The Self Help Antidote

Send a text In this episode, we take a journey from the Prime Meridian to the emotional equator, where gratitude, fragility, and fierce compassion intersect. Drawing inspiration from Emile Durkheim, Jonathan Haidt, Marshall Rosenberg and Dr. Bernie Siegel, we explore how to stay grounded and emotionally regulated in high-stakes conversations without losing yourself, or the other person. We dive in...

Send a text What if your best performance doesn’t come from trying harder, but from letting go? In this electrifying episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Jo Groves, coach, presenter, trainer, and unapologetic story teller, who breaks down the art and science of authentic presenting. We explore what it really means to show up: not just to deliver lines, but to create an experience. From rhythm and...

Send a text In this episode, we dismantle the sacred cows of self-help and hustle culture with equal parts honesty and introspection. We start by questioning one of the most glorified slogans in fitness and life: “Go hard or go home.” Is it a motivational mantra… or just a socially acceptable way to ignore your body and trauma? From there, we dive into: ·       The self-inflicted damage we often c...

Send a text In this episode, we’re joined by Jeffrey Sanow—former Senior Intelligence Officer for the CIA, strategic leadership presenter, author of Humint for Humanity , and a storyteller with a wealth of real-world experience in the highest-stakes environments. Together, we unpack why change management is never just about systems—it’s about people. Jeffrey shares sharp insights on what makes com...

Send a text Episode Description: Are you living your life… or managing everyone else’s reactions to it? In this episode, we dig into what happens when your self-worth gets tangled in the opinions of others. From the exhausting pursuit of universal approval, to the sneaky trap of meta-perception; how we think  others see us. We explore how this mental noise hijacks our happiness, relationships, and...

Send a text In a world obsessed with certainty, group identity, and the illusion of "the one right way," what happens when we choose to live in the question instead of clinging to the answer? In this episode, we challenge the seductive comfort of tribalism and explore how identifying too strongly with a single worldview can shrink our humanity. We dive into the dangerous allure of "...

Send a text What if the voices in your head, your doubts, your drive, your deepest wounds, weren’t just background noise, but characters in a play that you could rewrite? In this episode of The Self Help Antidote , we dive into the transformative world of Anonymous Drama, a creative approach to emotional wellbeing that blends improv, wellbeing, psychology, and storytelling. Playwright, director an...

Send a text This episode dives into the real cost of living on autopilot, and how to reclaim your direction through honest self-awareness, emotional courage, and a bit of play. We cover everything from choosing your environment like your sanity depends on it (because it does), to why “discipline” is a form of self-care, not self-punishment. Most importantly we discuss why the only person who can c...

Send a text Ever feel like you're stuck in the gravitational pull of your own comfort zone, orbiting the same problems like a satellite doomed to reruns of its own past mistakes? You’re not alone. Avoiding the Comfort Trap isn’t about radical, reckless change as much as it’s about understanding why we cling to familiarity, even when it holds us back, and how to break free without setting off...

Send a text What if uncertainty isn’t a void to fear but a blank canvas daring you to create? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the unknown, exploring how to reframe uncertainty as an opportunity, take small, bold risks, and build unshakable resilience. Through relatable stories, sharp insights, and actionable strategies, we’ll show you how to turn fear into curiosity, mistakes into masterpi...

Send a text The first session in a coaching relationship is the foundation for success. It’s where trust is built, values and vision are clarified, and actionable goals are set. In this episode, we explore why this initial meeting is more than a simple introduction, it’s a blueprint for meaningful change. Drawing on the VISION framework, we’ll guide you through the step-by-step process of creating...

Send a text In this episode, we dive into the timeless wisdom of Russell Conwell’s iconic parable Acres of Diamonds . This story isn’t just about wealth—it’s about uncovering the opportunities, talents, and resources already within your reach. We’ll explore the journey of Ali Hafed, a farmer who gave up everything to seek riches far away, only to miss the diamonds that lay buried beneath his feet....

Send a text Why is it so hard to change, even when we know exactly what steps to take? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the gap between knowing and doing. From the myths of laziness and willpower to the hidden forces of habits, ambivalence, and decision fatigue, we explore why change feels so elusive, and how to finally make it stick. Learn practical, research-backed st...

Send a text In this episode, we’re joined by two remarkable artists who are using creativity to transform lives and communities: Shaah, founder of the creative collective GRYSKLL, and Quentin Fountain, also known as Q. aka Media Pimp, an eMCee, producer, and engineer. Together, they share powerful stories of trauma, resilience, and the healing potential of art. Shaah, a former member of Wu-Tang’s...

Send a text In this episode, Tiff and I are taking on the ever-persistent hustle culture, where busyness is celebrated as success, and exhaustion is often the reward. We’ll explore the real costs of endless grinding and how it can distract us from what genuinely matters. This isn't about scaling back ambitions but recalibrating them, diving into ways to improve our focus, identify our core va...

Send a text In this episode, we’re diving into the subject of empathy vs. sympathy, because in coaching and leadership, these two are not the same. It's not so much that empathy fails, but the confusion of empathy with sympathy that's the problem.   Think of empathy as that friend who shows up with pizza when you’re stressed, while sympathy just sends you a sad-face emoji and a “Thoughts...

Send a text In this episode, we explore one of the most critical yet often overlooked skills for coaches: emotional self-regulation. Emotions drive decisions and behaviors more than any other aspect of mindset, and your emotional energy as a coach can either create an atmosphere of trust and growth or lead to barriers that hinder your client’s progress. Drawing on insights from affective neuroscie...

Send a text In this episode, we explore why prioritizing wellbeing isn't just a "nice to have"—it's a critical business strategy. Drawing inspiration from the visionary leadership of Walt Disney, we look at how businesses that proactively focus on wellbeing, like Walt saw Epcot long before it was built, can anticipate and solve hidden challenges before they surface. Wellbeing i...

Send a text In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest obstacles coaches face when helping clients navigate change—the righting reflex. The instinct to "fix" or "correct" can create resistance, damage trust, and ultimately slow down the process of change. We'll explore why it’s crucial to avoid this reflex and instead guide clients to discover their own path to trans...

Send a text How does lasting behavior change happen, and where’s the evidence to support it? In this episode, we break down the science of behavior change using the analogy of climbing a hill—because like any steep climb, the journey to change is hard, but preparation is just as important as taking that first step. We dive into three key models that help us understand the process of change: Motiva...

Send a text In this episode of The Self Help Antidote , I chat down with my long time friend and collaborator, John Hardy, the Managing Director and Founder of FASTER Health and Fitness Limited. John is not only revolutionizing the fitness industry with cutting-edge training methodologies, but he's also an improv performer and stand-up comedian who masterfully blends the performing arts with...

Send a text In this episode of The Self Help Antidote , Tiff and I dive into a topic that’s as essential as your morning coffee—setting boundaries. But let’s be real, it’s easier said than done, especially when your brain has been hardwired by a childhood that could have doubled as a Quentin Tarantino movie. I share a bit of my own story of growing up in a highly violent environment, where my worl...

Send a text In this episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we're diving into the nuanced difference between opinions and beliefs. Sure, everyone has an opinion, but a belief? That’s a whole different ball game. And to illustrate just how wide that gap can be, we’re revisiting a legendary moment in history. Imagine it’s 1859, and you’re part of a massive crowd watching Charles Blondin,...

Send a text In this episode of The Self Help Antidote , we delve into the art of communication by exploring the 9 essential keys that unlock genuine influence. Unlike common misconceptions, persuasion isn't about manipulating others; it's about empathetically engaging with them. Join me, as I unpack the science behind effective persuasion, highlighting why you can't simply tell peop...

Send a text In this episode of "The Self Help Antidote," we dive deep into the critical role leaders play in fostering team wellness and the remarkable impact it has on overall performance. Our objective is to understand how leaders can set the tone for a healthy work culture, demonstrate quick state changes through movement, and explore the performance benefits of various wellness pract...