It's Only In Trying

Send us Fan Mail Wake up. Coffee. Work. Dinner. Couch. Repeat. Then one day you look up and two years are gone. When a friend texted me about the monotony of everyday life, my brain ran straight off a cliff: broccoli, workouts, “do more with less,” the couch shame spiral, and a full moon parked over my house laughing at me. In this episode, we look at why routine makes time disappear, why your cou...

Send us Fan Mail Good grades, college, law school, married, a baby. I did it all right, and in the right order. And then I got divorced. This week: why the pressure to be perfect keeps growing (and where it’s really coming from), why the mess you’re hiding probably looks like courage to everyone else, and what happens when you stop living for what you’re “supposed” to want. Plus a line from Steven...

Send us Fan Mail It happened again. You’ve explained it a million times — where the spreadsheet lives, how to load the dishwasher so the straws don’t melt — and they still don’t listen. Then the one time you say it bluntly, suddenly you’re the mean one. This week: why “put yourself in their shoes” doesn’t work as well as we think, what actually does, and how to repair things without rolling over....

Send us Fan Mail A friend told me I need to brag about myself more, so here goes: I got into the first cohort of the MasterClass Executive Program with Chicago Booth, and last weekend I met my fellow cohort members in person. What made that room so different? Everyone was in "yes, and" mode. Today's about what happens when you lead with "yes, and" for the people around you...

Send us Fan Mail You can't see a bubble from the inside. At a recent conference, one manager said what was true on the ground, and I realized my "table stakes" weren't everyone's. This week: the curse of knowledge, why good ideas often start in someone else's room, and one question to ask a person whose day looks nothing like yours.  Burt, R. S. (2004). Structural hol...

Send us Fan Mail Kelsey asked for a podcast about how much I love her, so here it is. This week's about why saying "I love you" once was never going to be enough — and why the Twinkies you randomly bought your friend at the grocery store might matter more than you think. Turns out there's actual research behind both the saying it often part and the saying it specific part, and...

Send us Fan Mail So many people are doing "the most" these days... And it makes me feel like I should be, too. But, today, I talk about why "the most" is actually the worst. You are on track - despite what Instagram tells you. Let's get into why today! Habit formation timeline: Lally, P., Van Jaarsveld, C. H. M., Potts, H. W. W., & Wardle, J. (2010). How are habits for...

Send us Fan Mail Stop wasting all of your good advice on everyone else. Let's figure out how to take a step back and save some of that sage wisdom for ourselves. Grossmann, I., & Kross, E. (2014). Exploring Solomon's paradox: Self-distancing eliminates the self-other asymmetry in wise reasoning about close relationships in younger and older adults. Psychological Science, 25 (8), 1571...

Send us Fan Mail When we find a reason to respect people, even the ones we actively dislike, we allow ourselves to clear that mental clutter and, in turn, make ourselves more likable. A couple of awesome people referenced today: Curtis, R. C., & Miller, K. (1986). Believing another likes or dislikes you: Behaviors making the beliefs come true. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 51 (...

Send us Fan Mail We all love a story with a good ending. Facts. But the middle is where the action is. It's where growth and life happens. It's also the best part of any great story. Don't be afraid to share during this epic part of your life's journey. Don't wait until the end to enoy it. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Being clear with yourself on what you actually need, want, or feel, is the most radical form of kindness. The expert actually mean that you should provide clarity as a form of kindness to others, but, I'm selfish and want to apply everything to myself first. Wow, I'm already being so kind to myself. Enjoy! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail The stoics said it first - Nothing in life is wasted, unless you waste it. But knowing this now and applying this wisdom to the small hiccups in life may actually be where the real power of this message lies. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail I've become really proud of my scars. I want everyone else to see them, too. Thank you, Katie Clarke. Message received. Katie Clarke - YouTube https://youtu.be/W4E0DOa0pY4?si=T_Odo6BqGRXr03gu Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Fear is bs. And maybe all we have to do is give ourselves a bucket of small examples of why that is true, in order to get to the good stuff. Grab a bucket, babes. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Is my voice me? Am I my voice? What is it and how do I discover and translate it across all aspects of my life? I am starting a new journey to discover just that. Come with me. I hope you find ways to uncover your real voice, too. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Minimum Viable Product (MVP) is not just a concept for entrepreneurs. And, it doesn't just have to be applied to products or physical items. What if we use the concept of MVP to start implementing concepts or bringing new pieces of ourselves to work? Start with the smallest possible, viable concept, implement, and see how it goes. Maybe it will help us all get "unstuck&q...

Send us Fan Mail Most of us have to go to work every day. Super big bummer. But maybe a better way through, is to look for the moments in your day that light you up or make you feel more connected with your other fearless 9-5 warriors. What lights you up at work? Let me know! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail The current battle between bringing my authentic self to work and conforming with current "work place" standards of conduct is real. How can we balance this call for authenticity with outdated norms that are still pervasive in corporate culture? I don't have the answers. But maybe the first step is dropping a draw 2 card on top of a draw 2 card. Uno fans unite? Supp...

Send us Fan Mail Life lessons go down a lot smoother when they are delivered with a laugh. In this episode I talk about how a re-watch of an incredible TV show actually ended up slapping me in the face with a perfect life lesson. Enjoy! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Participation in life can be painful, but it is also what can bring us the most joy. Don't be afraid to take the bad with the good. Enjoy! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail I'm not sure how to fit everything in that I want to get done... But here are my thoughts on a few steps to give it a shot. Let's work on it together. If you agree, let me know... Or let me know if anything has helped you start moving. There is some curing in this episode. Mostly about Debbie... But you'll hear more about her in this episode. Enjoy! Support the show

Send us Fan Mail It is ok to feel broken. And it is ok to reach out for help. We are not doing this alone. I promise. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Manifesting isn't magic, even if that's what it feels like. My opinion? It's only three steps. Steps I know you can take. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Creativity. Don't let it slip away from you. Look for ways to engage in the world around you through new hobbies and activities. Let those hobbies bring back your creative side. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Thank you to the ones that see us. You are the ones that give us the moments in which we can be ourselves - unique wounds and all. Support the show