No, You're Not Dying

How exactly does a person go about living their life and maintaining sanity while also constantly consuming news from the world around them that seems all bad, all the time? No clue, but we're trying to figure it out. In today's listener-requested episode (thank you!!), we're discussing how to balance staying informed about the world without burning ourselves out, and how to avoid d...

Whoever said that complaining is bad for you obviously just doesn't get it. It can be funny, a way to vent, and a means of connection - and there doesn't have to be an end goal or solution you're aiming for.  Today, we're chatting about why complaining gets an often undeserved bad rap, how to know when you're taking it too far, when to offer solutions versus when to just l...

Today's episode is brought to you by the first warm day in months and the confusion that comes with daylight savings. We're feeling extra chatty with our highs and lows this week, covering everything from entitled people in parking lots to German restaurants to Harry Styles and yet another meltdown over the Lion King (cue: look, there's a lion, omg).  Then, we recap an experience fr...

Having kids and starting a family can be such an idealized experience: the fun! the adventure! the excitement! But it also is a full-time job with immense responsibility. Add maintaining and running a home, and the pressure on parents rises. Add a working parent (or two), and it increases ten-fold. Inspired by the show All Her Fault, this week we're talking about how to balance raising kids w...

Have you ever pursued the 'bad boy' over the 'nice guy'? The one with a bit of an edge, who you feel cares about you but also really...doesn't? If you have, it's no surprise: among other things, we're taught from a young age that the boys who bully us in school really like us, and we've popularized the enemies to lovers trope in the books, tv, and movies tha...

Some weeks are for relatable advice, and some weeks are...not. When life feels chaotic, sometimes you just have to get out of your head and find joy in what's around you.  Today we're attempting to change our moods and our outlooks by sharing the things we're loving right now - from our morning routines, to favorite pieces of clothing, the coconut water that changed it all, and the...

Today is a very special episode because we are celebrating one year of No, You're Not Dying!! Time has both flown and moved at an exceedingly glacial pace, and we're recapping and reflecting on the last 365 days: what we've learned, what has surprised us, what's been left on the cutting room floor, and what we hope for the next year. In the spirit of our podcasting anniversary,...

This week we're having an honest conversation around body image in a time where it seems like everyone is getting smaller. We're sharing our thoughts on the shift from 'health at every size' to 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' and the whiplash that comes with it, the fundamental misconception that it's everyone's goal to lose weight, and how we place...

This week, we were inspired by a video we saw from @sarahcha.d on Instagram where she mentioned that we are all one step away from being unable to afford food. It got us thinking about our own vulnerabilities, the fragility of life, and how that awareness promotes empathy. We dig into why people distance and create an 'other' mentality when they want to avoid difficult things, how we tak...

If you’ve seen the Hulu show Tell Me Lies, you know that the characters range from bad-decision-makers to straight-up-evil. And every episode, you think ‘it can’t possibly get worse’ - and then it does. So, I wanted to get Dr. Beth’s take. In today’s bonus episode, we’re doing a recap of the first four episodes of Season 3, covering the craziest moments (in our opinions) so far. Then, we’re diving...

This week's episode kicks off with a harrowing tale of a snowy drive gone awry (wear your seatbelts, folks!), followed by another ~unfiltered thoughts~ segment on: protein coffee (gross), cybertrucks (ew), grocery store hauls (acceptable for Trader Joe's only), and self-checkout kiosks (hate). Then, we're diving into the concept of not being okay with not knowing something. Have you...

Today's episode is brought to you by two recent experiences Joyce had that made her realize that perhaps the way we speak to ourselves does, in fact, matter (and also that we need to be a lot nicer to ourselves). We're chatting about the often automatic nature of our negative voices, where they might come from, and how to rewrite them. We cover whether our internal dialogue is really a r...

Ideal world: you come back from vacation rested, recharged, and ready to take on the work week. You pre-planned, your to-do list was to-done before you left, and you're at inbox zero. Reality: you haven't had a routine in weeks, every project you put off from before your break is due, everyone is circling back, and your inbox is out of control. Oh yeah, and your to-do list? Miles long. I...

We've made it to the end of the year! Have you made your resolutions yet that you'll probably give up on by February? (sry not sry)...but maybe we can help. Today, we're discussing whether resolutions are worth making for the start of a new year and why we struggle with following through. We talk about why any day can be 1/1, why the intention behind a resolution really does matter,...

Are you approaching the holidays with a bit of a 'what's going on here?' mentality? Do you normally feel excited for the season, and now you're just...not? Is there a feeling of 'meh' where there's usually a feeling of 'merry and bright'? Us too. Today, we're getting real about the complex emotions around this time of the year. We kick off with our...

Every year in late fall, we are blessed with the return of Hallmark Holiday movies. Do we watch them because we are obsessed with small-town holiday festivals, can't wait to watch strangers drink hot cocoa, or want to live vicariously through someone else decorating a freshly-baked, intricate gingerbread house that we know we could never make? Or do they serve a bigger purpose? Today we'...

If you've ever felt insane stress and pressure around the holidays to come up with the perfect gifts for the people in your life, this episode is for you. This week, we're talking about consumerism culture, the early-onset holiday season, and why finding the 'perfect' holiday gift is kind of a fool's errand. We chat about why having more options to buy from can lead to mor...

A tale as old as (recent) times: being addicted to your phone. What started as a way to stay in touch with loved ones has ended up as a small pocket computer with hundreds of ways to distract you, from your own photo album to news apps to looking up every single thought you've ever had on the internet. Does it help that so many of us can't even remember a time when we didn't have a...

We're back with Part 3 of our Friend-ly Advice series! Have you ever had a 'friend' that you genuinely care about who only contacts you when they want to brag about how amazing their life is, or use you for favors, your connections, caretaking, etc.? We have, and it's a real bummer. So today, we're talking about how to recognize if you're in a one-sided friendship and...

There comes a point in our lives when we realize that our parents and our children are not exactly who we thought they would be - they're flawed, imperfect, and perhaps incredibly irritating, but we have to accept them as they are because the alternative is just being constantly angry and giving ourselves tension headaches and ulcers. And if you're thinking...yes 100% absolutely but how...

Things We Should Have Said is a new segment, where we include conversations that we forgot or had to cut for time in the original episode.  As an addition to 'Settling is for Bar Tabs, Not Relationships', this bonus segment includes: Why who you pick as a life partner is one of the most important decisions Why you need to be honest with yourself about what you value in a relationship and...

Beth went on her first vacation in a looooong time, and we're getting the full recap! Today's episode starts with a debrief of the Montana ranch experience, with special mentions of the best thing about Laguardia's bathrooms, and why you need to step out of your comfort zone to experience life. Then, we're diving into settling in relationships - inspired by our own observations...

~iT's $p0okY s3@SoN, w!tChEs!~ Anyway... Join us for a spooktacular episode where we take a trip down memory lane, recapping and reminiscing on our favorite Halloweens from our childhood! We're talking about our first costumes, why we originally thought trick-or-treating was a scam, and our definite opinions on whether you can leave your neighborhood in the pursuit of candy. We're a...

It feels like these days, dating is harder than ever. Either people met their partner on 1) a dating app or 2) in college, and there's no miscellaneous third option. So when you're in your thirties and don't want (read: refuse) to swipe, where are you supposed to meet people?  *Cue: Raye's 'Where Is My Husband?'* This week we're trying to figure that out, whether...

If ever there was a vent sesh episode, today's would be it. We're kicking off a new, totally random segment called 'unfiltered thoughts', where we share our - you guessed it - unfiltered thoughts. We're talking emotional support shirts, laser tag, and packing tape. We have strong opinions on all 3 and so should you, tbh. Then we're getting into the problems with produ...