Through My Looking Glass

Taking some me time just to take care of yourself can be hard. Sometime it seems you are doing for everyone but you. when I fine that is happening to me, I stop and take a time out. Time out for me.

When it comes to memory loss, most of us have experience it once or know someone who have. Living with an abuser who hit us in the dead or us using drugs, alcohol, or smoke, can also cause us to have memory loss.

Even though blacks and whites use marijuana and other drugs, at about the same rate, Blacks are more likely to be charged with possession than whites  As African American, we have been and still are victims of society so why are we hurting each other. we need to come together. Don't let society dictates who we are and who we will become. Black on Black crimes needs to stop. As a survivor I kn...

After getting out of my abusive relationship, I realize he still controlled me. I realize I was still a victim because I, was still living my life as if he was there. in order to transition from a victim to a survivor, I had to make changes to how I live and the way I think.  

As victims and and survivors we have to give thanks we made it through the holidays and live to see 2022. This year is going to be our best year ever. We have so much to look forward to. IF we have not yet, this is the year we are going to take our life back. Take the next step into a better life.

As victims and survivors, we are a culture withing a culture. This New Year lets write out own story. We are determined to continue to make the right choices. We can be happy without losing ourselves. let's celebrate safe.

As the holiday comes closer, we need to fine the strength to stay safe and live to see the new year. Many people commit suicide this time a year. Lets remember we are not our worst enemy. We are strong. Lets live.

It is almost three weeks left in the year. As victims and survivors, we have to find our positive groove for the upcoming holiday. Let's use the positive we learn to help us through the end of the year and after. We are strong. We can make it through the rest of the holiday to come. 

The holidays can be very difficult for victims and survivors. we need to be mentally prepared. I want us to continue to congratulate ourselves for making the right choices every minute of the day. If we continue to make the right choices, we can make it.

We should congratulate ourselves and use the positive things did during thanksgiving to help us through the end of the year. Suicide is up over 30%. Many people commit suicide during Christmas than any other holiday. Let that not be any of us or anyone we know.

Wouldn’t it be nice if people start seeing the good in us and we begin to see the good in ourselves. We can then stat to ask ourselves the question what is right with me. Words has power. Action gives your words strength.

Escaping from my abuser with my children was not easy but i did it. I now have a lifetime restraining order and I am happy. We should be able to make our own decisions. No one should control us. I want you to know if you are in an abusive relationship and you are ready to escape, you can. Get support. I am on the dancefloor waiting for you to join me. Happiness is waiting.

I went to visit my last apartment in Bronx  New York. The apartment where I lived with my first abuser and a short time with my second abuser. I  recall a lot of my memories in that apartment but no triggers. I do not know if it was because I had one of my sons with me. Whatever the reasons I was glad.

Being a survivor and living with not just one but two abusers, i wonder can an abuser change? i read it is possible if they really want to change. It is not for the victims to make them change. it is the abuser who needs to seek out the support and follow through.

When I started this podcast I said I was going to share some of my poetry and my memoir with you. I have shared my poetry today i am sharing  a  section of my memoir. I will also input some of my poetry.  enjoy and give me your feedback.

 Ty a 30 year old man from Brockton has been using since he was young. He is now 4 years, 3 months and 13 day clean from all substances. Ty wants us to know that no one needs to die from addiction. We can survive and overcome whatever we put our mind to. Please join me in congratulating TY while he shares his amazing story.

Posttraumatic stress disorder, what is it.  (PTSD) is defined as a psychiatric disorder that may occur in people who have experienced or witnessed a traumatic event such as a natural disaster, a serious accident, a terrorist act, war/combat, or rape or who have been threatened with death, sexual violence or serious injury. As a black person I know many of us grow up in areas where we see people sh...

This is Breast Cancer awareness month. According to the CDC, Tobacco use is the leading cause of preventable disease, disability, and death in the United States. Nearly 40 million U.S. adults still smoke cigarettes, and about 4.7 million middle and high school students use at least one tobacco product, including e-cigarettes. Every day, about 1,600 U.S. youth younger than 18 years smoke their firs...

I am a survivor. I got out of an abusive relationship knowing that I was on my own. I had four children.  I had faith in myself that I could care for my children on my own.  I found out how strong i was and i want to tell you, you are strong too. 

Have you ever lost a child? I did. I lost one after birth and, one six years ago. Losing a child hurts more then giving birth. It hurts but we have to give tanks for the time we had to love our child. I will share one of my dreams i had. Come, listen. I hope you enjoy.

        2751 and 2996 are very important numbers yet most people do not think about it very often. I am including myself. When one person or a group of people plan and carry out a deadly attack on a vast group of people without any remorse, it makes me wonder These people who died were not only citizen from the us but from other country. More than 90 countri...

I smile when I think about my special someone. Don’t get me wrong, he is not my man or a lover. He is  that special someone I think about when I feel low. I know we all have that special someone. We just have to search our mind. That one we can draw positive energy from.

Do you have or know a child going off to school? Are they prepared?  They might have clothing and other material things, if you can afford them. That is great but have you had the talk with them. Children need to be mentally prepare as well. They need to know what to expect.  If our child makes it to college then you really need to have the stranger friend danger conversation. I am sayin...

The CDC reoports that  Intimate partner violence " IPV starts early and continues throughout the lifespan. When IPV occurs in adolescence, it is called teen dating violence (TDV). TDV affects millions of U.S. teens each year. About 11 million women and 5 million men who reported experiencing contact sexual violence, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime said...

I am not here to  tell you to loose weight. Losing weight does not necessarily mean you have a healthy body. If that is something you want to achieve go for it. More power to you. I have been thinking how having a healthy body and  mind can make for a happier life. Not for anyone just me. That means i will be in control of a happier me. Having a healthy mind and body is a way to keep con...