No, You're Not Dying

Being an adult isn't all it's cracked up to be, which is probably why so many people are holding onto the last time they felt joyous freedom: being in college. The stakes were lower, there were fewer responsibilities, and you existed in a bubble. At some point, we all know we need to put our big kid pants on and grow up...but do you ever feel like you're the only one who did? Today&...

Close your eyes and raise your hand if you have a family member who you'd consider toxic. Now open your eyes: bet you didn't think we'd all have a hand in the air, now did you? Today we're talking about why nobody talks about having a toxic person in their family, and the quiet shame that comes along with knowing that you do.  We dive into how your feelings are impacted by your...

Well, one of us is sick and the other is crying to The Lion King again, so you could say we're hanging on by a thread! Anyway... Following the finale of The Summer I Turned Pretty (!!!!!) and Belly's moment of talking to a photo of herself as a child, we felt inspired to talk to our younger selves today - because you don't have to wait until your birthday or NYE to reflect. Getting...

The names Whelmed...Over Whelmed. The world feels heavy at the moment, and when that combines with chaos in your own life, it creates the perfect storm for feeling downright weird. There's a sense of being lost (cut to us throwing our socks in the garbage and packing 2 sandwiches for lunch...listen and you'll understand), being unsteady, and not knowing how to react because there's...

Alright, so you've decided you might want to go to therapy. What the heck now? In today's listener-requested episode, we're giving you the Therapy 101, because like with doing your taxes, they don't teach this in schools. We go through how to go about finding a therapist and knowing when you've found the right one, the different types of clinicians, and why (spoiler alert)...

It is even really a birthday if you don't have a crying selfie?  In honor of Joyce's 31st birthday - in our 31st episode, no less - we're talking about the complicated feelings around celebrating another year around the sun. On one hand, yay, it's your day of birth and there's so much to look forward to! On the other hand, time is flying and you're just getting older...

We've all had moments where we want to tell people in our life to stop doing something - being friends with someone we think is toxic, dating someone that we think is undeserving of their love, engaging in bad behaviors that we ourselves have done that ended badly, and, and, and. So what do you do about it? Well... Today we're talking about why you shouldn't give unsolicited advice...

We know you were thinking, 'I Wish You Would do an episode on Taylor Swift this week!' Well... You can't deny that she is one of (if not THE) most influential musicians in the world. She has Forever & Always had a thriving fan base, aka the Swifties (of which Joyce is an active member), but the negative sentiment towards her seems to be stronger than with other celebrities. Plus...

There are two kinds of people in this world: 1) those of us who act totally fine when we have a health symptom, and 2) those of us who freak out and convince ourselves that we have every illness known to humankind and also probably might die. If Option 2 feels ~familiar~ to you, join us for today's episode as we chat about hypochondria and what it's like to have health anxiety. Starting...

Some of the most daunting words that can be spoken in a relationship: 'let's try long-distance'. In today's listener-requested episode, we're diving into what the heck to do when this happens - and yes, it does also impact the person who is leaving - and how to make sure your relationship lives to tell the tale. We discuss why you need to define 'distance', how t...

Ugh, here we go again with another lifestyle trend on social media that got taken way too far and then people absolutely lost the plot! Today, we're dissecting the 'princess treatment', which started as a way to describe being cared for and pampered by your significant other, morphed into a breakdown of what's 'bare minimum' vs. what's 'princess treatment&ap...

Wouldn't it be easy if life came with a manual, just so we could feel like we sort of knew what we were doing? Unfortunately that's...not the case, especially when it comes to the evolution of caregiving. Our parents/guardians care for us when we're young, but it often ends up with us caring for them as they get older. In this listener-requested episode, we discuss this transition a...

Why can't we be friends (with our exes)? Well, it turns out you can...maybe. Through tales of exes past and mistakes made along the way, our episode today covers why whether you can be friends with your ex differs from whether you *should* be, the reasons that some people might have a higher success rate than others, and why blocking your ex may not be the right answer.  We also discuss how t...

Has anyone else noticed that we have, perhaps, lost the plot entirely?  The golden rules that we were taught in preschool (treat others the way you want to be treated, lead with kindness, be a good listener, etc. etc.) seem to have gone out the window as most of us have gotten older.  Now, we're seeing people yell at others and expect to be listened to, use social media to write terrible comm...

You've probably heard the saying "The straw that broke the camel's back".  We all have our 'last straws'; the things that send us into crash-outs for absolutely no reason at all. We bet you're thinking about yours now! We often never even think twice about them after they're over. Except...what if we told you that there actually *are* reasons they happen, an...

Unfortunately for literally all of us, there is no manual to figuring out how you feel and being able to communicate it effectively; aside from a select few with the native ability, it's just a skill that takes a whole lot of practice. It's kind of like painting - there are most of us who need to paint by numbers, and a small group who just have a feeling and can create a masterpiece. We...

Laser treatment this, face lift that - can't anyone just get old anymore?  Today we're talking all things anti-aging and why the movement to constantly look younger makes it seem like having wrinkles might be the worst thing to happen to a person.  We start today's discussion with a brief review of The Princess Bride and the word 'crone', before diving into why aging is no...

Loss: one of life's great equalizers. It's messy, uncomfortable, and often deeply upsetting, but we all experience it. In a way, it's sort of comforting, knowing that we are all in it together. And yet, that doesn't change the fact that we often feel completely confused and alone in its wake. Today, join us as we talk through the grieving process and life after loss. We chat ab...

If you've been on the internet ~as of late~, you may have seen the memes and videos suggesting that all men should be in therapy; that it's a bare minimum ask that will help them finally become self-aware, emotionally mature, good partners. It might seem easy to say, 'Well, duh!' and start calling therapists in your area to set up appointments for every man you know. But is the...

Here's the thing: the last few days have been incredibly challenging for us. We've been really sad, and honestly just needed a laugh. So instead of the episode we had planned, we decided to listen to our own advice and do something that would get us out of our own heads and give us a giggle.  After a recap of Joyce's recent vacation and a LOT of talk about birds (it's sweet and...

So long, farewell, goodbyes are really hard. Even more so when you care about the thing (or person) you're leaving. So this week, we're talking about it. Following a ~reveal~ (ew, gross) of why it's been an anxiety circus over here, we discuss how to know when it's time to start a new chapter, the ambivalence we can feel when we close the door on the old one, and questions to a...

Listen, we'll say this once, and then a hundred more times - you shouldn't feel guilty for taking care of yourself. Self-care is as important as breathing air. So why don't we treat it like a priority? This week, we're giving ourselves (and you) permission and a reminder to make it one. We chat about internal judgement systems, why we gaslight ourselves into believing we don&ap...

As your favorite mother-daughter podcast (a title we've bestowed upon ourselves, tyvm), we're bringing you an early celebration of Mother's Day this week!  In between childhood stories and a serious case of the giggles, we share our thoughts on the full-circle nature of mother/daughter relationships and how we got to be in a place now where we can work together (and not absolutely l...

The gals are back with the second episode in their Friend-ly Advice series!  Things change over time - where you live, what you do for work, the clothes you wear, etc., etc. - so it's no surprise that friendships change, too. So why do we  sometimes judge ourselves negatively when they do? Today we're covering the friendship evolution and why we all need to stop being so critical of ours...

We're guessing that a lot of us have dealt with imposter syndrome - feeling like you haven't actually earned your achievements, are a fraud, and that your successes are instead due to luck or some other factor. (Side note: if you haven't felt like this before, teach the rest of us your ways pls and thx.) It's only made worse by feeling like every idea has already been done, so...