Thoughts From My Thirties

I’m thinking through… why so many women feel behind in their 30s, even when they've spent years working toward their dreams the realization that some of the work we're meant to do requires us to become the women we're becoming first why creative careers don't always follow traditional timelines… and why that doesn't make them any less legitimate the pressure to be practical and how we sometimes co...

Nobody warned me that one of the hardest parts of friendship in your 30s would be realizing that some of the people you've spent years growing with may no longer be growing with you. We're talking about the friendships that no longer stretch us, the exhaustion of always being the one holding everybody together, and the loneliness of wanting deeper connections in a season when everybody seems consu...

In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of growth that doesn’t always look like growth from the outside. How do you know you’re becoming a different woman when nobody else can see it yet? We talk a lot about transformation like it’s supposed to be obvious. A new look. A new life. A completely different version of you. But lately, I’ve been noticing the quieter ways I’m changing. The things I...

I’m thinking through… feeling lonely even when your life is full the difference between having people and actually feeling known my deep desire to be understood… and how it can sometimes get in the way of connection grieving old versions of yourself while you’re still figuring out who you’re becoming why missing a place, season, or life might actually mean you miss who you were back then and the q...

In this episode, we’re unpacking a question that’s been sitting heavy: Are we actually thinking for ourselves anymore… or just repeating what we see online? Social media and pop culture used to be entertainment. Now? It’s shaping how we think, how we date, how we see ourselves — and most of us didn’t even realize when the shift happened. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, influenced, or disconnec...

This one is for the woman who wants to feel like herself again… but keeps saving her best self for a “real” reason. In this episode, we get into: Why you’ve been saving your best self for special occasions — and how that’s actually limiting you The deeper meaning behind personal style (it’s not vanity… it’s identity) The subtle ways people project when they say “you’re doing too much” Why looking...

I’m thinking through… wanting more… and wanting it now God’s timing vs. my impatience what it really means to be ready for what you’re asking for and the quiet realization that maybe… I’m still being prepared for it Join my private community: https://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fkalariggins.substack.com%2F Our Inner Thoughts is a space t...

This one is for the woman who keeps saying she wants more… but hasn’t been fully honest about what “more” actually is. In this episode, we get into: Why you might not have what you want because you’re not being honest about it The difference between saying what you want vs. telling the truth about what you want How I realized I was hiding my true identity behind more “understandable” titles What s...

Turning 35 made me realize something: you don’t need the traditional milestones to be proud of your life. In this birthday episode, I’m bragging on myself — petty and popping. If you’ve ever felt behind, in-between, or unsure if you’re doing life “right”… this one is for you. This one is for the girl who needs to brag on herself a little more. The thirty-something who’s tired of milestones being u...

Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time Job If you’ve been trying to “stay positive” but doubt keeps sliding into the room this episode is for you. This is for the girl who clocked out for a minute. The thirty-something who got tired. The millennial who needs to clock back in. In this episode, we get into: -Doubt creeping in and why it made me question my faith -Why I’m rejecting the idea that doubt...

When Did We All Become So Boring? If you can hold a convo, have a personality, and you have range… but lately every interaction feels like a bore... this episode is for you. In this episode, we get into: - Having a job is making us an absolute snooze fest - How we were trained to build identity around work - How job titles became the first identity we were ever handed - Why we lead with work even...

Everything I’m Not Changing About Myself This Year. If you’re the kind of millennial who did everything “right” — followed the rules, hit the milestones, played the game by the book — and you’re now looking around in your 30s like… wait a minute, this was a scam? This episode is for you. This is your permission slip to stop “fixing” yourself into someone else… and start honoring who you already ar...

This is Beneath It All , a mini version of my podcast ( Beneath The Seams ) — where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes. In today’s episode, we get into: ✨ How faith redefines the creative process ✨ Partnering with God instead of performing for the internet ✨ The difference between divine timing and delayed obedience ✨ Why fear disguised as preparation keeps you stuck...

What does it really mean to be compatible with someone? I’ve been thinking a lot about this — and honestly, I think intellectual compatibility might be my biggest struggle. Not chemistry, not vibes, not attraction… but finding someone who can actually meet me where my mind is. In this episode, I’m talking about: -Why being “chosen” doesn’t make you more special — God already did that -Why I can’t...

If you’ve ever called yourself a “low-maintenance friend” but secretly crave deeper connection… this conversation is for you. We talk about… -Why the “low-maintenance” trend quietly excuses neglect. -Loneliness as an epidemic—and how we’re drifting from community. -Medium-maintenance friendships: presence, checking in, reciprocity. -Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (discernment matters). -Behavio...

If you’ve ever started, stopped, felt sure, then doubted again… this conversation is for you. We talk about… Why your story may include an unusual testimony. Start–stop seasons: and why they still count. How Perfectionist kills momentum. Letting life’s recurring lessons return with a new perspective Vulnerability as ministry: sharing the heavy parts without self-judgment. Letting your gift serve p...

This one is for the millennial who wants to use the rest of 2025 to grow spiritually and strategically. In this episode, I’m talking about how I’ve been using both scripture and structure (with a little help from AI) to rebuild my faith, strengthen my routines, and reimagine what a spirit-led soft life really looks like. We talk about… -Why I believe in "this AND that" spirituality (I love God and...

🎙️ Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ -- This one is for the millennial who misses outside! Social media told us to isolate, grind in silence, and only reappear when we’re fully healed. But what if hiding out is holding us back? In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on... -What we lose when we stop socializing -How community might be...

This is Beneath It All , a mini version of my podcast ( Beneath The Seams ) where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes. In today’s episode, we get into: The Pain of Not Keeping Going How it Seems everyone is a season of starting over: Dealing with the not feeling "Normal" Finding Spiritual Clarity in Not Having a Traditional Path What it means to get Serious About Your Call...

This one is for the millennial who was raised with a bit of family drama... In this episode, I sit with Life Coach Shawntrise Williams who is also my first cousin as we have a deeply personal conversation about... -The family drama we never talked about—and how it’s still affecting us. -That feeling of being disconnected and wishing we were closer. -How the emotional and physical distance in our f...

Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack. https://kalariggins.substack.com/ Welcome to Beneath It All, a mini version of my Podcast (Beneath The Seams) where I share real time, real life reflections in between episodes. Enjoy this vlog as, we discuss: - An exciting announcement! - The Struggle with Uncertainty and Regret - The Power of Starting Over - The Importance of Self-Forgiv...

This one is for the millennial who is fed up with corporate culture... Jess Hilarious went viral after her Breakfast Club drama, but for me? It triggered some deep, deep wounds from my own corporate trauma. In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on... -The performative nature of corporate jobs & why so many of us have to shrink ourselves to survive. -The emotional and psychological toll...

This one is for the millennial who is learning to embrace their multifaceted identity, step into their power, and stop living for everyone else. In this episode I chat with my line sister, friend, and client Jocelyn Perry as we discuss… -The struggle of self-discovery after years of prioritizing others -How entrepreneurship challenges personal growth & self-worth -The power of saying NO and se...

This one is for the millennial who is done with the silly "rules" of dating and wants to experience things on their own terms. In this episode we discuss... Ditching Dating Rules: Finding Peace and Connection Beyond Social Norms Navigating the Complexities of Modern Dating for Millennials Authentic Dating: Embracing Intimacy and Connection Without Rules -Listening to your gut but now overthinking....

This one is for the millennial who doesn't know who they want to be when they grow up. In this episode we discuss... What to do when you don't like what you're doing. Figuring out how to make your dreams come true. Redefining what having your life together means. Learning to ask God for permission and no one else. Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://...