the self-love archives

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ there’s a difference between remembering something and still holding onto it. if a moment from weeks, months, or even years ago still changes how you feel when it crosses your mind, it hasn’t been released yet. and that’s not your fault. most of us were never taught how to actually let something go. welcome to November’s theme: release + let go. rec...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ if you reread texts four times before sending them, apologize for things that aren’t yours, or let a one-word reply ruin your whole afternoon, this episode is for you. for our october self-love book club, we’re diving into Are You Mad at Me? by Meg Josephson and the survival response hiding underneath so much of our people pleasing: fawning. i’m sha...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ if you feel overwhelmed all the time, it might not be because your life is too busy- it might be because it's too loud. in this episode, we're separating busy from loud and going after the two things making the most noise in your head: comparison and overconsumption. i'm getting honest about what the endless scroll is really doing to...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ most of us don't struggle to say no. we struggle to say no without the apology, the excuse, and the whole backstory attached. and every time we explain, we leave the door open for someone to talk us right out of it. in this week's protect your peace episode, i'm sharing why your no comes with a paragraph, what a real no actually sound...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ "protecting your peace" has turned into code for delete, block, and walk away. but here's the thing: you could cut every difficult person out of your life and still have no peace. in this episode, we kick off october's theme by getting honest about what protecting your peace actually means, and where it turns into avoidance. we t...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ the title stops everyone in their tracks, and maybe that's because more of us relate to it than we'd ever say out loud. for september's self love book club read, we're closing out our month of healing your inner child with I'm Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy , a memoir that names hard things exactly as they happened, wi...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ some of us grew up waiting for a love that never came- the words we needed to hear, the safety we deserved, the people who never showed up. in this episode of our september inner child series, i'm sharing the missing piece from my own childhood and how i've learned to give it to myself. we're talking about naming your gaps without bla...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ let's talk about the thing no one ever wants to talk about... money. but this isn't a budgeting episode: this is a heal-your-relationship-with-money episode. it's for the guilt you feel when you spend on yourself, the stomach drop before you open your bank account, and the belief that you have to burn out before you've earned it....

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ september is the new january- this quarter has been building to this. july softened us with community, august opened us up by loosening our grip on control, + now we're going inward. this month is all about healing your inner child: the version of you that formed before the world told you who to be, how to act, what to feel. she's still in...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ what if the only thing standing between you and the life you dream of is that you don't believe you're worthy of it? this month's self-love book club pick was Worthy by Jamie Kern Lima , and the part that stopped me in my tracks was the distinction she makes between worthiness and confidence- because they are not the same thing, and m...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ back to school energy isn't just for kids. whether you're heading to campus, sending your kids off, going back to school as an adult, or just craving a fresh start- september is your reset.  in this episode, i'm giving you the permission slip to stop performing, start over, and build your own fall curriculum. plus why september is the...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ so it's not going according to plan. the thing you thought would work out just isn't working out, and you're sitting somewhere in between the life you imagined and the one you're actually living. this week we're talking about the reset- the real one. not the overhaul, not the five-year plan, not the version where you wake up...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ married by 25, house by 30, and have life figured out by now. who wrote that timeline? ..i can promise it wasn't you. somewhere along the way we were handed an imaginary schedule for when things were supposed to happen- and we've been quietly punishing ourselves ever since for falling behind in a race we never signed up for. this episode i...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ i used to think that if i planned hard enough- got every detail in line, controlled every single piece of it- i could make life go exactly the way i wanted. spoiler alert: that's not how it works. and trying got me burnt out and exhausted. welcome to august, bestie. this is our monthly theme episode, and this month we're releasing control....

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ what if the friend that's draining you isn't a bad person- they're just bad for you? all july we've been talking about community, connection, softness, and making friends as an adult. this week we're flipping it over. how do you spot a toxic friendship, and what do you actually do about it? we're pulling from one chapte...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ why does making friends as an adult feel so much harder than it used to be? in this episode, i'm talking all about friendship- how proximity and consistency made it easier when we were younger, the reason/season/lifetime framework, how to tell when a friendship is draining vs. fulfilling, and practical ways to actually make new friends now. con...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ this week i'm sitting down with Philippa Found , author of It's Complicated: Collected Confessions of Messy Modern Love - a collection of 250 anonymous stories pulled from over 1,500 submissions. we get into why so many of us secretly still think about an ex, the "too much" lie we've been sold, the shame that comes with bein...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ hello, hello, + welcome  to soft girl self-love summer. 🤍 it's july, we're officially in quarter three, and this month's theme is community, connection, and softness. this episode is your invitation to slow down and lean into the season- friendship, relaxation, doing things just because they're fun. we talk about why softness is...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ have you ever been told you're too much? too loud, too sensitive, too emotional, too intense… too you? 🤍 i want you to sit with this for a second: were you ever actually too much- or did you just learn to tame yourself to be easier for everyone else to love? this week on the self love archives podcast, we're closing out June and our theme...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ we all grew up watching the same movie- the prince, the kiss, the credits, the happily ever after. 🤍 but no one ever showed us part two. no one told us what real love actually looks like after the credits roll. this week on the self love archives, i'm getting honest about the fairy tale lie: how growing up on disney and "happily ever afte...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ when was the last time you did something genuinely cool- not productive, not responsible, just cool? 🤍 this week on the self love archives, we're talking about getting out of your comfort zone and doing the things that make your inner child go, "wait, we get to do that?" here's the truth i keep coming back to: staying in your co...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ welcome to june, friends. 🤍 this month on the self love archives, our theme is impressing your inner child-  a tender, joyful episode all about admiration and magic. we've spent the spring healing her and letting her play. now i want us to become the person she always looked up to- not by leaving her behind, but by moving forward hand in hand...

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click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ being dangerously beautiful isn’t about perfection- it’s about presence. in this episode, we’re redefining beauty as something deeper: self-trust, softness, and the kind of confidence that doesn’t ask for permission. we talk about feminine energy, emotional safety, and the small shifts that make you magnetic without trying. this is your reminder tha...

click here to tell us how this landed for you ❤️ sooo excited to share this episode with you- all of the whimsy wellness that changed my life. because even if it's woo woo, why not try it? if it works- it might just change your life in little ways too. let's track on stardust together: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/stardust-period-tracker/id1495829322 connect with julia on instagram @bea...