The Partnership Lab

Field Notes: We went to Scottsdale expecting another chance to explore. We came home understanding a little more about what drives that exploration. We’re back from Libertine Scottsdale—and this one gave us plenty to unpack. There were sexy outfits, pool parties, a lingerie fashion show, more nudity than either of us could possibly keep track of, and one very important question about whether Roz s...

Protocol: What if exploring together also means learning how to want things separately? Scottsdale is almost here, and this time we’re trying to go in with less pressure, more honesty, and a much clearer idea of what success actually looks like. In this episode, we talk through our boundaries, what still feels exciting, what still feels uncertain, and how much our expectations have changed since T...

Protocol: What if growth doesn’t have to come from one huge leap—but from a hundred smaller experiments? In this episode, we catch up on the surprisingly large number of small things we’ve been doing lately as we continue figuring out what open relating looks like for us. We talk about preparing for Scottsdale, attending a bisexuality workshop, taking a Kinsey-style sexuality quiz and an ENM place...

Sometimes the best conversations start with a question you’ve somehow never asked each other, even 20 years in. This week, Roz brings a question game neither of us has seen ahead of time, and we let it lead us. What starts with childhood dreams, favorite meals, and questionable music choices eventually gets us talking about the beliefs we’ve outgrown, places that changed us, the lives we still ima...

Our second Partnership Lab Book Club turned into something we weren't expecting. We thought The Other Significant Others by Rhaina Cohen would be a collection of stories about extraordinary friendships. Instead, it became an invitation to question the relationship blueprint we inherited. Rather than reviewing the book chapter by chapter, we explore the assumptions each story challenged in us—from...

Protocol Entry: Compersion This week, we’re back in Protocol Entry mode with a worksheet, some scores, and a lot of feelings about what the data actually says. After completing Marie Thouin’s Your Compersion Worksheet, we sit down to compare our results and talk through what surprised us, what didn’t, and what it reveals about where we are in this experiment. Before we get into the results, we cat...

Bonus: The Dream That Gave Us the Ick After a long and heavy Toronto recap, we’re back with a shorter bonus episode about something that started as a random dream and turned into a surprisingly useful conversation. Max had a lifestyle dream that felt a little too real: a house party, a card game, someone from his past, Roz disappearing without a check-in, and a wave of jealousy that stuck around e...

Field Notes: Toronto 2026 In this Field Notes episode, we’re unpacking our Naughty Gym Toronto weekend: our first time at a lifestyle club, our first real sex-club environment, Toronto Pride, a pool party, a first kiss with someone new, naked swimming, sexy outfits, dancing, overstimulation, unexpected emotions, and one shower conversation that changed the entire perspective of the weekend. Going...

Our first sex-club weekend is almost here. Before heading to Toronto for the Naughty Gym takeover, we sat down separately to answer the questions about what we want, what scares us, what feels exciting, and what might still be too far. Then we shared our answers with each other for the first time. We talk through why we are going, what would make the weekend feel successful, and what we are each h...

Girl Talk: No Labels, No Pressure In this episode, Roz sits down with Lee for a special Girl Talk conversation about finding the lifestyle, learning what feels right, and taking your time and letting the journey unfold. Lee shares how she and her husband discovered Desire, what it felt like to walk into a sex-positive resort for the first time, and why being surrounded by open-minded people change...

What exactly is a soft swap? What’s the difference between a hotwife and a stag/vixen dynamic? And why does everyone keep talking about unicorns? In this bonus episode, we start building a shared vocabulary for the lifestyle by breaking down some of the most common terms you’ll encounter in swinging, ENM spaces, dating apps, and lifestyle communities. Using our best understanding (and a healthy am...

For our first official book club episode, we’re discussing Open by Rachel Krantz — a memoir exploring consensual non-monogamy, power dynamics, abuse, freedom, jealousy, and self-discovery. What started as a book we expected to be erotic quickly turned into something much heavier and more emotionally complex. We talk about: the unequal power dynamics between Rachel and Adam gaslighting and manipula...

Protocol: What if the way you experience desire isn’t random—but actually follows a pattern? In this episode, we dive into the concept of Erotic Blueprints , a framework that helps explain how and why we experience arousal, connection, and pleasure differently. We break down all five blueprint types—Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, and Shapeshifter—and share real-world examples of what each one...

Listener Lab: Real-time questions, honest answers, and figuring it out as we go What happens when you stop planning—and just start talking? In this episode of The Partnership Lab, we’re trying something new. This is our first Listener Lab: a more relaxed, real-time experiment where we use a few prompts and see where the conversation takes us. Using Fifty Questions to Ask Before Opening Your Relati...

FIELD NOTES: What does it actually feel like to step into something new—for the first time, for real? In this episode of The Partnership Lab, the research phase turns into lived experience. Roz returns from a women’s pleasure retreat, and together we unpack what actually happened—not just the events themselves, but the emotional, mental, and relational impact of stepping outside the familiar. From...

How does a long-term, monogamous relationship turn into a conversation about opening up? In this first episode of The Partnership Lab , we share how we got here - from growing up with traditional views on sex and relationships, to reconnecting after years together, and beginning to explore consensual non-monogamy .... before anything has actually happened. We talk about the messages we were given...

PROTOCOL ENTRY: What does it actually look like to prepare—mentally, emotionally, and relationally—before taking your first step into something new? In this episode of The Partnership Lab , we’re in the research phase. Before anything happens, before any lines are crossed, before any real-world experiences—we’re doing the work. Roz is preparing for a women’s retreat focused on pleasure, desire, an...