The Parenting Reframe

Inside, Albiona explores: → Why "letting go isn't the hard part—it's staying" applies to both life changes and daily parenting moments → The four reaction types parents default to when boundaries get tested: punisher, adjuster, panicker, and avoider → Why we desperately seek agreement when we set boundaries (and why we don't actually need it) → How to stop over-explaining to your kids—and to yours...

Inside, Albiona explores: Why kids (and adults) get stuck in "right vs. wrong" thinking What to say when your child spirals after a choice Why avoiding decisions won’t help build confidence Why “holding boundaries” isn’t the same as shutting kids down How we confuse calm with control—and what to do instead What it looks like to guide without rescuing She also shares stories from her own classroom...

From surviving 9/11 to launching multiple category-defining companies, Miki shares how one day shifted her relationship with life, purpose, and doing work that actually matters. This conversation weaves through: What it means to create from soft power instead of hustle culture How nature is the ultimate parenting teacher Why modern parenthood needs a new paradigm —and how HERO Diapers is leading t...

If you’re parenting a tween or teen and find yourself thinking, “They’re old enough to know better — why are we still having these battles?” ...this episode is for you. Behavioral pushback. Eye rolls. Explosive transitions. Power struggles over iPads, phones, and homework. When our big kids act out, it’s easy to tell ourselves it’s personal—and that they should just “do better.” But that story? It...

What You’ll Learn Why your child’s defiance isn’t disrespect — it’s communication. How to shift from “fixing your child” to regulating yourself first. The power of posture and tone: why sitting down and lowering your voice changes everything. How to stop over-talking, over-teaching, and over-correcting — and what to do instead. Ways to parent as a team, even when one parent is more reactive. How t...

In this solo episode, Albiona explores one of the most common parenting struggles — reactivity. Whether you find yourself yelling, shutting down, or feeling guilty after the fact, this episode offers a powerful shift. Albiona walks you through her four-step PARR Process — Pause, Acknowledge, Respond, Reflect — to help you regulate your emotions, understand your triggers, and respond with more pres...

In this heartfelt solo episode, host Albiona Rakipi dives deep into one of the most common (and emotionally triggering) parenting challenges: separation anxiety. But this isn’t your typical advice—this is a powerful reframe. You’ll learn why children protest when you leave, why dragging out your goodbye actually makes things harder, and how your own guilt might be sending the wrong message—even wh...

What You’ll Learn in This Episode The key differences between consequences and punishments Why kids need consequences to feel safe and learn boundaries How punishments often come from a place of reactivity and dysregulation The role of natural consequences (like forgetting a water bottle) and logical consequences (thoughtful parent responses) Why the boundary itself often is the consequence How to...

In this warm conversation Tembi and Albiona cover: How From Scratch began — writing personal grief into a story that reaches others, and how that book later became a Netflix limited series. ( Simon & Schuster ) What “re-nesting” means (replacing the idea of an “empty nest” with a more generative, whole concept) and practical ways parents can prepare emotionally for children leaving home. ( People....

What You’ll Learn in This Episode The inspiration behind Kids These Days and why Dr. Dobud and Dr. Harper felt compelled to write it. The three frameworks of the book: interference, intervention, and ideology —and how they’re shaping modern childhood. Why blaming phones and social media is an oversimplification of a much bigger picture. The concept of digital integration vs. digital interference—a...

I’m back for another solo episode today after a little bit of a summer break. I gathered some of your most common questions from my workshops, coaching sessions, and social media comments. In this episode I’m walking you through a few of the struggles that share a common thread and giving insight into what makes these things difficult for parents and how to work through them. Kids Who Don’t Like L...

In today’s solo episode, I’m answering your questions about how to ensure we don’t raise entitled kids. This is an important question that many of you have asked me on all my platforms. Being entitled can be a very triggering thing for a lot of parents, especially those that grew up without a lot of wealth. We want to teach our kids a sense of gratitude and caring for others. What it really comes...

I get asked all the time about creating content and writing. In this video, I share a few tips on where to start if you don’t consider yourself creative, as well as the three books that changed the way I approach creativity, vulnerability, and fear. Here are the three books I mentioned: The Tools and True and False Magic . The Tools is by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels, and True and False Magic is w...

In this quick solo episode, I’m talking about a newsletter I wrote on Substack about reaction types. There are many different ways parents can react when their child becomes dysregulated, pushes against a boundary they have set, or throws a tantrum. Many of these reactions are rooted in the ways we were raised by our parents or the experiences we had as we grew up. Today, I’m going to talk about t...

In the first video of my series, In Case You Were Wondering ( This is a video series where I share wisdom and answer the questions I get that aren’t directly related to parenting ), I’m tackling the first question most of you ask me: How do you move through fear? In this 6-minute video, I will help you shift from a fear-based mindset to welcoming more faith and trust into your process.   What I co...

Today on the podcast I’m welcoming back New York Times Bestselling Author Elise Loehnen. If you haven’t listened to the first episode where Elise was on The Parenting Reframe Podcast, it gives a great overview and conversation about her first book, On Our Best Behavior . You can listen to it here: https://theparentingreframe.simplecast.com/episodes/on-our-best-behavior-with-elise-loehnen Elise is...

On this week’s episode, I am talking to Dr. Cindy Hovington, founder of The Curious Neuron and the Reflective Parenting podcast. Dr. Hovington is a mom of three and has a doctorate in neuroscience. Her goal is to break down science-backed research on child development and parenting and turn it into applicable advice for parents. She is very passionate about parental well-being as she knows we have...

Back by popular demand, Joe Newman is here for his third visit to The Parenting Reframe Podcast. Joe Newman was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and has made it his life’s mission to help parents figure out how to “raise lions,” kids who want to do it themselves. His book, Raising Lions , is one of my favorites and a resource I recommend constantly. In this episode, we discuss the biggest issues we...

In this episode, I have the absolute pleasure of talking with Neha Ruch, the founder of Mother Untitled , the leading platform for ambitious women leaning into family life. A thought leader, writer and speaker on parenting, women, work and identity, Neha established Mother Untitled in 2017 after working for a decade in digital and brand strategy and earning an MBA from Stanford. Her new book, The...

Happy 2025! The past year has been really transformative for me personally and professionally and I’m excited for what this new year might bring. I want to thank all of you who take the time to listen to my podcast, read my Substack, or even watch a video clip on TikTok. It’s really affirming to know I’m reaching all of you in some way.  A few updates for 2025 that I’m excited to share with you: N...

In today's solo minisode I’m talking all about strong-willed kids. I’ve been talking a lot about this in my emails and on my social media lately because I know it’s a topic that many parents struggle with. Strong-willed kids are the ones that I like to call fair fighters - they’re always keeping score and want to make sure everything is right in their world. But this can cause them to easily spira...

I’m back with another solo episode and I’m giving you a recap of what I discussed in my latest workshop, Parenting on the Same Page. Many people struggle with conflict between their partners inside their homes on a day-to-day basis regarding parenting decisions. While they love and respect each other at the core, the heightened moments of emotion and stress can cause friction between two parents....

In this episode I have a conversation with my friend, Dr. Rebekah Diamond. She is a pediatrician and the author of two books: Eat, Sleep, Tantrum, Repeat and Parent Like a Pediatrician. Dr. Diamond bridges the worlds of being a pediatrician with being a parent. She adds a lot of great parental insight into many aspects of parenting from the rigid research to the wild west of the internet.   Here’s...

In this solo episode, I want to talk to everyone about the ideas of stress and feeling like there’s never enough time. Part of what prompted this topic is the US Surgeon General, Dr. Vivek Murthy, just issued an advisory on parents’ mental health and well-being, citing that many parents feel overwhelmed to the point of not being able to function throughout the day. While parenting can be stressful...

For the topic of this solo episode I polled my audience to see what you wanted to hear about and the answer was unanimous: how to make morning routines easier. The hustle and bustle of back to school season can cause a lot of stress for kids and parents alike. New routines and schedules can be challenging to adapt to but making some small changes can help your family’s morning routines run smoothl...