the Self Study Podcast

There's no guidebook to parenting and it shows. From gentle parenting to authoritative parenting, am I doing it right?! On saving or protecting? Literally, how? And the power struggles from the toddler years and for the rest of your lives. Parenting is hard. Re-parenting is hard. We hope that this episode gives you hope and some peace: as a parent you can't get it all right . And your Self St...

It's all fun and games until we get angry. Welcome to this unplanned episode called Rapid Fire Rage featuring Kate, Ruby and special guest: Tini. From white guys with masters degrees to bluetooth malfunction, we rage. Anger is an emotion that so many of us have been taught to stuff down and pretend doesn't exist... obviously that isn't working. In this episode, we rage together. You're d...

The wives are tired.  The husbands are tired. The internet pop-psychology that removes the nuance of our full-humanity as it doles out relationship advice, is tired. Our relationships that are fraught with power dynamics, unspoken expectations, and dated af rules, are tired.  In this episode, Kate & Ruby dive into the heart of relationships, not just the surface labels of it all...

Ruby and Kate suggest there's a better way to *make love* than by taking a bunch of self-help quizzes and trying to perform love. It can be better. They turn their (loving but  not blind ) gaze to one of pop-psychology’s favorite tools:  “The 5 Love Languages.”  While they acknowledge that frameworks can be useful, they also name the  very real ways  these ideas can b...

In this first episode of the You're Doing Great Podcast (formally known as the "Self Study Podcast,") Ruby and Kate roast the shamey, hustle-glossed corners of the self-help world (“wake up at 3am and cold plunge your way to enlightenment!”), then re-center what real growth looks like: honesty, community, sustainability, and treating your life like a gentle science experiment instead of a never-en...