Igbo, Queer, and Unfiltered

Making an impact, remembering, and standing up for your beliefs are all important aspects of legacy; it's not just about money, properties, or children.

This one is for all queer individuals who have ever been told that their body is dirty, their touch is shameful, or their intimacy is immoral. It is also for those who understand that desire is not a sign of weakness, but rather a source of power.

This is dedicated to all the queer people who have been told to keep quiet, not to bring shame to their families, and to shrink. 

This episode is dedicated to those who have been told that their body is evidence of God's rejection that their love is a curse, and that their queerness is evidence of sin.

This episode is for queer Africans whose lives are talked about like theories instead of facts in schools, churches, on Twitter, and over family dinners.

While family is meant to be your first home, for many queer Africans, it is also the first place where they feel silenced, erased, or threatened. This episode is for all queer people who understand that sometimes the deepest wounds come from your biological family rather than strangers.

We're going to jump right into one of the most exhausting things that queer people have to deal with: being asked to explain ourselves all the time. This can come from homophobic uncles at family gatherings or random strangers.

This one's for all the queer Africans who were told to tone it down so they could fit in. This one is also for everyone who hid pictures of themselves, changed their voice, and didn't talk at family gatherings because they thought that would keep them safe. Respectability politics are control, not protection. They don't stop violence, rejection, or gossip; they just make it easier to erase you. Th...

This is meant for LGBTQIA+ Africans, who have been told that their existence is unimportant and that it comes from the West. It is for people who know what their rights are and won't give in any more. African governments, religious groups, and traditional gatekeepers don't dislike queer people because they think we are immoral; they dislike us because we can't be controlled, don't apologize, and c...

This one is for all the queer people who were told to be quiet, turn down their light, or wait for permission to shine. This is for people who have been through enough pain and finally chose joy as a way to fight back.

This episode is for all queer Africans and queer people of African descent who have been told that being silent equates to being respectful and that your presence, your love, and your life must be “private” to be accepted. Silence is not culture; it is control; it is shame masquerading as tradition; and it is erasing us.

This episode is for all queer individuals who have been told that they are a disgrace to their lineage, as well as for those who are being silenced, mocked, or erased for simply existing. This is also intended for individuals who have heard that homosexuality is not African.

This is for all queer individuals who have been told that their pain is too loud, their truth is too inconvenient, or their presence is too much. It is also for those who have witnessed fake "allies" disappear when the hate begins to creep in. Your silence when queer people are being harassed, deleted, misrepresented, or taken down says a lot. You can't be a part of our culture, style, and brillia...

We discuss the experience of losing the first home one has ever known, and the subsequent need to rebuild oneself from the ground up. This episode is not about pity; it is about presence. It is about demonstrating one's full presence in the face of loss, in a stylish, wounded, tender, and proud manner.#GriefAndQueerness #QueerAndUnbothered #GayIgboVoices #BlackQueerHealing #UnspokenFunerals #AfroQ...

This episode is for people who have felt bad about slowing down, who have been physically worn out by survival, and who are ready to see ease as a right instead of a reward. To rest is not to be lazy. Rest is what they never wanted us to have. It's about what it's like for queer people when everyone expects them to perform, prove, and produce just to be tolerated. We're told we need to be quiet to...

This is about the experience queer people have when those who raised them, prayed for them, or told them they loved them also make them feel unsafe. We are taught that family is vital, even if it means we have to shrink to fit in. If you've ever had to make emotional exits, rethink what home means, or remember that love should never need you to be quiet, this episode is for you.#QueerAndUnfiltered...

Being truly present, whether at work or in a creative setting, often means doing emotional work, choosing to be quiet, and always balancing the need to be safe and the need to be seen. This conversation is about survival, yes, but also about reclaiming joy, setting boundaries, and showing up with intention, even when it’s complicated. This episode is for all queer people who have had to hide their...

This episode explores what it's like to be a queer African in a world that always asks you to choose between visibility and safety. Being out comes with risks, both emotional and cultural, and sometimes physical. But hiding also comes with a cost. Queerness is still valid, no matter how you live. This is a reminder that pride can be loud and soft at the same time. This episode is for anyone who wa...

This is a conversation about what it means to love, be wanted, and connect as a queer African who has survived shame, silence, and secrecy. Anyone who is learning to love without apologies or guilt will benefit from this episode. #QueerAndUnfiltered #LovingOutLoud #QueerIntimacy #DesireWithoutShame #QueerHealing #LGBTQIANigeria #AfroQueerVoices #UnapologeticallyQueer #QueerLove #ComingHomeToYourse...

This episode is about how softness, rest, and care are radical acts for queer Nigerians, Africans, and members of the diaspora. Many of us were taught to be strong, quiet, and cautious just to survive. This is for anyone who wants to get rid of their shame, guilt, and fear about caring for themselves. It is a reminder that you deserve softness because you exist.#SoftnessIsSurvival #QueerAndUnfilte...

This episode is a love letter to the people who chose us and became our family when our biological family rejected us. When our biological families fail us, we find home in those who love us as we are without conditions, and we talk about what a chosen family means. This episode is for anyone who is building their own version of a family. It’s for queer Nigerians and Africans who are now writing n...

This episode talks about the complicated relationship between queerness and faith. Many of us were taught that our queerness was something to hide, fear, or pray away. But what happens when we start to regain our spirituality outside of shame, silence, and survival? We look at how religion has hurt people, how colonial interpretations of faith were used to justify homophobia, and how queer pe...

This episode explores the daily reality of code switching as a queer person in unsafe, unfriendly, or judgmental spaces. Many of us are constantly changing how we talk, dress, and show up to feel safe or accepted. Code switching may be rooted in survival, but it can often leave us feeling broken and exhausted. This episode is for anyone who has ever had to dim their light to stay safe, or who...

This episode elaborates on the process of learning to accept one's queer identity with confidence and pride. Homophobia can keep us from loving ourselves fully because of self-doubt and the heavy influence of culture, religion, and society. We look at what it looks like to let go of shame, change negative stories, and step into our truth without apologizing. This episode is for anyone wh...

This episode discusses the importance of financial independence for LGBTQIA+ individuals, especially in societies where queer people face job discrimination, family rejection, and limited opportunities. This episode also shares steps queer people can take to build financial stability, security, and safety. Money is not just about wealth, it is about freedom, protection, and the ability to liv...