The Stacy M Show

You’re not avoiding your will because you don’t care. You’re avoiding it because you think you don’t have enough assets, you’re too young, or you’ll “get to it in the new year.” I’ve been a lawyer for over sixteen years, and then I got cancer. I can tell you from both sides of the desk that life doesn’t wait for a good time. In this episode I share real client stories (details kept private, of cou...

Let’s be honest, nobody wakes up excited to talk about wills, insurance or what song they want played at their funeral. Most of us tell ourselves we’ll get to it “one day,” or that it’s too morbid, too expensive, or too awkward to bring up with our partner. But here’s what I’ve seen in sixteen years as a lawyer: the difference between a hard situation and an absolute nightmare is almost always whe...

Ever felt like you're saying the words but your partner just isn't hearing you? You're not imagining it. Most of us think a tough conversation is about getting the information out, but that's not what actually lands. In this episode, I'm chatting with the wonderful Liz from Edge of Possibilities about why communication breaks down in relationships, and how to start those heavy conversations in a w...

Seven Out of Seventeen: The Keytruda Story Nobody Tells You Ever Googled a cancer treatment at midnight and found next to nothing from someone who's actually been through it? Same. That's exactly why this episode exists. I'm walking you through Keytruda from start to finish: the side effects on the handout, the ones that actually hit me, and the tough call I made to stop at seven out of seventeen...

I Got Tattoos I Never Asked For (And They Weren't Where You'd Think) We don't talk enough about what actually happens once treatment starts. Not the version in the pamphlets. The real one. In this episode, Stacy sits down with the paperwork from her external beam radiation treatment for stage three cervical cancer and goes through it line by line, side effect by side effect, no filter, no polish....

Ever had someone you love use money as a weapon? Not in a dramatic movie way, but in that quiet, gut-punch way where they say "if you leave, you'll get nothing" and suddenly you're questioning whether you even have the right to go. If that sounds familiar, or you know someone drowning in it right now, this episode is the one to press play on. We're unpacking the real difference between a partner w...

Let's be honest, money and relationships are messy. Someone always ends up "the money person," someone else checks out, and half of us have no idea what's actually happening in our own bank accounts. This episode with accountant and money coach Erin Davis gets into all of it, who really holds the financial control in relationships, what to do if that's not you, and how to actually rebuild your fin...

What Actually Happens During Chemo (The Stuff No One Puts On A Brochure) You get handed a pile of pamphlets, a diagnosis, and about sixty days to "figure it out." That's it. That's the prep. In this episode, Stacy breaks down exactly what her cisplatin chemo looked like, from the cannula going in to the crocs-and-socks combo that got her through it, and why the thing that actually hurt the most wa...

Okay, real talk. We need to stop thinking domestic violence only looks like one thing. It doesn't start with a bruise, it starts way earlier than that, with a comment you brushed off, a mood swing you excused, a "that's just how he is" you told yourself one too many times. In this episode I sit down with Joplin Higgins (family lawyer, DV advocate, and someone who's seen every version of this story...

Are You Actually Listening, or Just Waiting for Your Turn to Talk? Okay, real talk. Most of us were never taught how to communicate. Not at school, not at home, not anywhere. We just kind of winged it and then wonder why the hard conversations turn into blow ups, why the networking event felt awkward, or why we froze mid-sentence when it mattered most. This week I sat down with Jamie Abbott, journ...

You know the message. The one that makes your chest go tight and your thumbs start moving before your brain's caught up. Most of us think fighting back, or over-explaining, is how you win that moment. It's not. It's how you keep losing it. This episode is about the BIFF method, four letters that change how you respond to conflict for good. Not "stay calm" advice. The actual words to type back. Wha...

Stop Trying to Co-Parent With Someone Who Never Agreed to Play If you've been giving everything to make co-parenting work with someone who just isn't meeting you halfway, and you keep walking away feeling like you're the one getting it wrong... I need you to hear this. You're not failing. You've just been using the wrong tool for the situation you're actually in. In this episode, I'm breaking down...

Ever waited for that "green light" feeling before making a big move? Yeah, same. In this episode, Stacy gets real about the myth of feeling ready, and why waiting for it might be the exact thing keeping you stuck. Spoiler: readiness doesn't come before you act. It shows up after. In this episode, you'll learn: Why "I'm not ready" is often just fear wearing a sensible costume The one reframe that t...

You know that moment when someone says something and your whole body just wants to react? Chest tight, jaw clenched, fingers already typing the text you're going to regret? Yeah. This episode is about exactly that. Turns out that feeling isn't just "you being dramatic," it's a literal chemical wave moving through your body, and it only lasts about 90 seconds if you let it. The problem is almost no...

Are You Thinking, Or Are You Just Looping? Ever laid awake at some silly o'clock replaying the same conversation for the hundredth time? What you should've said, what you'll say next time, what it all means? Yeah, me too. In this episode I'm giving you the one question that's saved me hours of my life back, and it might just do the same for you. What you'll walk away with: A dead simple way to tel...

You've probably told yourself you're doing the right thing. Keeping the family together, keeping the peace, keeping everything looking normal from the outside. But if you're honest? You're exhausted. You're not really present. And somewhere underneath all that keeping, a quiet question keeps running on repeat. This episode isn't about whether to stay or leave. It's about something far more importa...

You Hit The Goal. So Why Do You Feel Nothing? You know that feeling when you finally get the thing you've been chasing and instead of fireworks, you just feel... flat? Yeah. This episode is about that. Stacy's getting honest about why so many of us spend years working towards a goal, only to reach it and quietly think "is this it?" Turns out the goal was never really the point. There's something u...

If you have been feeling stuck, drained, or like no matter what you do something still feels off, this episode is going to hit home. Most people think they are overwhelmed because they have too many choices. But what if the real problem is that you do not actually know what matters most to you? Today we are getting real about values, not the ones you were taught to have, not the ones that look goo...

You're Not "Too Sensitive." You're Just Paying a Price Nobody Warned You About. You've sat through the lunch. Replied to the text. Taken the call. And then spent the next three days replaying it in the shower, in bed, at 2am when you should be sleeping. Sound familiar? Here's the thing nobody talks about: that thirty-minute conversation might have cost you a whole week. And it never shows up on a...

You'd think the moment you finally get the news you've been fighting for, you'd be crying happy tears, popping bottles, and calling everyone you know. So why didn't I? When my scans came back clear and my doctors told me there was no evidence of disease, I felt something I wasn't prepared for at all: weird. In this episode, I'm getting real about what actually happens after the hard season ends, a...

Have you ever sat there thinking, “Why can’t I just work out what I want?” while simultaneously keeping everyone else alive, organised, emotionally stable, and fed? Same. In this episode of The StacyM Show, Stacy gets real about something so many people quietly struggle with: feeling completely disconnected from themselves. From people pleasing and survival mode to burnout, relationships, illness,...

If you've been googling "how much does a divorce cost" and feeling completely lost, first of all, hi, you're not alone. But here's the thing nobody tells you: divorce and a property settlement are not the same thing, and confusing the two is one of the most expensive mistakes people make. In this episode I'm breaking it all down in plain English, no lawyer hat, no jargon, just the stuff you actual...

You're Not "Anxious." You're Overwhelmed. And There's a Difference. If you've been functioning just fine on the outside while quietly falling apart on the inside, this one's for you. You're still showing up, still replying to messages, still ticking boxes, but your chest is tight, your brain has forty-seven tabs open, and you honestly cannot remember the last time you felt genuinely okay. Here's t...

You don't need all the answers. You just need the next step. You know that feeling when leaving feels impossible, not because things are good, but because your brain would genuinely rather sit in a burning house than walk into a fog? It's not weakness. It's not love. It's your nervous system clinging to the known, even when the known is making you miserable. In this episode, we're talking about th...

Before You Walk Away. Read This First. We've all been there, spiralling down a rabbit hole of "narcissist traits" checklists at 11pm wondering if this is what's wrong with your relationship. But what if the real question isn't what are they ? It's can this actually be fixed? In this episode, I'm getting into the messy, honest middle ground that nobody talks about: the space between "they're toxic,...