The Best Self Podcast

In this episode, I’m talking about why goals alone aren’t always enough to keep us moving, and why having a bigger vision for your life can be so powerful. Sometimes we get so focused on what we need to achieve next that we forget to ask the bigger question: what do I actually want my life to look and feel like? I’m sharing how I’ve been using AI to create a detailed “day in the life” of my future...

In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can feel so different in midlife, especially when you’re motivated, ambitious and still somehow finding yourself stuck in that stop-start cycle. So often, the problem isn’t a lack of discipline. It’s trying to work at a pace that no longer fits your actual life or capacity. I’m sharing a more sustainable way to approach progress, including my red...

In this episode, I’m talking about why goal setting can start to feel very different in midlife, even when you are motivated, capable and know exactly what you want. For me, the problem was not discipline or willpower. I was setting goals for the life I used to have, not the capacity I actually have now. We’ll look at starting with how you want to feel, getting honest about your current responsibi...

September always feels far more like a fresh start to me than January. The routines are returning, the summer chaos is settling, and there’s suddenly a little more space to think about what I actually want for myself. In this episode, I’m sharing the simple reset process I use every September, inspired by my years as a stylist. We’ll reflect on where life feels good and where it needs attention, c...

In this episode, I’m sharing what it has looked like to start again with my health, fitness and routines after a really difficult few years. I talk about returning to boot camp, choosing courage over comfort and why waiting until you feel completely ready can keep you stuck for far longer than you realise. I’ll also share what I’ve learned about acceptance, letting go, capacity and rebuilding trus...

In this episode, I’m sharing why September has always felt more powerful to me than January when it comes to making changes. Inspired by fashion’s iconic September issue, I’m looking at how we can use this season as a reset, choose a clear direction and stop drifting through the final months of the year on autopilot. I’ll talk about identity, goals, habits and why real change is not just about wha...

Have you ever wanted to step forward, wear the dress, start the business, go to the gym or simply feel more like yourself, but found yourself holding back? I know that feeling because I’ve lived it too. In this episode, I’m talking about the shame that can quietly make us shrink, hide and wait until we feel more ready, more confident or somehow more acceptable. I explore how life changes can leave...

I’m recording this right in the middle of the school holidays, when the days are full, the routine has vanished, and the question “What can we do today?” seems to be playing on repeat. I want to say out loud what many mums quietly feel: you can adore your children and still find the holidays exhausting, lonely, chaotic and mentally relentless. I talk honestly about social media pressure, running a...

I’m talking about those moments when someone hands you their panic, pressure or emotional urgency and suddenly expects you to carry it. I call it an emotional hot potato, and just because it lands in your hands does not mean it belongs to you. In this episode, I explore how people-pleasing, weak boundaries and fast reactions can leave us absorbing problems that were never ours to solve. We’ll look...

In this episode, I’m asking you to think about who you were before life became so grown-up, complicated and full of responsibility. I share how I slowly edited parts of myself to become more likeable, more acceptable and easier for other people to understand, and how that pattern followed me into adulthood and motherhood. We also explore identity loss, the impact of tying your worth to your work,...

In this episode, I’m exploring what happens after you decide to ‘let them’. This theory can be a powerful way to stop trying to control other people, but sometimes letting them is only the beginning. If you are still angry, hurt or walking on eggshells, that feeling may be telling you something important. I’m talking about the difference between irritation, crossed boundaries and genuinely unsafe...

I love a bubble bath, a face mask and a bit of chocolate as much as anyone, but they are not always the kind of care that genuinely restores us. Sometimes they are simply a nice moment at the end of another exhausting week. In this episode, I’m looking at the difference between numbing, escaping and truly replenishing yourself. I’m sharing why self-care needs to become a daily essential rather tha...

We are surrounded by promises of quick fixes, instant breakthroughs and effortless transformation. But real growth rarely looks like a polished before-and-after. In this episode, I’m talking about why the inner work can feel slow, messy, painful and exhausting, and why that does not mean you are doing it wrong. I share what I have learned about stuck periods, emotional integration and staying with...

Do you find yourself scanning other people’s moods, replaying conversations and wondering whether someone is upset with you? In this episode, I’m talking about over-giving, over-functioning and fawning, and how these patterns can quietly leave you burnt out, resentful and disconnected from your own needs. I explore why being the capable one can become tied to your self-worth, how empathy turns int...

If getting dressed has started to feel frustrating, flat or strangely emotional, this episode is for you. I’m talking about why so many capable women end up with wardrobes full of clothes and still feel as though they have nothing to wear. This is not about fashion trends or buying more. It is about identity, self-worth and creating a wardrobe that reflects the woman you are now. I share why pract...

For years, I felt as though I was living inside a tiny box, one built from other people’s opinions, expectations and comfort. In this episode, I’m talking about what shrinking really looks like, from hiding your achievements to keeping your dreams quiet because you are afraid of being judged. I explore the difference between humility and betraying who you are, why silence from others can feel so p...

I nearly skipped a 20-minute workout because my brain had built a very convincing case for why everything else mattered more. Sound familiar? In this episode, I’m looking at the way we show up reliably for everyone else, while quietly treating our own needs as optional. I share how I moved through the overwhelm, why motivation is not always the real issue, and what changed when I stopped trying to...

I’m back, and honestly, it feels so good to say that. After life got big, messy, heartbreaking and properly challenging, I had to step away for a while. But the inner work didn’t stop, even when the podcast did. In fact, it carried on quietly under the surface. This new chapter is for the capable woman who looks like she’s holding it all together, but is quietly exhausted by the performance of it....

After three years away, I’m back behind the microphone, not because I have everything figured out, but because I’m finally learning to trust myself again. I’m sharing what happened when life became overwhelming, I kept putting everyone else first, and slowly disappeared from my own life. I talk honestly about burnout, frightening vertigo attacks and the moment I realised my body was forcing me to...

Have you ever created the perfect plan, felt completely fired up, then watched it fall apart before the day had properly begun? In this episode, I’m talking about the all-or-nothing trap, and why unrealistic plans can leave us feeling incapable when the real problem is the strategy, not us. I share how I’m learning to build flexibility into my goals, reduce promises until they feel impossible to f...

Back at school, September was always a time for fresh starts. It meant a new school year, new pencil cases, new uniforms..  In this episode I question why did we ever stop seeing September as a fresh start?  September is a great time of year to renew yourself and your business!    Here are the highlights:   (03:06) Fresh start affect  (07:29) Take a step back  (1...

Had a bit of a rollercoaster week? Then you'll relate to this one. Today, I'm sharing lessons from Calvin D. Banyan's book "The Secret Language of Feelings" and trust me, it's a game-changer. We'll chat about 10 emotions, from fear to guilt, frustration to disappointment, and I'll share some tips on how to handle these feelings without letting them boss you around. So, get comfy, grab a drink and...

Ever found yourself fighting boredom or feeling guilty for not keeping every minute of your child's day filled with activities? Well, this episode is for you. Let's rethink boredom and see it from a different perspective. We'll explore how a slower pace and even boredom can be beneficial for our mental and physical wellbeing, especially in our digital age where we are constantly "switched on." I'l...

In today's episode, I'm gonna take you on a bit of a journey. It's all about ditching the safe zone and daring to dream big, really big! It’s easy to get caught up in mum life and forget about our dreams. I'll be sharing some raw, real moments, especially those around parenting a child with additional needs. So, if you've ever found yourself playing it small, lost in the everyday grind, or simply...

In this week’s episode, I am taking a deep dive into mum guilt, sharing my own struggle with balancing parenthood and self-care. The instinct to protect our children, the lack of time, and the sacrifice of personal freedom all feed into the guilt we bear as mothers. My goal is to change the narrative around mum guilt, not just for you, but for myself too. It's time for some real talk. Let’s dive i...