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That's On Her got a sequel: That's On Me. Why I stay silent through agonizing massages, the "pain as a receipt" pattern, and learning to live into ease.   Links: Ask Me on the Pod CTA: Got something you're chewing on? Submit your question at the link above. I read every single one, no promises they all get answered.

I thought 40 might feel a little more settled. Instead, it has felt like a shaken-up snow globe. This week I'm sharing a little more of me. Grief, marriage, motherhood, changing bodies, changing relationships, and what it feels like to realize you're still becoming. Turns out 40 isn't finished at all. And I kind of love that. START YOUR PODCAST If you've been thinking, I have something to say too,...

Want to start a podcast? 🎙️ If starting a podcast has been sitting in the back of your brain, come start it with me. I'm hosting a 4-week Start Your Podcast Mini-Pod for a small group of women ready to go from "I've been thinking about it…" to actually getting their podcast out into the world. We'll work through your concept, recording, editing, hosting, publishing, and the perfectionism, visibili...

Sometimes you're not confused. You know what's happening. You know what the relationship is showing you. You know what the decision is asking of you. You just really wish the answer were different. In this episode, we're talking about clarity, relationships, boundaries, and what happens when you stop searching for a better answer and start telling yourself the truth about what you already know.

Show Notes Ever convinced yourself someone is mad at you based on a short text, weird tone, or tiny shift in energy? Sometimes something is actually off. Sometimes your nervous system is activated and your brain is filling in the blanks. In this episode, we're talking about the difference between noticing and narrating , collecting data instead of evidence , and learning to tolerate not knowing ex...

If there are so many people pleasers... where are all the pleased people? In this episode, we're unpacking one of the biggest myths behind people pleasing: the belief that if we work hard enough, explain enough, adjust enough, and accommodate enough, everyone around us will be happy. Spoiler alert: that's usually not what happens. Instead, many people pleasers end up exhausted, resentful, disconne...

In this episode, I'm sharing honestly about grief, loss, community, and what it feels like when your world changes overnight. We talk about: • Watching my mom die and the complicated reality of traumatic grief • Why grief deserves to be witnessed • The difference between "let me know if you need anything" and people who simply show up • The small acts of love that carried me through • How people l...

Ever feel like something is off… but you can't quite see what it is? That's a blind spot. In this episode, I walk you through a real blind spot read (shared with permission) so you can hear exactly how I think, what I look for, and how I help clients get unstuck fast. We're talking about: Why you end up stuck in situations longer than you want to be The pattern of managing other people's emotions...

I get this question all the time. "Am I right for coaching or should I be in therapy?" In this episode, I'm breaking it down clearly and honestly. I share why I built my coaching business after working as a therapist with ambitious women who had met their treatment goals … but still wanted growth, reflection, and support. The truth is, they didn't need therapy anymore. They needed a different mode...

First guest episode and we're diving straight into it. I'm joined by Roxanne Engstrom of Hawa Images to talk about what it really looks like to be yourself while your business is still evolving. This is the messy middle. The "this doesn't fit anymore but I'm not fully sure what does" phase. We get into showing up authentically, letting go of what you think you should be doing, and trusting your vo...

A question every zesty queen asks eventually: Am I petty or peaceful? In this episode, Cassandra explores how "keeping the peace" often turns into quiet resentment, why honesty without regulation can turn petty fast, and how reactions are data, not flaws. The work isn't judging the reaction. It's getting curious about what's underneath. Take the just for fun quiz below. 👉 Petty or Peaceful Quiz N...

Comparison isn't the problem. How you use it is. In this episode, Cassandra breaks down why telling yourself to "stop comparing" rarely works and how comparison can actually be used as a tool for growth. Drawing from a recent Girl You Good live coaching call, she explores how choosing the wrong pace setters keeps you stuck and how more intentional comparison can help you move forward instead of sp...

In this episode, Cassandra shares a vulnerable story about a parenting moment she wishes she could undo and the unexpected way she disarmed the shame that followed. If you've ever replayed a moment on loop and convinced yourself you caused permanent damage, this conversation offers a different path. One rooted in honesty, repair, and letting shame lose its grip. If this episode resonated and you w...

There's a kind of optimism we don't talk about enough. The kind where you feel clear, capable, and mentally ready for anything — and then suddenly, you're not. In this episode, I talk about fickle optimism . That fast internal crash from "I've got this" to "what if this never ends?" Whether it shows up through injury, anxiety, grief, or exhaustion, that drop can feel destabilizing and scary. But h...

There was a moment where I had a choice. I could keep things smooth. Stay likable. Trust authority over my own knowing. Or I could tell the truth and feel myself again. In this episode, I share a story from early in my career when I found myself sitting across from people with power over my job, my reputation, and my future—being asked to soften what I knew was true. I pause the story at the exact...

What if the thing you're most embarrassed about actually taught you something important? Inside this episode, we talk about: • why insecurity often looks reasonable in the moment • how control feeds anxiety instead of calming it • the difference between access and intimacy • why growth usually comes after repetition, not perfection • how to recognize when fear is asking for reassurance If you've e...

Season 2 Finale | When the air turns crisp and the light disappears before dinner, something shifts. You crave soup, quiet, and candles—but your brain's shouting, "Keep going!" This week, Cassandra unpacks why our bodies ask for hibernation long before our calendars do, and how to rest intentionally instead of crashing into it. You'll hear how a "grizzly bear season" taught her that rest isn't pas...

Turning 40 brought a kind of healing I didn't expect. My closest friends threw me a birthday party that felt more like a soul reset than a celebration. In the middle of the laughter, tears, and gifts, I had this vivid moment of feeling little — not small, but safe. I saw my cousin's teary eyes, tissue paper everywhere, and realized… this is what it feels like to be loved without performance. To be...

🎙️ Episode Title: That's Growth, Not Guilt You don't actually feel guilty —you feel uncomfortable. In this episode, Cassandra breaks down one of the most common emotional mix-ups: guilt versus discomfort. We use "guilty" as a catch-all for every twinge of anxiety, people-pleasing, or fear of disappointing someone—but true guilt only applies when a repair is needed. If you didn't do something wrong...

The Time I Lost a Friend Sometimes "helping" isn't actually helping. In this episode, I share the story of a friendship I lost when I stepped into a conflict that wasn't mine to solve. From chasing silence and losing sleep, to realizing I was spiraling in my people-pleasing era, this is the moment I learned the hard truth: 👉 I'm not that powerful. And she's not that helpless. You'll hear: Why "fi...

If your life was a movie, what would the audience be screaming at you right now? In this episode, I'll teach you how to use the "movie lens" trick to spot blind spots, catch old patterns, and push into your growth edge. You'll learn how to move beyond self-reflection and actually hold the edge—so growth sticks instead of slipping away. https://www.cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood

What if your group chat habits are actually a mirror of how you show up in life? In this episode, I share a story about a friend overwhelmed by constant chat notifications—and how that opened the door to a bigger truth about boundaries, over-functioning, and connection. Plus, I'll give you a simple skill you can use right now to set group-chat boundaries that translate into healthier boundaries ev...

Can't take a compliment without making it weird? Same, girl—until I learned better. In this episode, I share a story from the football field that reminded me how powerful it is to just say thank you—no qualifiers, no self-deprecation—and hold it. You'll walk away with a two-week challenge to retrain your brain to stop dodging and start owning your worth.   www.cassandrapickett.com/girlyougood    

Do you ever find yourself zoning in instead of zoning out? In this episode, Cassandra breaks down the difference and why ambitious women rarely get the mental break of zoning out. Instead, we hyper-focus on stress, guilt, and stories we tell ourselves—leading straight to exhaustion. You'll learn: Why "zoning in" is actually an energy leak How to tell the difference between real data and a nonsense...

Season 2 is here! We're kicking it off with a real-life lesson I had to check myself on: over-functioning when I didn't need to. In this episode, I share the story of a colleague reaching out, the sneaky pressure I felt to deliver more than what was asked, and the moment I realized: That's all I got—and it's enough. We'll talk about the beige flags of over-functioning—the subtle ways we disguise o...