Settling Is Bullshit

While it might not feel like it, people really aren't usually trying to be assholes. And we can generally make our own lives a lot easier by deciding that they mean well (even if they still do shit that drives us bonkers). To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/06/09/deciding-people-mean-well/

We talk a lot about "feeling" hopeful, but the truth is that hope is actually a way of thinking rather than an emotion. It's a tool we can train ourselves to use; something we can explore when we need to find our way forward. To read along, visit the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/04/20/hope-isnt-a-feeling-its-a-choice/

Letting go of negative self-talk is so important! And it starts with actually noticing all the mean shit that your inner critic is saying to you. The more we repeat affirming, self-compassionate things, the more we build our sense of self-worth, self-love, and self-esteem. To read along, visit the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2023/01/17/start-talking-to-yourself-like-a-friend/

What would you do in your life if you weren't afraid? How much more freedom would you feel on a daily basis if you chose love over fear? It's a tall order, but choosing love is an excellent path to finding more joy and fulfillment in our lives. To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/27/moving-from-fear-to-love/

When we pause to really look at what's got us angry or upset or sad - it almost always comes down to fear. That's what makes it such a sneaky fucker. We often don't realize how the root cause is usually that we're afraid of either losing something we have or not getting what we want. Read along by visiting the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/14/fear-is-a-sneaky-fcker/

Letting go of the story that we're broken (or that other people are broken) frees us up to find greater compassion, healing, and capacity for joy. The lie of "brokenness" is just a shitty story we have to stop telling ourselves. To read along, visit the website: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/07/what-if-nobody-is-broken/

An introduction to the concepts and ideas we'll cover on the blog (and podcast). Definitions of "settling" and a discussion of the difference between settling and finding our "good enough." To read along, visit the blog: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/12/02/wtf-is-settling-is-bullsht/

Blog number 2: a pep talk about getting started on anything. From creative projects to habit change, we have to stop waiting for the perfect conditions and just start anyway. Visit the website to read along: https://settlingisbullshit.com/2022/11/16/whatever-it-is-just-fking-start/

Voice recording of the first blog post on Settling Is Bullshit: " Healthy Breakups: Holding Space for Grief and Gratitude " Discussion of what "success" means in a relationship, how to navigate conflicting feelings, and the importance of acknowledging the struggle.

Welcome to the natural evolution of Settling Is Bullshit – a mishmash of sweary life advice that began as a blog in November of 2022. Created for humans trying to get better at adulting and being nice to ourselves, we'll talk about trauma, vulnerability, authenticity, self-compassion, and all the good shit that helps us show up for ourselves and each other just a little bit better every day. Visit...