? Answer: [Intro music plays] Host: Welcome to the "Make Your Damn Bed" podcast, where we talk about the importance of starting your day with a simple yet powerful habit of making your bed. [In-depth sound effect] Host: Today, we are going to discuss why making your bed is not just a simple task but a key to success. Our guest today is a renown...

Stutz says you need to understand the three Aspects of Reality that no one — really,  no one — can avoid. Those three aspects are  Pain ,  Uncertainty and  Constant Work .  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAG...

Stutz says his Tools “turn problems [in]to possibilities,” and give people the propulsive feeling that they can make big changes. In practice, the Tools are visualization exercises. In  Stutz , each Tool is accompanied by cards with hand-drawn illustrations that, according to Stutz, render even the biggest, most complicated concepts into something manageable.  WATCH : www.youtube.co...

gamifying things rocks. set timers, reward systems, get accountability partners, buy yourself treats - but don’t get too competitive at the expense of the goal of the gamification.   WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR CO...

There are so many times a day that I find myself wanting to do a thing but unable to make myself actually get up to do the thing. And it’s frustrating as hell.  When this happens, sometimes I benefit from making the thing as simple and accessible and cut and dry as possible.  Other times, though, I prefer the opposite. I find that when I make things a whole ass event - it makes doing the...

You are a beautiful collage of all of the things you've witnessed and experienced over your lifetime. You're unique. One of a kind. But if you're not feeling "aligned" there are ways to unlearn and relearn that can change the game for ya. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-another-name-for-pain/202212/stop-looking-for-your-authentic-self  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemeric...

To hack "group flow" there are a variety of factors that come into play. We must be have clear goals, communicate effectively, feel a sense of challenge but not overwhelm, share the stage with our egos, promote a "yes, and" energy, and solid participation. Today, I break that down for ya. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/char...

merging action + awareness is the best way to improve our access to flow. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-you...

Researchers define flow as an “optimal state of consciousness,” a peak state where we feel our best and perform our best. Here are some ways to hack that sh*t. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mind https://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: ww...

By checking in with yourself - you can be confident, even in the suffering, that you’re on the right path + doing the best you can. The idea of “Living up to your full potential” is bull shit. You’re already doing that. The thing is - if you want to “live your best life” “no regrets” this bitch, you’re gonna have to get real with what you actually think would fulfill you in the end.  And reme...

Ben-Shahar says that often people who experience the arrival fallacy start off unhappy, and reach for a goal that is supposed to cure their  sadness . When they find that success doesn’t fix their unhappiness, not only are they disappointed, but may end up feeling hopeless and depressed. Often, the arrival fallacy only makes unhappiness and mental states worse. RESOURCES: https://www.verywell...

Things to say to someone experiencing anxiety: I love you, I'm here for ya, you can vent to me but you definitely don't have to explain yourself, I understand, this is hard but I believe in you, take all the time you need, it's okay to feel like shit, you're not a burden, you're doing a great job, I'm sorry you're experiencing this shit, it makes sense you feel this way, how can I support you when...

Sit for a second, imagine your dream partner looking you in your eyes and telling you allll that shit you wanna hear. Literally what would they say to you and make you feel seen and heard and valued and loved. Now open your eyes look in the mirror and say that shit to yourself. “One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from...

Perks of being a cry-baby: activates parasympathetic nervous system (chilling us out), releases stress hormones, releases pain duller hormones, helps identify our values, helps us process experiences, restores our emotional equilibrium, can encourage connection. RESOURCES: https://steptohealth.com/reasons-why-its-good-to-cry/ https://www.clevelandeyeclinic.com/2022/10/05/three-types-of-tears/ http...

Our brain is designed to make shit easier and easier until it’s no longer taking up much brain power at all. Our brain loves boredom. Boredom means safety. Safety means ease. Ease means peace. Brains love that shit.  I think it’s normal to get bored with life, but the fact of the matter is - I have access to the beauty of the world in High definition from the comfort of my couch in a few clic...

For me, I still sometimes struggle with the idea of seeing to make sure I am being “useful” in order to be and feel valued. By ensuring others are happy, I can control the energy and environment AND feel like I’m doing important work. Unlearning my fear of not being productive helped me delineate between helping people for altruistic reasons and helping people as a way to avoid potential conflict...

The best strategy to ensure I’m not people pleasing and I’m simply “pleasing people” that I’ve found for me is: Forcing myself to take a minute to think before doing pretty much anything. I’m a mover and a shaker. I see a need, I fill a need. I like fixing. But the problem is, I can sometimes commit to things WAY before being ready. Or I can start fixing things that weren’t my issues to fix. Takin...

some ways to get started: chunk it into smaller segments, start right now (1, 2, 3 method), reward systems, accountability systems, habit stack, dopamine pair, reframe "have to" to "choose to", body doubling (have a friend sit with you), do a "bad" job on purpose.  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic....

hi cutie, you been hydrating + eating + moving for fun? i love ya.  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast This show i...

I could have every sign point to soul mate and deep down I’d without a doubt, have some doubts. Because here’s the thing - as a society we expect people to know who we want to be FOREVER by 18, and who we want to be with FOREVER by 30? I’m sorry but if - all witches willing - we live a long and beautiful life, you’d like me to commit over half of it despite only being alive for a quarter of it?? T...

Sometimes it feels like I'm dipping my toes into several ponds at once - and sometimes... that works for me. Other times, however, I thrive in a bit of structure. Routine is something I rarely seek out, but daggone it's valuable as hell for us neuro-spicy types.  WATCH : www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.co...