The Lesbian Peep Show

Were lesbian feminists really anti-sex killjoys, or have we inherited a convenient story about women who disagreed? Dr. Wendy Mallette, author of Lesbian Feminist Killjoys , joins me to talk about born-again lesbianism, trans women’s place in lesbian history, and our enduring obsession with deciding who counts as a lesbian. We get into the pleasure of finding yourself, the politics of getting ever...

Our resident astrologer ET Shipley is back to talk Venus retrograde, exes resurfacing, and whether unfinished business actually needs another conversation. We get into exes showing up in your dreams, the fantasy of finally understanding each other, and finding peace without breaking no contact. Plus: flirting with women, letting yourself want things, and why pleasure takes a little practice. You c...

Sex and relationship therapist Yana Tallon-Hicks joins me to talk about her book Redefine the Relationship and the relationship rules we inherit without ever choosing them. We get into monogamy, polyamory, jealousy, what happens when one person wants to open a relationship, and why “no feelings allowed” gets complicated fast. Plus: lesbian bed death, separate bedrooms, and making it safe to say th...

Dr. Kaila Story joins me for some lesbian discourse: dating women won’t magically erase patriarchy, our spaces shouldn’t have to be perfect to survive, and apparently everyone online has opinions about who gets to call herself a lesbian. We get into masc/femme expectations, the King Princess controversy, gold stars, and the difference between community and policing each other. Plus, a deeply neces...

McKenzie Goodwin of Two Dykes and a Mic joins me to talk about writing and directing Meeting Marsha and making lesbian movies that let us laugh. We get into lesbian reality TV, our queer movie canon, and why being messy on television shouldn’t make you responsible for an entire community’s reputation. We also talk honestly about online harassment, the pressure to get everything right, and what hap...

This week, I’m talking about the Cornell 7 allegations and what it feels like to watch the response as a woman with your own history. I also get into the backlash around a lesbian bar’s proposed mask optional night, King Princess, and the way we turn every disagreement into a public verdict. After a rough few weeks in my own comments, I’m asking how much of the internet we really need to take in....

Women are taught extensively about how to be desired and almost nothing about discovering what or whom we desire. I’m talking about the years I spent trying to enjoy what was wanted from me, fighting to have my no respected and performing sex from a creative brief built around someone else’s pleasure. And the revolutionary question I finally learned to ask: What do I want to say yes to? Content no...

Lesbian porn star Ophelia Fay joins me to talk about what lesbian porn actually looks like when the women making it are queer, why authenticity and pleasure aren’t necessarily at odds with performance, and what it means to build a career without compromising her lesbian identity. We get into everything from scissoring and chemistry with co-stars to sex work, the male gaze, and why “lesbian porn is...

Tiffany Watts is back on The Lesbian Peep Show to talk about building SapphicCon, a new creative festival centering sapphic culture, art, community, and connection. We get into why queer life needs spaces beyond the internet, the often-invisible history of sapphic people in ballroom, and what happens when women create spaces specifically for themselves. Plus: the Sapphic Ball, Original Sin, and wh...

Erin talks with personal trainer and certified gay person on the internet Kade Kasper about butchness, gender, masculinity, and figuring out who you want to be when the examples you’ve been handed don’t quite fit. They get into building a masculinity that protects rather than possesses, what it means to belong to lesbian culture, and why identity gets a whole lot easier when we stop trying to turn...

Pretty Nasty joins The Lesbian Peep Show to talk about life as a masc erotic dancer, becoming unexpected eye candy for studs, and what happens when queer attraction gets to go off script. We get into performance, objectification, consent, the intimacy of dancing for lesbian audiences, and what people still get wrong about masculine women. Plus, Pretty Nasty takes us behind the scenes of Hoochie Da...

Erin talks about all the ways women learn to fake it for men—and how often we’re taught to mistake that performance for who we actually are. From playing smaller and managing men’s perceptions to performing pleasure, she looks at what happens when safety, desirability, and social acceptance depend on staying on script. You can subscribe to the substack here.  You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sa...

Erin sits down with Sue Moreno, one of the women behind Kansas City’s historic lesbian intentional community Womontown, to talk about what lesbian community has meant across generations—and what we risk losing when we no longer believe we need it. Sue shares what she learned from 25 years with her late partner Beverly, finding an openly lesbian relationship at 69, and why she’s now dreaming up a n...

Today we're learning from lesbian astrologer ET Shipley: Why is astrology a lesbian religion? Does my chart say I'm queer? What's the best way to use a chart to flirt well? Unfortunately we weren't recording anymore when she said that my chart said I was a bottom and I'm still shaking my fist at the sky.  You can find ET here. You can find our big sister podcast "Who...

Life updates, DJ BIG PERM, and an intro to the new big sister to the podcast "Who does she think she is" which just launched with "001 FAKING IT FOR MEN." You can find the substack here.  You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast

Be Steadwell joins me for a conversation about making art, telling specific stories and creating the representation you wished you'd had growing up. We talk about creative practice, peaceful relationships, queer joy and why making things still matters when the world feels heavy. If you've ever wondered whether your story is worth telling, this episode is for you. You can find Erin @iamer...

Erin talks with Ivy Les Vixens about building queer women-centered burlesque and nightlife spaces that are sexy, safe, and community-driven. Ivy shares how Les Vixens grew from a need for representation into a thriving troupe and event series that celebrates sapphic joy, consent, and autonomy. They also explore the power of lesbian identity, the difference between the sapphic gaze and the male gaz...

I’m sharing the relationship guidelines that make a huge difference in our lives, and create ease between us. These aren't a guide for all people in all relationships, but rather useful listen if you're refining your own wants and needs. You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast * CHEEX OFFER LINK use code ERIN Details: no minimum term can be canceled at...

Long-distance friendships can be some of the deepest, most enduring relationships we have; especially in queer community. In this episode, I talk about why so many queer friendships span cities, states, and countries, what makes them work, and the small ways we stay connected through every season of life.  You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast * CHEEX OFFER LI...

This week queer wedding dance instructor Elaine Anderson talks about creating first dances that feel authentic, connected, and free from traditional gender roles. From ballroom competitions to helping more than 200 queer couples find their footing on the dance floor, Elaine shares how dance can become a powerful expression of identity, trust, and love. They also talk about coming out, queer weddin...

We answer questions from listeners about how to flag as femme, how to "get out there" and relational skills for building community. You can find Christabel here.  You can find her workshop here. And her substack here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast * CHEEX OFFER LINK use code ERIN Details: no minimum term can be canceled at any time choice bet...

Recent questions from my DMs that I answered because I am opinionated and you asked.  Sometimes spicier/sometimes more vulnerable episodes will be monthly now on Patreon. You can find that here. You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast * CHEEX OFFER LINK use code ERIN Details: no minimum term can be canceled at any time choice between monthly or annual subscripti...

The most downloaded episode of all time. *This is a solo episode where I talk more about my own story, answer listener questions and am generally elated to be queer. Happy pride! XOXO Mentioned: Red Hare Leather & Lava Dreams You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast * CHEEX OFFER LINK use code ERIN Details: no minimum term can be canceled at any time choice b...

We talk about how The Lesbian Bar Project came about, the cultural significance of lesbian bars, and the importance of irl community for learning and relationships. But also tear up about queer friendship, mentors and finding a home in queerness.  The Lesbian Bar Project Substack The Lesbian Bar Project Website You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The Sapphic Syllabus More about the podcast * CHEEX OFF...

Yen Tan is the founder of Cherry Letter Club, an innovative approach to creating and distributing sapphic fiction through handwritten letters. They share their passion for queer history, tactile storytelling and independent art. We also spend some time in the downside of presenting all of this online and why do it anyway.  You can find Cherry Letter Club here.  You can find Erin @iamerinbrown The...