The Energy Xchange

Sometimes we need to prove something to ourselves. That we can do hard things. That we can follow through. That we’re capable. That the story we’ve been carrying about who we are isn’t necessarily true. But what happens when we’ve already proven it... and we just keep collecting evidence? In this episode, I’m taking you back to the absolute bane of my elementary school existence: the Presidential...

For deeply feeling people, disappointment can get complicated quickly. Someone doesn’t follow through, show up the way we hoped, or put in the effort we expected... and suddenly, we’re not just reacting to what happened. We’re creating a story about what it means. Do they care about me? Do I matter to them? What does this say about our relationship? In this episode, I’m exploring the expectations...

We do a lot of work on becoming more self-aware, setting better boundaries, healing our patterns, and learning how to show up as healthier versions of ourselves. But relationships aren’t a solo project. In this episode, I’m joined by relationship coach Aaron King for a conversation about self-abandonment, the patterns we develop early in life, and what happens when we become so focused on managing...

So many of my marketing clients come to me with some version of this: I'd love to speak about this, but I haven't been doing it long enough. I could teach this, but I've only worked with five clients. Or the big one: Who am I to talk about this when other people have been doing it for twenty years? And I always come back to the same question: What would actually be enough? Twenty cl...

Julie Gawle helps people navigate change, which means she's spent a lot of time thinking about what happens when uncertainty, emotion, and leadership collide. In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to lead when you're a deeply feeling person, especially when you can't fix the situation or make everyone comfortable. Julie shares how her background in theater unexpectedly l...

A lot of the rooms we find ourselves in were chosen by proximity — our workplace, our town, our industry, our existing networks. Those spaces serve a purpose, but they don't always give us access to the conversations, perspectives, or energy we're actually craving. In this episode, I'm exploring what happens when we go looking for more aligned rooms on purpose — spaces where we feel...

When we leave something (a person, a job, a dynamic) there's often this rush of thank God I got out of that. And sometimes that's completely fair.  But if we stop there, we miss the more useful question:  What was it about me, my patterns, or the stories I was carrying, that kept me there so long? In this episode, I'm getting honest about how I spent my 20s and 30s attracting the sa...

Something small happens. One offhand comment, one changed plan, one shift in tone... and what comes up in me is so much bigger than the thing that actually just occurred.  For years I chalked it up to being sensitive. "That's just me, that's the wiring..." But that explanation stopped sitting right. Yes, the reaction was oversized, but the thing I blew up about usually wasn&apo...

Before I'd recorded a single episode, I was researching podcast studio rentals. I had a very specific picture of what a "real" podcast looked like — 45 minutes, video, the microphones, the whole setup — and I'd quietly turned that picture into the price of admission. So for a long time, I didn't start at all. In this episode, I'm talking about how often we look at the...

The word empath once gave me language for experiences I had never known how to explain. It helped me feel understood, and I’ll always be grateful for that. But these days, I’m less attached to it as the full explanation for who I am. Not because I’m rejecting the word (I wrote a whole book called The Empath Detox) , but because I’ve come to see empathy as just one expression of a much broader sens...

If you've ever blown up a "perfect" routine two weeks in and decided the problem was you , I created this episode with you in mind. For years I was convinced I hated structure. That I was bad at routines, not disciplined enough, just too creative for any of it. Turns out none of that was true. I don't hate structure; I just can't thrive inside structures that are too rigid...

I've lowered my pricing to get the job and then quietly resented the work the whole way through. More than once. It's one of the worst feelings there is — because you want people to get the best of you, and it's very hard to give someone your best when you don't feel good about what you agreed to. This came up with several coaching clients in the last week, so I wanted to talk...

I love AI and use it constantly in my work. BUT....! I think many people are using it in a way that's quietly erasing the only thing that makes their content worth reading. The question isn't whether you should use AI. The question is: who's doing the thinking? Because there's a real difference between handing AI your ideas and asking it to help you shape them and asking AI to...

Years into a career I'd worked incredibly hard for, I found out what a brand-new employee was making — and it was almost as much as me. My first reaction was: they should have to pay their dues. But when I sat with it, what I actually meant was, they should have to pay the same price I did. And those are not the same thing. In this episode, I'm pulling apart a phrase almost all of us nod...

I spent five years in a job I dreaded... in the kind of workplace where everyone quietly packs up at 4:50 to sprint out the door at 5pm. I told myself staying was the responsible thing to do. Looking back, I'd learned everything that job had to teach me within the first year. In this episode, I'm unpacking something I found myself thinking about while traveling through Italy and Greece l...

Have you ever gone through a season where you felt so consumed by your own problems that you started wondering, “Wait... am I a narcissist?” In this episode of The Energy Xchange , we’re unpacking the difference between narcissism, self-focus, and what happens when a deeply caring person loses the capacity to care in the way they normally do. In this episode, we explore: Why deeply introspective p...

I was standing in a gorgeous, fully renovated hotel room in Rome, the exact room I'd booked, the one with the terrace and the view, and I still couldn't let it go. The problem was solved. I was happy. And yet there I was, rehearsing customer service speeches in the shower, revisiting the hotel's website, feeling my heart rate climb every time I thought about it. Why? In this episode...

What if the anxious, behind, not-enough feeling you carry has less to do with your life and more to do with what's playing in the background of it? In this episode of The Energy Xchange, we're diving into becoming intentional with our inputs, the accounts, podcasts, newsletters, background noise, and even the people, so the loudest voice in your life can finally be your own. This Episode...

This week, we're getting honest about why promoting your work can feel so uncomfortable when you're someone who genuinely loves to teach, create, write, podcast, or share what you know. Because for a lot of deep feelers, contribution feels safe. Selling feels exposed. And if you're not careful, you can end up giving endlessly, building trust, and helping people for free without ever...

This week, we're getting honest about the shadow side of healing culture, and what happens when your healing journey starts to look a lot like another achievement project. Whether you're... Someone who can name every wound, pattern, and attachment style but still finds yourself reacting the same way A perfectionist who's turned self-awareness into self-surveillance, or  A deep feele...

Who are you when the old version of you no longer fits, but the new version hasn’t formed yet? That strange liminal space (one foot in the old thing, one foot in the new) is one of the most disorienting places a person can land. And most people just try to sprint through it. In this episode, we're diving into: Why your nervous system reads transition as danger, even when the change is right I...

Hypervigilance at work can be hard to spot because it often looks like preparation, thoughtfulness, intuition, or being “good with people.” But there’s a difference between emotional intelligence and constantly scanning for what might go wrong. In this episode of The Energy Xchange , we’re talking about how hypervigilance can quietly affect your career, from over-preparing and over-explaining to f...

What happens when your "why" is clear, but the way you're living while pursuing it is quietly draining you? Whether you're: A business owner who's deeply aligned with your mission but barely hanging on, Someone in a traditional workplace wondering why meaningful work still feels exhausting, or A deep feeler who's been putting purpose on a pedestal above your own very...

In this episode of The Energy Xchange, we're getting honest about one of the most quietly painful patterns in relationships — attracting emotionally unavailable people — and more specifically, what role we might be playing in keeping that dynamic alive. Whether you're someone who tends to over-explain other people's behavior, goes along with things that don't really work for yo...

In this episode of The Energy Xchange, we're getting honest about the weird, heavy, quietly exposing feeling that can show up on your birthday, even when everything is "fine". Whether you're someone who tends to reflect deeply, someone who's hit a milestone and felt strangely low about it, or someone who just can't figure out why birthdays feel more like a reckoning t...