This African Love

As a certain year in the 1500s drew to a close, the reign of the fifteenth Oba of Benin was slowly drawing to a finish as well.  Oba Ozolua pondered over his succession, usually a relatively straightforward path. He had two sons: the crown princes, brothers Esigie and Arhualan, born within minutes of each other.  These boys were not twins, however. In those days of old as they do now, the Oba had...

One of the things about love is how it’s year-round, and what it looks during the differing seasons of the year and of our lives. So, too, is our feeling about which season we are at, in our lives. When Kemi was growing up, she had a plan for her life. As most people do. Yet, as we all inevitably discover, life doesn’t always go according to plan.  “Late Harvest Wine is the Sweetest” is one w...

In this conclusion of the previous "Ask a Man" segment, we’re going over lessons to learn from men, across varied walks of life. Married, single, all that lies in-between. I sat down with Kaelo A today, a lawyer, marathoner, and avid book reader. Navigating as a single, heterosexual woman is a profoundly different experience than that navigation as a married man, with children. In this multipart s...

In this continuation of the previous "Ask a Man" segment, we’re going over lessons to learn from men, across varied walks of life. Married, single, all that lies in-between.   I sat down with Kaelo A today, a lawyer, marathoner, and avid book reader.  Navigating as a single, heterosexual woman is a profoundly different experience than that navigation as a married man, with children. &nbs...

In this short clip, we have a narration of a dating misadventure. Inspired by and dedicated to Dating While Nigerian. These clips will come through every once in a while, just to lighten the mood. Enjoy!

So, we’re doing things a little differently today! In this "Ask a Man" segment, we’re going over lessons to learn from men across varied walks of life. Married, single, all that lies in-between. I sat down with Kaelo A today, a lawyer, marathoner, and avid book reader. Navigating as a single, heterosexual woman is a profoundly different experience than that navigation as a married man, with childr...

Back with Part II! ...A different flavour, but just as awesome! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Nike Anani, one of the most phenomenal individuals I've ever come across. One of the reasons behind talking with Nike is to discuss how to be a better human being, and how much business and love use the same approach - the importance of communication, the importance of Doing the Work, and Being...

Back with a different flavour, but just as awesome! I had the pleasure of sitting down with Nike Anani, one of the most phenomenal individuals I've ever come across. One of the reasons behind talking with Nike is to discuss how to be a better human being, and how much business and love use the same approach - the importance of communication, the importance of Doing the Work, and Being Intentional....

In the final part of Dating While Divorced, we chronicle some aspects of the divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective. Picture this: You've fallen in love, found your **person,** and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario. You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  Now that t...

In the second part of Dating While Divorced, we chronicle some aspects of the divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective. Picture this: You've fallen in love, found your prince / princess, and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario. You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  No...

Young, Gifted, and Black - and Divorced?!?! Examining the Divorcée journey, from a young Nigerian woman's perspective Picture this: You've fallen in love, found your prince / princess, and are now on the way to establishing them as the king / queen of your life.  You're seeing a Happily Ever After scenario. You have your trad, and a form of a white-dress wedding.  Now that the owambe par...

As most people may know by now, the Nigeria we love so much, is going through some changes. The recent protests, aimed at ending brutality, are an important cultural turning point, meant to address the way that we treat one another. To give this protest its due respect, I am deferring the much-anticipated "Dating While Divorced" episode, until next week. Much love, and speak with you soon.  S...

In this conclusion to the topic on how to be Queer in Nigeria, Xeenarh takes us through the remainder of some of her multi-layered perspective on LGBTQ+ culture in Nigeria. As one of the most topical nations in a continent that continually thrives despite its complexities (both inherited, innate, and indoctrinated), this examination of Nigerian attitudes towards non-mainstream gender and sexual id...

Hello lovelies! I’m so excited to be bringing you part 2 of the discussion on how to be Queer in Nigeria. In this, we focused on the cultural impact and implications. It’s important for understanding the implications of marginalization in this community.  In this segment, Xeenarh touches on the aspects of marginalization that 🏳️‍🌈 people face in Nigeria- from dating, to employment opportunit...

What exactly is “queerness?”  What does this look like, in a country like Nigeria? How much of what we think, is actually what *we* think?  Our own thoughts? The beauty of deciding to do this podcast, is that we all get to find out, and enrich our insight on what it feels like, to be queer in Nigeria. I sat on the loveseat with Xeenarh Mohammed, the Executive Director of the TIERS initia...

In this continuation of the conversation about Intercultural relations, Sydney gives some insight into what it's been like for her, being thrust into the Nigerian community, while being a Black American in Africa. We see some of what life looks like, from a different vantage point.

In this episode, we explore an interesting topic: Intercultural Relationships. What is Intercultural dating, you ask?   Great question! To answer this, we examine some unusual aspects of falling for / dating someone from a different cultural background.  And how it's different when, looks-wise, you have more in common than you do apart. What factor is race, when it comes to marriages bet...

In this part of the episode, we discuss attitudes towards cultural norms on: Dating apps, and dating app culture Ways to avoid catfishing on dem apps Polyamory and religious representation How much of our modern dating rules are actually ours, and not hangovers from other cultures?  This is Part II, of a Part III series.

Have we changed how we date?  What's different? What are the general dating trends experienced across the continent? Everyone talks about African love, but what is it? Our first foray, exploring African dating in a modern context. We talk about issues like - what's the dating equivalent of Jollof rice? What is sexual tourism? We also ask ourselves a question: How much of our modern dating rules ar...