The Done Bingeing Podcast

When I was binge eating, it wasn't that I didn't want to feel my feelings—I just didn't know how to be with them without getting swallowed whole. Every time I tried, it felt like too much. And every time it felt like too much, the bingeing swept in to help. In this episode, we explore what happens when you don't pressure yourself to sit in your feelings forever, but instead take just a small dip....

When I was binge eating, what was missing from my life wasn't just freedom from bingeing—it was freedom itself. The kind of freedom you feel when you laugh with a friend at a café, walk with a neighbor in a park, or lose yourself—even for ten minutes—in a book that isn't trying to improve you. In this episode, we explore what happens when you gently invite pleasure back into your life—not as a rew...

You know those days when you're running on fumes, your inbox feels like it's breeding, and the idea of moving your body feels about as appealing as ironing doilies in a heatwave?  Yeah—those days. In this episode, we'll talk about why getting more sleep, moving in ways you actually enjoy, and easing even one tiny source of stress can quietly start to change your relationship with bingeing. No food...

When I say, "Aretha Franklin," what's the first thing you want to belt out?  If it's R-E-S-P-E-C-T, that's you and me both, my friend. And, don't worry, I won't hold it against you if it wasn't. As one of my Internal Family Systems consultants, Robert Falconer, reminded me, respect is the opposite of shame and the minimum of love. The second of those ideas, he said, came from the work of Pia Melod...

Every time I promised myself I'd quit bingeing, my first instinct was to trade carrot cake for carrot sticks and run so hard I'd practically slide off the treadmill. But no matter how dedicated I was to so-called " clean eating " and marathon gym sessions, the binges always came back.   Here ' s what I missed back then: T here are key things you can do—things that have nothing to do with counting...

What does a shimmering pool on a hot desert plain have to do with you and binge eating? Keep listening! Welcome to The Done Bingeing Podcast. This is the place to hear about how you can pair the emerging brain science about why you binge with powerful life coaching to help you stop. If you want to explore an evidence-based, non-clinical approach to end binge eating, you're in the right place.  It'...

"How do I deal with the urge to binge?" It's one of the most common questions I get asked. The experience of the urge can be incredibly tough, scary even. But you're not alone in this. I've put together this episode with nine actionable steps to help you navigate those moments when the urge to binge eat feels overwhelming. In episode 78, I share nine actionable steps to help you when you're experi...

If you're anything like me, you've probably tried every diet, program or solution you could find—so many of which promised rapid results. I understand the soaring hope as you start out followed by the descent into disappointment when the bingeing returns, because I've been there too. It makes sense to me that you want to stop bingeing right now—or yesterday—forever. But what I've learned from my a...

Binge eaters often wonder: Is it safe for me to hope that one day I'll be able to stop bingeing, after doing it for this long? I remember wondering this too. Then I'd risk it, try a new approach, and find myself uplifted with hope. Then, when the approach didn't resolve my bingeing, I'd find myself dropped back into hopelessness, believing once again that freedom was impossible, a place where hope...

Depending on where you live, you may be about a month into summer. The summer is fraught with exposure stress for many binge eaters. With more heat comes more beach trips, more pool parties, more shorts, shorter sleeves, higher skirts, undershirts, camisoles, Speedos, and bikinis. With more flesh to be seen, the spring often brings on a deluge of summer pressure, preparations, and promises. At thi...

Guilt and shame aren't the same. And it turns out that it pays to understand how they differ and what their relationship is with binge eating. This episode explains the difference between guilt and shame, why we feel these emotions, and what they often lead us to do. When enough compassion is present, it's possible to see how our parts that feel guilt and shame interact with harshly critical parts...

On my road to recovery, I sometimes didn't binge for weeks or months. And sometimes all it took to slide back into bingeing was a holiday meal—a slide that could glide on for even more weeks or months. As it turned out, I'd rock like this . . . forward, backward, forward, backward . . . for decades. This episode is about how sometimes our bingeing can worsen or come back during the holidays, even...

This time of year, Ramadan, Passover, and Easter are celebrations that honor what we believe, who we are, and whom we love. There are open hearts and open homes. Whether it's sharing a tradition, a meal, or a hunt for special eggs, there are many opportunities to nourish ourselves and our relationships. The promise of renewal is everywhere. And so is food. Food could be right in front of us at a m...

In this episode, we briefly review the food feedback loop and take a closer look at pain and desire feedback loops. If we fear a painful experience enough to escape it with food, our brains note that and determine that the pain is a threat. The more we try to muffle the pain with truffles, the more threatening the pain becomes. We shrink and the pain looms. And when the pain comes again, we're alr...

Sometimes it starts like this: We have food that's concentrated in some way—maybe it's extra savory, extra crunchy, extra sweet. And we have an amount in excess of what we need. Then we get more from the food beyond an ordinarily enjoyable way to nourish and sustain our bodies—we get an amplification of pleasure and fullness, a spike in energy, and a numbing of any pain that might be hanging aroun...

Are you making resolutions, writing down goals, envisioning dreams? This can be a tough time for binge eaters because where a binge eater is on their journey is often quite far away from where they want to be. And when something is desperately wanted that feels far, far away, our instinct at New Year's—especially with all the messaging that's come our way—is to do an about face. For many binge eat...

Tis the season to be jolly, we're told, so you know what? Let's talk about that. Why? Because this season really can be jolly, where feelings and festivities align. I had so many holiday seasons where I felt much love, much togetherness, and was left enthralled. Maybe you're feeling something like that right now. This is the bliss of having our physical, social, emotional, and spirituals needs met...

  When past binges are held in secrecy and shame, this can be a lonely ride … even when the candles of the menorah light up, day by day; even when lights on the trees twinkle, inside and out; even when carolers serenade before your door; and even as the Kwanzaa flag is draped, east-facing, across a table of honor. It's one thing to feel alone when you  are  alone. It's another thing altogether, wh...

When a binge has started it can seem as if you're veering off-course with no way back. But there is a way forward, even as you're already eating off protocol. Listen in for the 6 steps to take when it feels as if failure is upon you. If you're ready to apply the concepts in this podcast at a deeper level, join me in The Soulfull Academy membership program. Go to https://www.holdingthespace.co/join...

This episode is about what to do if you feel you won't be able to have a day without bingeing, or without going off a diet or protocol. You may recognize all-or-nothing, aka black-and-white, thinking if you've ever thought something similar to, "I know I'm going to binge, so I might as well make it count." Episode 65 offers five ideas for the times you sense an oncoming urge to binge and that you...

NOTE: This episode contains mild swearing If you're trying to set a boundary with someone in your life and want to do it with compassion and confidence, this is the episode for you! So often, we react to the hurtful actions of others from a place of judgment, resentment and other emotions that feel heavy. Episode 64 invites you to access the courage and strength within to set powerful perimeters t...

In the throes of an active episode of binge eating, you can feel completely taken over by the drive to binge—almost like that's all you are. But the part of you that wants to binge is just that, a part. Episode 63 explores how to move toward a space of Self energy—the true essence of you. Living from that place of openness, calm, and clarity is very different from feeling taken over by a part. If...

It makes sense to side with the part of you that wants to stop bingeing. However, although it can seem counterintuitive, giving equal voice to the part that wants to binge often allows it to relax. Episode 62 considers how connecting with the part of you that binges can hold the key to understanding how to stop. If you're ready to apply the concepts in this podcast at a deeper level, join me in Th...

Sometimes, it can feel as though your connection with your inner wisdom has been lost, or blurred. Perhaps coping strategies have emerged that end up pulling you down—coping strategies like binge eating. Episode 60 considers why that may have happened. Now, the focus shifts toward re-establishing a sense of Self leadership that will guide you toward healing and freedom. This episode explores the 6...

Perhaps it makes sense to you—on an intellectual level, at least—that you have the power inside to find a way out of bingeing. Why, then, might that wise inner leadership have sometimes been absent? If you feel confused, or even resentful, at not always being able to access that deeper sense of your Self, you might consider that even the president is evacuated in times of crisis. When that happens...