#AskAMan

Anonymous is in her early thirties and she is in a relationship with a man who is twenty years older than her.  She went through her partner’s phone months ago and found out that he was cheating. After confronting him about this he said she wasn’t mentally well since losing her father late  last year and she needed to to deal with that.  Months later she found out he was...

Anonymous and his wife are married with two children, however, he recently realised that his wife has been having sex with multiple men and he even thinks some it is transactional.  He discovered this on her phone and he finds himself confused by the whole situation. Anonymous says when he previously realised she was sleeping with someone else, he suggested they make their relationship and op...

Anonymous’ younger half-sister recently moved to his house as she could no longer live at res.  However, his girlfriend has expressed that she’s uncomfortable with him living with his sister suspecting that he might have an affair with his sister.  They fought about this and are now not really on speaking terms. He’s offended by this and doesn’t understand why his...

Anonymous has been dating a married man for a while now, and his wife found out about three years ago, despite this, they continued with their relationship.  Her issue now is that she feels like the man’s wife is now keeping tabs on her movements and stalking her.  Anonymous initially ended things with him after his wife found out but he came saying his wife was ok with the situati...

Anonymous says she made a pact with herself that she would like to keep her past in her past but she recently ran into a guy from her past.  Things didn’t end well between them, but it wasn’t too bad, as they were in a casual relationship. They spoke for a bit and she enjoyed the moment so much that she now wonders if it’s worth rekindling. 

Anonymous met a guy a few months ago while at a funeral, they hit it off and ended up engaging in a one night stand.  He revealed to her that he has a partner and they have two children, but they continued chatting anyway, although that faded because she became a little bored of him.  They eventually ran into each other on Tik Tok and started talking again which led to them rekindling th...

Anonymous has been with her partner for 12 years and they’ve been married for 6 of those years. Their marriage happened as result of anonymous falling pregnant and they had one other child after getting married.  She’s found out a few times that he was cheating and when she addresses this and other issues in their relationship, he shuts her down and tells her that she should be mo...

Anonymous has been with her partner since 2020 and two years after being together she fell pregnant and they moved in together.  He’s always had a problem with over-drinking, and spends a lot of his time hanging out with his friends. This behaviour  has also affected his work life.  He’s also epileptic and has had a few seizure episodes. As a result she’s been advi...

Anonymous and his partner have been  together for 8 months.  They recognised early on in their relationship that they have differences in terms of their religious beliefs but continued with their relationship. She’s tried to follow his religion but it hasn’t really worked out and she’s told him that she sees God differently to how he sees God.  They are now in conf...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years.  They met during a tumultuous period in both their lives as he was going through a divorce when they met and months into their relationship she lost her mother.  This meant that there was a lot of trauma bonding early in their relationship, however, as they healed from their difficult situations, they started to get into a lot of c...

Anonymous started dating a guy early this year after he moved into her neighbourhood late last year. He’s generally a great partner when he’s around but he has a tendency to switch off and ghost her. When he’s back he showers her with gifts, and wants to act as if this are fine and back to normal.

Anonymous was in an 8 year long relationship that ended less than two months ago as result of her now ex partner being abusive.  Shortly after breaking up her long term partner she reached out to another guy who had been pursuing her for over a year. They started casually dating as the guy was in a relationship with someone else.  She’s was ok with the fact that he was with someone...

Anonymous has been with her partner for almost 9 years and says while he was the perfect gentleman when they started dating, she cheated on him in the early stages of their relationship.  After that he was a changed man and was also cheating on her. At some point he got physically violent towards her after he incorrectly believed  that she had slept with his best friend. They broke up af...

Anonymous has been with his wife for 8 years and they’ve been married for two of those years.  He has been in a relationship with another woman for the last three years. His wife once found out about the other woman, he left lady no.2 as a result but ended up getting back together with lady no.2 without his wife knowing.  His wife has once again caught on to his side relationship a...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about two years and says the most part their relationship has been great.  They struggle with conflict management in the relationship and she feels like he doesn’t really consider her feelings or her needs.  He also says she doesn’t take accountability for her actions, but she feels like it’s actually the other way around.  W...

Anonymous was caught cheating by his partner yesterday after she looked through his phone, while he was sleeping, and saw texts between him and a lady he cheated on her with, who is now pregnant with his child.  He says he was a womaniser for many years and he’s now in a committed relationship but is struggling to say no when ladies make advances towards him.  He knows this is a pr...

Anonymous is in her mid-twenties and is currently dating a man who’s ten years older than her.  They met online and got to know each other really well as they were chatting a lot. Through this he was able to share that his mother is not well, dealing with a metal health issue. She’s since met his sister who is also dealing with a mental health issue.  He did reveal to her tha...

Anonymous says her brother is the problem in her relationship. They don’t have parents and it’s just the two of them at home.  She has been with her partner for a while, they came into their relationship with children and she’s now pregnant with their first child.  Her partner wants to marry her but her brother is refusing, which is blocking the traditional processes th...

Anonymous met her husband back in 2014 and he was living abroad, for his studies and work. He moved back home as a result of the COVID pandemic.  She realised that he had actually been with other people during his time away but they were able to move forward from this.  Over the last few years he’s been working at a local tertiary institution and she says he’s been caught che...

Anonymous has been with his partner for about two years now, he is in his late thirties and she is in her late thirties. She was a virgin when they met and they only got intimate after nine months in the relationship.  He thinks the fact that it took so long for them to start having sexual intercourse really affected him, and it actually did cause a rift in their relationship at the time.&nbs...

Anonymous is bisexual and has been with his female partner for about 4 years now.  They had some tough times in their relationship due to anonymous needing to deal with his past traumas, but they got through this.  Recently she started behaving a bit differently, he got suspicious, went through her phone and found that she was chatting to other guys even telling them that she’s not...