Built, Not Broken

Today we discussed how prevalent our intrusive thoughts are, especially negative or destructive ones. Having "bad" thoughts is completely normal but it is important that we acknowledge them and talk through them because through that we take away their power. If you are stuck feeling ashamed of these thoughts, know that you are not alone, and listen to learn how to not let them win.

Some moments come and go. Others change who you are. In this episode, we talk about the defining moments that shape our lives, inspired by The Power of Moments by Chip and Dan Heath. We get into major transitions, milestones worth celebrating, the “pits” that test us, and the people who show up when we need them most. We also explore the four things that can make a moment powerful - elevation, ins...

Max hasn't found his purpose, while Matt lives his out wholeheartedly every single day. Do we need a purpose, or is it just unnecessary pressure to one day find it? Can your purpose change as you grow, and can living out your passions help you find yours? support@built-notbroken.com

We have been up to a lot since we've last been here, and want to catch you all up on some big life moments. We appoligize for being absent but are as excited as ever to be back.

Giving back isn’t just about helping others, it changes you too. In this episode, we talk about the importance of giving back and being part of something bigger than yourself. With Matt participating in Dancing For Special Stars , we get into what the experience has been like, what it’s taught him, and why more people should find ways to get involved in their communities. We also break down why gi...

You can have everything and still feel empty. We talk about what actually makes a life feel full, why people confuse success with fulfillment, and what really matters at the end of the day.

he more you think, the more stuck you get. In this episode, we talk about overthinking — what it looks like, why it happens, and how it keeps people from taking action. We break down the difference between thinking and doing, how your mind can make things bigger than they are, and what actually helps you get out of your head. Because most people don’t need more answers — they need to move.

How do you know if someone is good for you? We talk red flags, boundaries, and the hard truth about keeping people in your life just because you don’t want to be alone. Not everyone is meant to grow with you, and that’s okay.

In this episode, we talk about where our ideas of masculinity actually come from. Growing up, most of us learn what it means to be a man by watching the people around us — fathers, friends, mentors, and sometimes the wrong influences. Some of those lessons help shape us in good ways, and others we have to unlearn. We talk about the men who influenced us, how addiction, incarceration, and recovery...

DONATE TO MATT'S DANCING WITH THE SPECIAL STARS: https://fundraise.givesmart.com/vf/26DFSSGF/Fundraiser During this episode, Matt and Max discuss how important your energy is. How having positive energy can shift the mood of not only yourself but those around you. We also talk about how our energy has changed since recovery and the things we do to maintain it. Your energy is everything, and it can...

How are you actually showing up right now - in your relationships, your work, your recovery, your life? In this episode, we unpack what “showing up” really means. Is it effort? Energy? Honesty? Consistency? We talk about the difference between performing and being present, showing up tired versus inspired, and how incarceration, recovery, and re-entry reshaped the way we show up for ourselves and...

On today's episode, Max shares the things he is currently struggling with and the tools he uses to push through. Secrets keep you sick, and the first step to working through things is to share honestly. This is part two of a two-part series. Reach out to us at "support@built-notbroken.com"

On this episode of Built Not Broken, we check in with Matt about some things he is currently struggling with. We dive deep into his current hardships, along with the tools he uses to persevere. This is part one of a two-part series. Reach out to us at "support@built-notbroken.com"

Isolation is one of the biggest threats to mental health, recovery, and overall well-being - and it often goes unnoticed. In this episode, we talk about why community matters more than ever, how isolation quietly harms people, and how to find healthy connections without settling for unhealthy relationships to avoid being alone. We also break down where real community is built and how to start buil...

Most people avoid silence without realizing it. The moment things get quiet, we distract ourselves. In this episode, we talk about why silence feels uncomfortable, what it exposes, and how constant stimulation affects mental and emotional control. We also break down practical ways to build tolerance for silence without overthinking it. Because silence isn’t weakness - avoiding it is.

Most people know what would help them feel better, and still avoid it. In this episode, we talk about why that happens. We break down avoidance as a survival strategy, how it quietly keeps people stuck, and the small, practical ways to interrupt the cycle. This conversation isn’t about willpower or discipline; it’s about understanding yourself well enough to move forward. Because growth doesn’t st...

Everyone falls off track. Sometimes that looks like slipping on habits - and sometimes it means relapse. The real danger isn’t the slip itself, but the shame, silence, and spiral that follow. In this episode, we talk honestly about what to do when you fall off track, including relapse, and how to respond without quitting on yourself. We break down why setbacks happen, how shame fuels relapse, and...

Everyone wants something: better habits, more peace, stronger relationships, better health. But most goals fall apart because people don’t plan for what gets in the way. In this episode, we break down the WOOP method, which stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan - a simple, science-backed framework that helps turn intentions into action. This isn’t just for recovery. It’s for anyone trying to ch...

Every year people make New Year’s resolutions - and every year most of them fall apart. In this episode, we break down why that happens and how to set goals that actually stick. We talk about SMART goals, why vague motivation isn’t enough, and how to build realistic goals that support recovery, mental health, and real life. This isn’t about “new year, new you.” It’s about clarity, consistency, and...

In this episode, we talk about how to survive Christmas without losing yourself. We cover the pressure to perform happiness, how grief shows up louder during the holidays, ways to protect your sobriety on Christmas Day, and healthy ways to celebrate that don’t drain you emotionally or mentally. This is about redefining celebration, protecting your peace, and getting through the season honestly - n...

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to become someone you trust. We break down how addiction and chaos destroy self-trust, why rebuilding it is essential for recovery and mental health, and the simple, practical habits that help you prove to yourself that you’re reliable again. Because when you trust yourself, everything else gets steadier.

In this episode, we break down Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) - why winter hits so hard emotionally, how it affects recovery, and the science-backed tools that actually help. From light therapy and movement to mindset, connection, and routine, we get real about staying steady when the days get dark. Because winter might be heavy - but you don’t have to carry it alone.

Today, we sit down with Dormen H. Lisby Sr., a man who served 25 years and 8 months in the Pennsylvania Department of Corrections and came home determined to rebuild his life with purpose, service, and discipline. Dormen shares what it was like to grow up inside the system, how time in segregated housing shaped him, and how he transformed from survival mode into a man grounded in faith, creativity...

In this episode, we talk about how to handle the holidays sober - one of the hardest seasons for anyone in recovery. We break down why the holidays are full of triggers, family stress, and drinking culture, and we share real, practical tools to stay grounded, prepared, and sober through it all. Tools we go over: 1) Make a plan before you go. 2) Have a script ready. 3) Bring your own drink. 4) Iden...

In this episode, we break down the 11 Shining Light Community Codes - the values that shaped us in and after incarceration, and still guide how we move through recovery, relationships, and community today. The 11 codes... 1. Be Open, Be Curious 2. Brush Off the Small Stuff 3. Accept Non-Resolution 4. Start Simple 5. "Speak Life" 6. One Mic 7. Step Forward/Step Back 8. Speak from the &quo...