Behavior Gap Radio

In this episode, Carl explores the surprising information hidden inside resistance. Inspired by a conversation at a recent retreat, he reflects on the difference between asking, “What am I going to do next?” and asking, “What am I resisting?” Instead of treating resistance as something to overcome, Carl wonders whether it might be a valuable signal—pointing toward something important, unresolved,...

In this episode, Carl continues his exploration of the idea that feelings are data by introducing the concept of “affect as information.” Drawing from established research, he examines how we constantly use our emotions as a source of information when making decisions—often without realizing it. Rather than treating feelings as something separate from rational thinking, Carl explores how they may...

In this episode, Carl lays out the first claim in a growing body of work he’s developing around a simple but provocative idea: Feelings are data. Not just emotions to be managed or ignored, but early-stage information that often arrives before words, analysis, or conscious thought. Carl explores how feelings can signal what matters, what feels safe or threatening, and where our values are being ho...

In this episode, Carl begins a deeper exploration of a simple but often overlooked idea: Feelings are data. Challenging the common assumption that emotions are somehow less valuable than spreadsheets, analysis, or technical expertise, he starts building a case that our feelings deserve a legitimate place in decision-making. Drawing from research, experience, and years of conversations around money...

In this episode, Carl explores a provocative idea: What if financial planning is less about thinking and knowing, and more about feeling? Drawing on conversations from retreats and The Collective, he reflects on the possibility that our bodies often recognize truth before our minds can explain it. Whether it’s fear, excitement, resistance, or alignment, Carl argues that paying attention to what we...

In this episode, Carl reflects on what people are really looking for when facing an uncertain future. More often than not, it’s not a perfect plan, a case study, or a detailed roadmap. It’s a companion—someone willing to walk alongside them through uncertainty with wisdom, presence, and care. Carl explores the limits of prediction, the reality of not knowing what comes next, and why the most valua...

In this episode, Carl explores a simple sketch that captures a powerful idea about personal growth: the relationship between stimulus, response, and awareness. Early on, our reactions can feel automatic, with no space between what happens and how we respond. But over time, awareness begins to show up—first after the fact, then closer and closer to the moment itself. Carl reflects on how real chang...

In this episode, Carl explores the idea of public work as a spiritual practice and reflects on the uncomfortable emotions that surface when we compare ourselves to others. After seeing someone launch a project similar to one he’d been thinking about for years, Carl examines his own reactions: jealousy, insecurity, ego, and the stories we quickly tell ourselves. He shares why building a business, m...

In this episode, Carl reflects on the difficult and deeply personal work of unwinding the stories we’ve inherited about success, work, relationships, achievement, and identity. He explores how many of our financial decisions are shaped by assumptions we never consciously chose, and why real financial planning often means slowly peeling back those layers to discover what actually matters to us. It’...

In this episode, Carl explores the rare moments in life when an opportunity feels so deeply aligned that the question becomes, “How could I possibly say no to this?” Using the example of getting into a dream school like Juilliard, he reflects on regret minimization, the difference between making the “right” decision and making a decision right, and the mysterious way life sometimes rearranges itse...

In this episode, Carl explores one of the hardest questions that comes with making meaningful life decisions: How do you tell the difference between anxiety and insight? Reflecting on career changes, relationships, financial decisions, and the messy middle of personal growth, he examines the different textures of fear, urgency, clarity, and alignment. It’s a thoughtful exploration of slowing down,...

In this episode, Carl reflects on a quote from Howard Thurman that has shaped his thinking for years: “Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive and go do it.” He explores the tension between building a life around demand versus building one around aliveness, and the complicated reality that often follows when what makes us come alive doesn’t fit neatly into stability, responsi...

In this episode, Carl reflects on a recent conversation with Michael Kitces about fear-based selling and the surprising world of “disturb tracks” designed to create urgency and anxiety. Carl explores why tactics built on fear, complexity, and pressure may “work” in the short term, but ultimately erode trust and connection. It’s a thoughtful conversation about values-based selling, long-term relati...

In this episode, Carl reflects on what it feels like to live in a world where the list of things that matter seems impossibly large, while the list of things we can actually control feels painfully small. Revisiting one of his earliest sketches, he explores the overlap between concern and agency, and why focusing on the small, local things we can actually do may be one of the most grounding respon...

In this episode, Carl explores what it really means to help people change. Building on yesterday’s idea that the market for feeling something is much larger than the market for becoming it, he reflects on the delicate work of helping clients move from awareness to identity to action. It’s a thoughtful look at financial advice, behavior change, and the quiet, human work of helping someone become th...

In this episode, Carl explores the surprisingly large gap between feeling productive, being seen as productive, and actually doing meaningful work. He reflects on how easy it is to confuse organizing, planning, researching, or publicly announcing our intentions with the vulnerable act of creating something real. It’s a thoughtful look at identity, risk, and the subtle ways we avoid uncertainty whi...

In this episode, Carl shares a moment of clarity after being told he wasn’t a fit for a market-focused podcast—and why that turned out to be exactly right. He explores the important difference between markets and investing, and why chasing daily commentary isn’t the same as doing the real work of aligning money with a meaningful life. It’s a reflection on knowing what game you’re playing, letting...

In this episode, Carl reflects on a powerful idea inspired by Martin Luther King Jr.: The arc of the moral universe bends toward justice—but what about our own personal arc? He explores how money and power can quietly influence our decisions, sometimes pulling us away from what we say we believe. Rather than judging others, Carl turns the lens inward, asking where we might bend our own standards u...

In this episode, Carl shares a surprising personal story about being “fired” from his own financial planning meetings—and why he was secretly thrilled about it. That experience leads to a deeper question: What if the so-called “disengaged” partner isn’t a problem to fix, but simply someone who's playing to their strengths? Carl challenges a common assumption in financial planning and explores a di...

In this episode, Carl reflects on the deeper purpose behind his work and a simple realization that keeps guiding him: Money is the entry point, but kindness is the point. While conversations often start with money, they quickly reveal what really matters—how we spend our time, energy, and attention, and what we want to build in the world. Carl shares why he continues to use money as the doorway, e...

In this episode, Carl shares a personal story about a decision to step away from social media noise and focus on one-to-one connection—and the surprising long-term impact it’s had. What started as replying thoughtfully to emails turned into years of meaningful moments with people who never forgot being seen and heard. Carl reflects on a simple idea: Kindness compounds. Not in an abstract way, but...

In this episode, Carl explores the deeper meaning of compounding—not just as a financial concept, but as a universal life principle. Drawing from wisdom across cultures and centuries, he reflects on how the most valuable things in life—health, relationships, skills, and creativity—are built slowly through consistent, repeated effort. Instead of chasing shortcuts, Carl makes the case for investing...

In this episode, Carl shares a story from a trip to Chamonix that challenged his assumptions about money, value, and how the world works. After a failed attempt to order eggs outside of breakfast hours, he’s reminded that not everything is about paying more to get what you want—sometimes it’s about craft, culture, and a completely different way of seeing things. Carl reflects on how travel and new...

In this episode, Carl talks openly about the rise in economic anxiety and what to do when fear shows up. Instead of rushing to answers or hiding behind data, he makes a simple point: It’s normal to feel scared when things are uncertain. The real first step isn’t solving the problem, it’s creating space to talk about it honestly—with empathy, not dismissal. Whether you’re the one feeling the fear o...