Make Your Damn Bed

Women have been chronically left out of important conversations for generations, but the science community is finally putting some effort into studying ADHD and the effects of a late-stage diagnosis. Today, I highlight a few of those.  RESOURCES : https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7422602/ https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autism https://www.therapyden....

key to challenging negative core beliefs is to start by identifying them, so we can understand them and critique them for their inconsistencies or harmful perpetuation of behaviors. Uncovering the hidden influences can help us remember our power against their impact! RESOURCES + LINKS: https://positivepsychology.com/socratic-questioning/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com T...

when we make assumptions, we are living within the walls of those assumptions. when we choose black and white, all or nothing thinking, we don’t account for the magic that lies in the color, and the gray. these deeply rooted interpretation of ourselves cause us to assume things are true when often they are not, but they also limit us to the (often bleak) filter we’ve been interpreting the wor...

For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the world around us, but because we’ve carried this narrator with us our entire lives, it can be hard to tell which stories are actually fiction, and it can be even more difficult to remem...

Weaponized incompetence refers to the deliberate use of ignorance, incompetence, or lack of skill in a relationship as a manipulative tactic to avoid responsibility, gain control, or shift blame onto the other person. This form of manipulation can be harmful and destructive to the dynamics of a relationship, leading to frustration, resentment, and a lack of trust. Understanding how weaponized inco...

balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental loa...

balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental loa...

fair play method by eve rodsky is a badass way to approach the imbalance of cognitive labor that needs to keep a household running. It may be hard to ask others to contribute, but if they're able - they should be pulling their weight. and addressing it doesn't have to be a conflict, with the right approach. RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and https://camilles...

there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INST...

there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INST...

Emma Clit is ridiculously talented and everything I've consumed so far has been great and on brand, so I highly suggest going to check out her blog! LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MY...

Today we're talking about the Baader Meinhof Phenomenon (the tendency to notice something more after noticing it the first time, leading us to believe we're seeing it more frequently) and why learning about the mental load can be painful if we're not careful. LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/09/managing-the-hidden-stress-of-emotional-lab...

The mental load (aka emotional load or cognitive labor or worry work) is the invisible labor that it takes to manage a household and if it's not going unnoticed, it's being undervalued. Recognizing when we're taking on more than our fair share of the emotional/mental burden is the first step in recognizing why we're so exhausted, but then we need to do something about it... so it doesn't eat us al...

TW: mention of ED, diet culture, and poor body image. Lately, I've been in denial about aging and as a result, I've let my "self care" fall to shit. That includes eating vegetables, fruits, and moving (at all). But I'm figuring it out. One day at a time. In the meantime, I'm figuring out how to deal with the shame. GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR...

The term “quiet quitting” refers to employees who put no more effort into their jobs than absolutely necessary. LINKS : https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/23/style/quiet-quitting-tiktok.html and https://www.investopedia.com/what-is-quiet-quitting-6743910 GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + T...

Work, as we know it, its a recent construct. We must begin to think RADICALLY about the nuclear family and how we structure our lives and our goals and our sense of internal fulfillment. We’ve shaped our lives around work, and we must de-center the toxicity of work culture as a society if we want to escape it. If we decenter work we can prioritize communal spaces and sharing culture and the common...

We've been indoctrinated to associate self worth with work ethic and alternatives have been suppressed and mocked for generations, but it's time we listen to the humanitarians and scholars who have been doing the work, so we can all have a better relationship with work. LINKS : https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs and https://en.wikipedia....

We MUST start prioritizing people over profits, but systemic changes are huge (and uncomfortable) however necessary bc the way it is now is uncomfortable unfair, unsustainable.  It starts with imagination, because the people in charge of what we see and consume have a vested interest in keeping the status quo. So, it’s hard to imagine a future not dictated over growth/profits over it’s p...

critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.  RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://...

critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.  RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://...

critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.  RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://...

She ain’t perfect, but I’ve started to come around to the gal. And like everything else, Barbie shows me that many things can be true at once. It also shows me that revolution can happen in big ways but it has been coming a long time in many small ways - AND when we can make an example of our revolutionary heroes before us, and assess them for the negative impacts they had, THAT on it’s own, is pr...

playing with dolls can improve social skills and empathy, according to neuroscience. RESOURCES: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jenniferpalumbo/2022/02/08/how-a-new-study-shows-benefits-of-doll-play-through-neuroscience/ AND https://corporate.mattel.com/news/latest-findings-doll-play-prompts-children-to-talk-about-others-thoughts-and-emotions GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com...

barbie has been both a feminist and an anti-feminist icon for decades. today, we dig into her impressive (and less impressive) marks on history. RESOURCES: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/culture/entertainment/a44129282/barbie-real-history/ and https://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2023-07-16/barbie-movie-feminism-doll-greta-gerwig-margot-robbie-ryan-gosling-mattel and https://www.britannica.com/...

(sorry for my head cold) but I wanna support the industry for doing the damn work! RESOURCES: https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/business/business-news/writers-guild-actors-equity-sag-aftra-solidarity-1235535821/ and https://www.wgacontract2023.org/take-action/stand-with-writers and https://www.sagaftrastrike.org/stand-with-us and https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-wga-writer-strike GET A...