Make Your Damn Bed

Our language matters, but what happens when the only language we have is negative? RESOURCES : https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/where-did-spinster-and-bachelor-come-180964879/ and https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220405-single-shaming-why-people-jump-to-judge-the-un-partnered https://www.slice.ca/what-is-the-origin-of-the-spinster-how-society-villainized-the-single-woman/ and WATCH:...

Less than a week ago I begged for more optimistic content and now I'm delivering with an incredible listener suggestion (and a terrifyingly good algorithm). RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Solarpunk WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN O...

Do you workout better in a class? Or write more in a cafe vs. alone? If so, you may benefit from body doubling - or having someone sit with you to motivate you while you do a task you've been putting off. RESOURCES : https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/body-double-adhd WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CON...

People-pleasing can be manipulative because it involves trying to control how others perceive and behave towards us.  RESOURCES : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201704/are-you-being-manipulated WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A R...

To me, this idea that your brain can FULLY convince your body a fake treatment is the real thing is pretty fucking magical. Of course, it’s not magic and nothing is a cure-all. But that doesn't mean we shouldn’t stack the deck for ourselves as much as we can as often as we can. Improving the connection between our body and mind is a beautiful place to start as long as we remember that Pl...

Bee bonus fun fact: Melittin — found in the venom of honey bees — may prevent HIV. It’s also known that the substance can relieve pain in people who have rheumatoid arthritis. (I found this one after I recorded and wanted to include it) RESOURCES : https://www.nwf.org/Educational-Resources/Wildlife-Guide/Invertebrates/Bees https://beemission.com/blogs/news/22-amazing-facts-about-bees https://petpe...

What if we practice radical acceptance through a healthy detachment to OUTCOMES so we could stay present and grateful for the present moment without dreading the "what if's" and "when will's" RESOURCES : https://stevenkharper.com/thiscupIsalreadybroken.html + https://www.marlaneainsworth.com/post/the-cup-is-already-broken + https://jackkornfield.com/the-wisdom-of-insecurity/ WATCH: www.youtube.com...

So next time your favorite metaphorical sweater rips on ya, maybe not all is lost + we can embrace the imperfections and our time we spent in it. “There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” ~ Leonard Cohen   RESOURCES : https://visiblemending.com/ + https://www.bhg.com/decorating/do-it-yourself/fabric-paper-projects/visible-mending-basics/ + https://en.wikipedia.o...

misery flourishes in company - but so does joy.  Pity parties are meant to be short-lived. Eventually, you’ll need to start recognizing your victimhood in conjunction with your confidence. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to constantly be productive to heal, but you do need to make space for positive action if you want to get out of the rut that pity parties can often lead us into. It...

Accessibility is a human right. Resources : https://universaldesign.org/definition and https://www.washington.edu/doit/universal-design-process-principles-and-applications and https://accessibility.umn.edu/importance-accessibility/impact-people-disabilities WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.insta...

Turns out, there's evidence that physical shaking can release tension and stored trauma. TRE is a formal strategy but there are plenty of ways to improve our relaxation through intentional release methods. RESOURCES: https://traumaprevention.com/what-is-tre/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.inst...

This really does... change everything - if we let it. RESOURCES : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_Changes_Everything_(book) WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and...

Listen, I like Black Mirror as much as the next guy but DAMN I am ready for a clear vision of the future with a sense of hope and optimism. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast The opinions expressed by Juli...

What gets me the most fired up about Greta's work is how ANGRY she makes these corporations, because she's winning. Greta Thunberg is an inspirational reminder we all are capable of major change + we can take action now, where we are, with what we have. Mobilize, take action, and don't be afraid of criticism from the bad guys. RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greta_Thunberg and https://www...

To prevent thrashing in both humans and computers, it is important to prioritize tasks, manage resources effectively, and reduce unnecessary overhead. By focusing on the most important tasks, breaking down large tasks into smaller, more manageable ones, and reducing distractions, both humans and computers can stay productive and efficient. RESOURCE : https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thrashing_(comput...

Laughter can have many benefits for both your physical and mental health including: reducing stress, boosting immune system, relieving pain, improving mood, enhancing social connections, and our cardiovascular health. RESOURCES: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.htm https://online.uwa.edu/news/benefits-of-smiling-and-laughter/ https://www.cnn.com/2021/0...

TW: Grief + pet loss (damn it) RESOURCES : https://www.cnn.com/2021/09/12/health/five-stages-of-grief-kubler-ross-meaning-wellness/index.html and https://www.verywellmind.com/five-stages-of-grief-4175361 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PAT...

Many of our natural responses are maladaptive. Though, they are here to protect we must be conscious of how they affect. SOME RESOURCES : https://www.huffpost.com/entry/anxiety-good-things_l_5ca78fc1e4b047edf959e2fe WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657 T...

The backwards law can be helpful to keep in mind when we're "desiring" something so intensely that we actually create "resistance". The key to being happy is discovering it naturally, rather than looking for it. SOME RESOURCES : https://aspiringfemale.com/what-is-the-backwards-law-understanding-the-paradox/ and https://www.theknowledge.io/the-backwards-law/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A...

This is my final collection of thoughts on becoming an influencer. It makes sense we're all spoon fed the aesthetic/proactive/positive side of things and that means a lot of reality is lost to "behind the scenes" footage that is never shown. So, let's talk about nuance, today! SOME RESOURCES : https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/well/family/child-social-media-use.html https://medium.com/to-the-pxin...

The reality is, all the good shit that makes us want to become famous influencers is really good - but all the bad shit is really bad. So, be realistic + find your "why" before you get lost in the sauce of the "social media" trap. SOME RESOURCES : https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/well/family/child-social-media-use.html https://medium.com/to-the-pxint/the-problem-with-influencer-culture-in-2020-5...

HELLO CUTIE! I HAVE MISSED YOU SO MUCH. Today we're talking about the sexy siren song of the influencer culture + why it's not all sunshine and rainbows. RESOURCE : https://www.cbsnews.com/news/social-media-influencers-86-of-young-americans-want-to-become-one/ WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/sto...

Automatic Negative Thoughts are common reasons we get stuck in negative loops - to get out, we have to address where our thoughts are working against us, rather than for us. RESOURCE: https://www.mindwell-leeds.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Automatic-Negative-Thoughts-ANTs-and-unhelpful-thinking-styles-Accessible.pdf WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourda...

My pup is getting old and DAMN it's been tough to watch her change. I am having to address my ability to let others struggle for their own wellbeing - because I have a tendency to interject and "help" simply because I am uncomfortable watching others struggle. We're all learning, though. Also, don't be afraid to be the neighbor that checks in - even when it's a painful check. You never know how po...

"While spiritual bypassing may be less harmful than some other coping mechanisms, it can still lead to negative outcomes that hurt an individual’s ability to grow as a person and fulfill their potential. It can stifle emotional development and even stand in the way of fully realized spirituality." RESOURCE : https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-spiritual-bypassing-5081640 WATCH: www.youtube.com/ju...