Work it, Live it, Own it!

Ever said yes to a request and regretted it later? In this episode of Work It, Live It, Own It, host SaCola Lehr explains why resentment often shows up after a fast yes. She also introduces the capacity pause, a short gap between a request and your answer. It helps you make room for what matters without burning out or leaving yourself behind. You'll learn: Why resentment is information, not a pers...

Why can you feel completely depleted even when your visible to-do list does not look that long? In this episode, SaCola Lehr names the invisible load: the mental, physical, and emotional work of remembering, anticipating, coordinating, caring, and following through. You will learn why capacity is information, not a character judgment, and how the O — Organize step of PRONE to Power™ can help you c...

Have you ever set a healthy boundary, said no to the extra request, protected your time, or closed your laptop, and then spent the next few hours feeling guilty anyway? In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, SaCola Lehr sits down with Dr. Kim Foster, a former family physician, TEDx speaker, identity-based transformation expert, and author of Redesigning You: Change Your Inner Story, Transfo...

Have you ever asked for help, set a reasonable boundary, or admitted that you could not take on one more thing, and then immediately wanted to take it back? You may replay the conversation, question your tone, draft an apology, or feel compelled to prove that you can still handle everything. That uncomfortable morning-after feeling has a name: the vulnerability hangover. In this bonus episode, SaC...

The stronger you look on the outside, the more isolated you become on the inside. When you are everyone else's rock, who is yours? True brilliance requires genuine connection. SaCola Lehr tackles a truth about leadership and high achievement that is rarely spoken out loud: the stronger you look on the outside, the more isolated you become on the inside. 00:00 The Hidden Truth About Leadership and...

SaCola Lehr sits down with Nick Strand, keynote speaker, author, and resilience expert, who spent twenty years building world-class stages for Beyoncé, Taylor Swift, and Stevie Wonder zero-margin environments where thousands of people are watching and there is no fallback plan. What the crowd never saw was what Nick was carrying offstage. He lost his mother to cancer, loved his wife Brianna throug...

Episode Summary: In this powerful bonus episode, SaCola Lehr tackles the pervasive "Guilt of the Pause", the feeling that rest must be earned, not simply taken. She challenges the "rise and grind" mentality, revealing how it sabotages our brilliance and leads to burnout. SaCola shares a personal origin story of hitting a wall due to relentless striving and introduces her Recharge & Rise Framew...

Are you ignoring your body's warning signs in the name of "hustle"? In this bonus mini-episode of Work It, Live It, Own It!, SaCola Lehr gets incredibly honest about the dangerous reality of survival mode. Society rewards women who can "do it all," conditioning us to view exhaustion and brain fog as obstacles to push through rather than vital information. But as SaCola learned the hard way, if you...

Are you exhausted from optimizing your rest? Discover why high-achieving women struggle to truly rest and how to reclaim genuine restoration without guilt. Rest is not a reward for exhaustion. It is a requirement for brilliance. If you are treating rest like a metric to conquer, or a luxury you have to earn by completely emptying your tank first, you are not resting. You are recovering from burnou...

If you listened to our main episode, "The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong One," you know that functioning while depleted is a survival strategy. But here is the hardest part about taking off that mask: when you have spent years making it look easy, your sudden need for help can feel to the people around you like an accusation. In this bonus mini-episode, SaCola Lehr tackles the delicate dynamic of...

Are you the go-to person at work, the anchor for your family, and the sounding board for your friends? Being the "strong one" is often praised as a personality trait, but in reality, it is a survival strategy. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, work-life harmony strategist SaCola Lehr explores the hidden emotional toll of constant output and resilience. If you know how to succeed but ar...

Caring about someone and being entitled to their life plan are two entirely different things. In this bonus episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, we are taking the concept of society's timeline out of the abstract and into the real world—specifically, the family dinners and school pickup lines where you are asked the same personal questions over and over again. Building on our main episode, You Ar...

You are not behind. You are on someone else's timeline. And those are two very different problems. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it!, we are dismantling the invisible schedule that tells you when you should be promoted, when you should have children, when you should have it all figured out — and what it actually looks like to delete it. Using the Empowerment element of the PRONE to Powe...

Have you ever felt like you're speaking a completely different language from your partner? You're going through this huge internal shift, realizing that the successful life you've built together feels... empty. But when you try to share this vulnerable feeling, you're met with a blank stare, confusion, or even defensiveness. Suddenly, you feel lonelier than ever, right inside your own home. In thi...

In this episode of "Work It, Live It, Own It," SaCola Lehr discusses the concept of the success paradox, where individuals may feel empty despite achieving societal-defined success. She explains that this paradox occurs when people have followed a prescribed script for success but now need to create their own path. She emphasizes the importance of aligning one's priorities with authentic desires r...

If you feel like your hard work is only rewarded with more work, and you're tired of feeling drained and resentful, this episode will give you the clarity and tools to reclaim your time and energy. You'll learn how to break free from the cycle of overdelivering and start building a career and life that truly sustains you. Are you caught in the overdelivering trap? It’s that exhausting cycle where...

SaCola sits down with Dr. JaNee' Mobley, a wife, mother, coach, and strategist, who rebuilt her life after homelessness, repossession, financial collapse, and public assistance. With vulnerability and strength, Dr. JaNee' Mobley shares how she turned her lowest moment into a launching pad by reshaping her mindset, taking aligned action, and stepping boldly into purpose. She introduces her transfor...

In this final episode of the Suck it Up, Go-it-Alone series, SaCola Lehr addresses the hidden dangers and immense challenges of excessive self-reliance and the habit of 'sucking it up' alone. She revisits three key energy drainers: fear of confrontation, misguided optimism, and persistent availability, and highlights how these combine to create a cycle of burnout and disconnection from what truly...

The Myth of Constant Availability: Why Being "Always On" is Burning You Out In this powerful fourth installment of the "Suck It Up, Go It Alone" series, Work-Life Harmony Strategist SaCola Lehr dives deep into a subtle, yet deeply damaging habit: persistent availability . We live in a world of endless pings, emails, Slack messages, group texts, and notifications that never stop. This episode unpac...

In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it! we explore the hidden trap of misguided optimism, that well-meaning belief that if you just try harder, others will notice, help, or finally step up. Spoiler alert: that pattern drains your energy and feeds burnout. Host SaCola Lehr breaks down how childhood experiences and trauma often shape our over-functioning habits, why optimism itself isn’t the pr...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wishing you’d spoken up — but instead, you stayed silent to avoid conflict? You’re not alone. For so many sandwich generation women , the fear of confrontation quietly drains energy at work, at home, and in caregiving roles. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it! , we’re unpacking how avoiding hard conversations becomes a pressure cooker effect :...

In this episode of "Work It, Live It, Own It," host SaCola Lehr delves into the hidden costs of the 'suck it up' mentality. Discover how this mindset, often mistaken for strength, leads to burnout, resentment, and silence. SaCola shares personal insights and practical strategies to break free from survival mode and embrace a life rooted in honesty and sustainable strength. Tune in to learn how to...

The Nutrition Reset: Boost Energy, Beat Burnout: Simple Food Shifts for Women Ready to Feel Like Themselves Again Tired of feeling exhausted, foggy, and stressed—even after a full night’s sleep? The solution might be closer than you think… on your plate. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it! , holistic nutritionist and naturopath Alana Bonnemann joins me to share how simple food choices can...

If you’ve been chasing work-life balance and feeling like you’re failing, you’re not alone. Here’s the truth: balance is a myth. And the more you chase it, the more stressed and guilty you’ll feel. In this episode of Work it, Live it, Own it! , SaCola Lehr is breaking down why balance doesn’t work—and what you should focus on instead: harmony. What you’ll learn: ✔ Why balance sets you up for burno...

Do you ever feel like you’re giving your all—and it still isn’t enough? You’re showing up, working hard, doing everything “right,” and yet you feel like you’re falling short. If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. In this episode of Work It, Live It, Own It! , we’re getting real about those moments when your best doesn’t feel like enough and what to do about it. You’ll discover: Why doing more...