Taking Up Space: A Podcast

Can I be honest? I often default to feelings of unlovable and underserving when things go wrong in my life. It’s largely because I always heard how I was “too much” growing up. Even now, friends will jokingly say it, and although I lean into it, shit still stings. In this episode I explore where the origins of those feelings come from and set a plan to course correct when they surface.

I'm saying goodbye to life as I've known it and I'm pissed and sad and upset and disappointed and angry, forcing me to ask one of the most honest questions yet, "God, how is this love?"

Quite possibly my favorite topic to talk about besides sex, love, and relationships is friendships. Which as we all know, is a relationship in itself that also requires nurturing, attention, encouragement, and sometimes even separation. What happens when you find yourself no longer enjoying the people you once did? What happens when you've outgrow the people you've shared so much life with...

I’m fucking proud of myself for unlearning, divorcing traditional thought, and establishing boundaries. I only know myself broken from practically birth. Would’ve love to know who I would’ve grown into if I was born healed.

Life sucks right now. And that’s perfectly okay to say.

I’ve been struggling quite a bit over the last six months with feeling disconnected from all the things I’m famously known for online – my work, my voice, my impact, this podcast…even conversations around #WithABoy has dwindled because, well quite frankly, ain’t no mothafuckin' boys to talk about, which obviously brings about separate feelings. But along with the disconnect, I’ve also been carryin...

A love letter to myself.

When I think about those four months of my life I smile. I’m grateful that I was introduced and got to live in the most beautiful bubble of love ever. And as much as those moments were incredible — I’m ready to move on. Almost desperate to. As much as ebbing and flowing is apart of life, I done did it enough. Tap me out of the ebb and place me in the flow.

Sometimes the only way to be supportive is by walking away.

Since March rumors about my job were floating around online and in April they were confirmed. After 8 season The Real was being cancelled. And as you can imagine, I was instantly flooded with messages, some even a month prior to any confirmation of any thing. I was annoyed. Big time. After almost two months of sitting with my feelings I'm ready to talk about it. But not the "it" you're probably th...

Wow. We’re ONE! It’s so crazy to think how quick this year has gone by since Taking Up Space was created. Everything about my personal and professional life has changed, which you all know all about by now. I am so damn grateful for just how incredible God has moved on my behalf. I only want to be in spaces where I’m impactful and I love that the podcast has allowed me to do that with so many of y...

“For the most part, a man will orgasm regardless, what are your thoughts about women having their orgasms first in whatever manner that pleases them, then having intercourse to please their man?” “How do you think your sexual life would’ve been different had you actually learned what you now know?” “How do you plan on teaching the younger generation without over-exposing or taking away their abili...

My arrival at sexual liberation and freedom was severely delayed. My relationship with sex has changed drastically, mostly because I no longer subscribed to a lot of the bullshit I was taught. The scare tactics of purity and "what you won't do another woman will" was embedded at such a young age, I would go on to learn that I had no idea what my sexuality and femininity meant to me -- separate of...

"Now that you're out of my life I'm so much better..." And while I am better, a HELL OF A LOT better, I still carry around the effects of being a survivor, and it's showing up in so clear now more than ever.  This episode walks you through real-time growth at one of the most crucial parts of my life. *cheers* to actually doing the work and not just talking about it.

In the last two months, life has changed drastically. I turned 34 and secretly moved from Maryland to Los Angeles during WFH orders to make a 13-year dream come true.  Less than a month after leaping a MASSIVE net appeared in only a way God gets the glory for. Here's how it happened.

One of the worst things women do is make men pay for a heart they didn't break because of unresolved daddy issues. In many ways, I feel like a fatherless daughter. It has shaped my life in more ways than I can imagine. Every relationship in my life, albeit personal, familial, or romantic has been impacted by growing up without my father in the home.

It's normal to outgrow people and things and jobs, but if you're not honest about your feelings you can find yourself stuck in a loveless relationship, a friendship that lacks reciprocity and a job that doesn't value you. Want to chase your dreams? Want to start over? Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Disappointment means you're actually living and not just existing. You've opened yourself to love but found yourself heartbroken. You've accepted your dream job but now you hate it. You've forgiven but only to be taken advantage of again. How do you process pain in the wake of constant disappointment?  Why is everything a lesson? God, if I'm Your child why is everyone else winning? 

At the end of April Netflix announced a new podcast hosted by two popular Black women in the media and social media space. Alongside the many congratulations were several declarations of disappointment from women that worked in the same industry. The question? Why did it seem as if the same group of friends always got the big opportunities? While I completely understood the feeling and had felt th...

This has been my life's motto for as long as I can remember. And if I'm honest I always felt as if my journey was unnecessarily hard and wrought with annoying challenges and unavoidable heartache. This episode starts at the beginning, growing up as an only child in a single-parent home. Riddled with loneliness and a crazy amount of creativity, both would go on to shape me as a woman navigating lif...