In Your Right Mind with Monique Rhodes

It's been years, and something can still catch you off guard and knock the wind out of you. This episode is for the part of you that's been quietly ashamed of still feeling it — grief, heartbreak, an old loss — long after you think you're supposed to be done. There is no timeline. There never was. And this episode explains why. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you,...

On the outside, you have it together. The deadlines are met, the people are looked after, the difficult situations are handled with grace. On the inside, you haven't stopped for years. This episode is for the woman who looks fine — and is exhausted by looking fine. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try next… 👉 Take the Happiness Q...

You've tried the breathing. You've tried the apps. And yet that low-grade hum of tension in your body never really goes away. This episode isn't about another technique — it's about the actual reason your nervous system stays on high alert, and the one shift that changes everything underneath. Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonated with you, there's something you need to try...

You already know you're too hard on yourself. You've known it for years. But knowing it hasn't made it stop — because the real reason behind that relentless inner critic isn't what most people think. This episode goes underneath the self-criticism to where it actually comes from, and what it would take to finally change your relationship with the voice that never lets you rest. Ready to break the...

A dark or disturbing thought arrived out of nowhere and now you can't stop wondering what it says about you. This episode is the conversation most people never get to have: what intrusive thoughts actually are, why they happen to the most conscientious people, and why the thought itself is not the problem. You are not your worst thought — and this episode will help you actually believe that. Ready...

You've told yourself a hundred times to stop caring what people think. You know, logically, that you can't control what anyone thinks of you. And yet — the worry is still there, shaping decisions, stealing sleep, quietly running the show. This episode is about why it's so hard to actually stop, what your brain is really trying to protect you from, and the shift that finally loosens its grip. Ready...

You say you want things to change. And you mean it. So why does part of you keep pulling the brakes just when things start to move? This episode names the thing most people won't say out loud — that staying stuck has real payoffs — and offers a kinder, more honest way to understand your own resistance before you try to fight through it.   Ready to break the cycle for good? If this episode resonate...

There's a version of you that got decided a long time ago — and it's been running the show ever since. This episode looks at the gap between what's actually true about you and the story you've been telling yourself, and why that gap is where everything either opens up or quietly closes down. If you've ever felt like you keep bumping into the same ceiling, this one is for you.   Ready to break the...

You've tried to change before. You went big, you started strong, and then life happened and the whole thing fell apart — again. This episode is about why that pattern keeps repeating, and why the answer is almost embarrassingly small. Monique explores the science behind why dramatic gestures don't stick, and what it actually takes to build something that lasts.   Ready to break the cycle for good?...

Most of us spend a huge amount of our lives trying to make people understand us. The long explanation. The third re-phrase. The 3am perfect sentence. The screenshot we send to a friend. The argument we have with our partner for the fifth time.   We think we're looking for resolution. We're actually looking for something else. And in this episode, Monique names it — and offers a way to put it down...

There are two kinds of calm. Only one of them is actually calm.   If you have always been the steady one, the soft-voiced one, the one everyone goes to in a crisis, this episode might land differently than you expect. Because some of us are calm because we have worked through what we feel — and some of us are calm because we have spent decades sitting on it.   The difference matters. And it shows...

If you've been writing a gratitude list every morning and nothing in your life feels any different, this episode is for you.   Most gratitude practice is performance dressed up as practice. A list of words that never made it into the body. And it's why people can do it for years and feel exactly the same.   There is one word missing. One. Once you put it in, the whole practice changes — and it bec...

We keep blaming our phones. We keep blaming dopamine. I want to tell you something true that nobody seems willing to say out loud.   Your phone is not the problem. Your phone is the solution to a much bigger problem nobody wants to name. And until you name it, no amount of screen time settings, no amount of digital detoxing, is going to do a single thing.   In this episode I unpack what the phone...

If you have been on a healing journey for years and you are still not okay, I do not think you need more healing. I think the healing is the problem.   This episode is for anyone who has read the books, done the courses, sat with the therapists, and still wakes up wondering what is wrong with them.   I unpack why the project of fixing yourself is part of what keeps you stuck, the sentence that fin...

I'm going to say the thing nobody in your life will say to you. The reason you keep saying yes — the reason you give and give and end up empty — is not because you are a kind person. It is because you are frightened. And until you can see that clearly, nothing changes. In this episode I unpack the difference between kindness and the survival reflex that looks like kindness from the outside, why mo...

This is a different kind of episode. No list. No three takeaways. Just one conversation about something I think we don't talk about enough — the particular pain of wanting today to be different than it is. The mood you woke up in. The argument that's still sitting in your chest. The day that already feels heavy when nothing has even really happened yet. We're going to sit with this together, gentl...

If you grew up being the one who kept everyone calm, you didn't choose it. It was assigned to you. And the role you played as a child often becomes the role you play everywhere — at work, in relationships, in friendships. Today I want to talk about what it actually costs to be the family peacemaker. Why your nervous system probably still scans every room. Why you can't relax when other people are...

You've been told to set boundaries. You've tried setting boundaries. And somehow you're still exhausted, still over-explaining, still feeling like you have to defend the smallest "no." So today I want to push back on the most-recommended advice in the wellness world and tell you what I actually think happens when you keep being told that the answer to other people's behaviour is just to draw a cle...

Most people don't know they're burned out. They just think this is who they have become. In this episode, Monique walks through five quiet signs of burnout that almost nobody talks about. Not the obvious ones. Not "you're tired" and "you're working too hard." The ones you can have for two or three years without ever realising you have them. You'll hear why losing your anticipation for small things...

Monique has spent fifteen years around genuinely calm people — and she means the real ones, not the ones who post about it. They all do nine very specific things that the rest of us don't. This episode walks through all nine. Not personality traits. Not temperament. Habits. Which means they're learnable. Number six is the one almost no one believes is actually a calmness skill. Number eight is the...

There is a kind of permission that arrives — sometimes in your fifties, sometimes later, sometimes never — and it quietly changes everything about how you live the next thirty years. In this episode, Monique walks through seven specific things the people she knows who have this permission have stopped apologising for. Not the obvious ones. The ones almost nobody talks about. You'll hear the story...

There is a kind of tired that cannot be explained by anything you did. Not the tired you feel after hard work or a bad night's sleep — those make sense. You can trace them. You can point to a reason. This episode is about the other tired. The tired that arrives in the late afternoon when you have barely done anything. The tired that finds you sitting on the edge of the bed at nine in the morning,...

I have been teaching happiness at over seventy colleges for fifteen years. And I have watched the wellness industry get almost everything wrong. Not a little wrong. Wrong at the level of the question. In this episode, I'm telling you three things the happiness industry is selling you that are actually making you worse. Not because the people selling them are bad — most mean well. But because the e...

Most perfectionists have been praised their whole lives for being perfectionists. That's the thing that makes it so hard to see. In this episode, Monique unpacks what perfectionism actually is, underneath the praise: a survival contract your younger self made with the world that said, if I get this right, I will be safe. She tells the story of a woman called Nina — a successful lawyer whose family...

If you say sorry when someone bumps into you — this episode is for you.   In this conversation, Monique talks about the slow, quiet erasure of yourself that happens when you've spent years apologising for existing. The waiter, the wrong order, the friend who talks over you, the text that begins "so sorry to bother you." All those tiny moments where you choose someone else's comfort over your own l...