Healing Anxious Attachment

Can an avoidant man commit? Our engagement was not picture-perfect. We were aligned on a future together but had never talked about getting engaged, so when it happened spontaneously, it brought up uncertainty, stress and contraction as well as joy. We get honest about how an avoidant and anxious pairing shows up in a moment of big commitment. We also share the personal work that helped us stay st...

My husband joins me for an honest conversation about his path out of avoidant attachment - the pattern of intense connection followed by pulling away, and how he finally recognized it as his own to heal, not something caused by his partners. We talk about the difference between "me" problems and "you" problems in relationships, the somatic work Björn did to shift beyond just intellectual understan...

Why do so many of us find ourselves drawn to emotionally unavailable men - again and again? In this episode, we unpack how low self-worth, harsh self-talk, and struggles like body dysmorphia and disordered eating quietly shape our relationship patterns. We get into why breaking this cycle isn't about mindset or strategy. it's about the body and the nervous system, and why the real work starts befo...

He cancels plans, his tone shifts, he says he's busy, or needs space..and suddenly you're spiraling, convinced this is the moment he leaves. In this episode, we talk about that panic and how to tell the difference between when it's time to self-soothe and give him room, and when it's actually time to have a conversation. __ Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are rea...

Getting a man who's willing to commit isn't about being more available, liking what he likes, or being "perfect." It's the opposite. In this episode: slowing down instead of rushing in, asking yourself how does this make me feel, paying attention to his communication and choices, and keeping your options open. Because staying in your power starts with staying with yourself first. Join me inside Be...

I'm sharing why those "small" triggers feel big. Why you might feel activated from a text left on read, or 'that tone' from someone you love. It's rarely actually about the small thing. __ Go Deeper with Johanna Join me inside Becoming Her - the program where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and m...

I'm taking you behind the scenes of my own relationship and sharing the 5 things I noticed about my now-fiancé that told me - this one is different. After years of dating avoidant men and convincing myself the anxiety was just chemistry, experiencing security for the first time was genuinely disorienting. I almost didn't trust it. In this episode I cover the five signs that changed everything for...

We're getting into why dating triggers anxiety that shows up nowhere else in your life, and what your attachment system is actually doing when real feelings are involved. If love is the one area where all your internal composure goes out the window, this one will help you understand why. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to...

You know you over-give. You know you find it hard to receive. You've probably known for a while. So why hasn't anything changed? In part 2, we get into what's actually keeping you stuck - and what it looks like to start softening without losing yourself. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wou...

You handle everything. You've built a life that proves you don't need anyone. So why does it still feel like nobody really sees you? In this episode, we get into why the very thing that makes you so capable is the same thing keeping real intimacy out - and where it all started. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate t...

An episode about Internal Family Systems. The psychology framework to identify the different parts of ourselves and how they interplay (or sabotage) us. Join me inside Becoming Her - the group where self-aware women who are ready to go deeper than therapy come to liberate themselves from their wounds and patterns and into magnetism and mature love. Live workshop June 7th Live Q&A July 14th Acc...

No one is born with anxious attachment style. So the short answer is yes, you can change your attachment to secure! In this epsiode you'll learn: •⁠ ⁠Why no one is born with anxious attachment, and what actually created yours •⁠ ⁠How your mother's nervous system shaped yours before you even had words for it •⁠ ⁠Why books, therapy, and podcasts haven't been enough, and what's missing from most heal...

An episode to listen to when you're feeling anxious right now. Or, listen now and save the teaching for later 🫶🏼. We also touch on how to regulate your emotions, come back to your own sense of safety, and create a more grounded, secure way of relating. See in you in there! GO DEEPER WITH JOHANNA 🦢 Join me inside Becoming HER - the place you come when therapy and books haven't been enough. For t...

We're diving into the dynamic between anxious women and non-committal men, and how over-availability and trying to hold everything together can unintentionally create the very outcome you don’t want. We also touch on why anxious tendencies attract avoidant partners, and what truly creates the space for a man to step forward, invest, and choose you. See in you in there! GO DEEPER Join me inside Bec...

In a world that often glorifies constant closeness, this episode explores the power of space within relationships. We dive into the concept of polarity - how attraction thrives when there’s a sense of individuality and magnetism between two people. Because when you’re always merged, something can start to fade. We also touch on why space can feel especially important for avoidant partners and why...

One week you feel empowered, hot, regulated, grounded, making progress. The next you're spiralling, your inner critic is screaming, and you're convinced you've undone everything you've worked for. It's not a a setback - it's your internal winter. In this episode, we cover the four seasons of your cycle and how to eat, move, and schedule your life accordingly. Plus the specific codes that helped me...

What if your relationship with food isn’t just about food? In this episode, I share my own struggles with disordered eating and anxious attachment, and the surprising parallels I’ve noticed between the two. From craving reassurance in relationships to seeking comfort or control through food, these patterns often stem from the same place - fear of abandonment, lack of safety, and a deep need for co...

I asked chatgpt to play interviewer and focus on what would bring you the most value. Some of the questions we covered are: "What's one moment in your healing anxious attachment journey that really changed the game for you?" "When we hear that the other person isn't ready to deepen a relationship what's one practice we can do to deepen our self trust in those moments?" "What's one daily ritual or...

In this episode, we explore what it means to move from forced to self-sourced. When external crutches like validation, and good-girl syndrome aren't enough and you’re called to become your own anchor. This conversation unpacks the emotional shifts, inner resilience, and self-trust that are built when you stop outsourcing safety, validation, and direction. If you’ve found yourself gripping and forc...

In this episode, we dive into what it truly takes to become secure within one year. This conversation breaks down the key shifts, practices, and mindset changes required to transform your inner world. If you're ready to step into a version of yourself that feels calm, confident, and worthy of love, this episode is your roadmap to getting there. 🌟 Join Becoming Secure Learn more here: https://link...

The holidays can be triggering, here's how to protect your peace. This episode covers: -How you can bring more depth and feeling into your traditions -5 ways to clear and protect your energy -Discerning when to have the intense conversations Go Deeper into you Inner Work Journey: Join the  Becoming Secure women’s membership to learn how to use somatic practices and inner work to heal anx...

In this episode, we explore what happens when you finally meet a good, emotionally available man, but your anxious attachment starts to panic. We talk about why healthy love can feel unsafe when you’re used to chaos, inconsistency, or having to prove your worth in relationships. You’ll learn how to recognize when your nervous system is reacting to safety as unfamiliar, and how to start s...

In this episode, we dive into the toxic cycle of tying our value to how much we achieve or produce and why it pushes away healthy love. We talk about what happens when our reality revolves around being busy, rather than being fulfilled. And how women suffer when pleasure, joy, and creativity fall to the bottom of the list. This conversation also explores how perfectionism and the need for control...

If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you. We’ll talk about: Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magnetic How to stop mistaking intensity for love Moving from shrinking into high standards for love What it really means to feel safe being chosen Join the Becoming Secure women's membership to learn how to us...

Release anxious energy on every level, from shifting your perspective to completing the stress cycle, holding discomfort, and using somatic practices to create real relief. I explore how to release anxiety on every level: the mental layer (shifting perspectives and letting go of rigid expectations), the physical layer (rest, hormones, and completing the stress cycle), the emotional layer (building...