Self over Society Podcast

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Have you ever come across the quote, " An hour before 9 am is worth 2 after 5 pm"? Now, consider this: Do you prioritize the morning or the evening? In this case, the evening involves socializing after work, going out for drinks with friends, and perhaps using mornings for recovery rather than productivity. This episode encourages us to reconsider our priorities rather than solely seeking answers...

I once heard this powerful phrase that's stuck with me ever since: "Marry the process, divorce the result." For far too long, I've measured my happiness and success through the lens of others' expectations and societal standards. It's been a rollercoaster, trying to find confidence in my own pursuits amidst this external noise. When we chase after goals based on what's popular or what society tell...

Season 3 has kicked off, exploring my transition from a chaotic life of weekend binge drinking to becoming a self-taught entrepreneur. My goal is to assist others in finding their true selves without relying on artificial enhancements! Embracing the "I don't care" mindset alongside sober confidence and letting go can be transformative. I remember the time I walked around my neighborhood multiple t...

It’s crucial to recognize the importance of dedicating effort to both work and relationships, ensuring they are mutually fulfilling. This enables us to assess whether our partners or social circles positively contribute to our lives and helps us evaluate how we utilize our time. Once we value our time, it becomes essential to adjust our routines to prioritize meaningful pursuits. Emphasizing the s...

We have this tendency to share our goals and resolutions with the world, only to feel disappointed when we don’t follow through. I fell into this trap and it led to repeated failures. The turning point came when I decided to focus on personal growth without the need for external validation. By prioritizing my mental health and fitness journey quietly, I found more meaningful success because I did...

Who controls your story? Does it mirror who you aspire to be or who you aim to avoid becoming? A valuable self reflection is asking yourself if you have a journey of progress, growth, and discovery to confidently share with others. If not, it might suggest reevaluating your priorities and surroundings. Connect with me on Instagram for health, wellness, and lifestyle stuff within a modern, sober, a...

We often overthink the "what ifs" before making decisions, which is a good practice in theory, evaluating the pros and cons of a pursuit. However, it's crucial not to let this cautious approach stop you from pursuing opportunities once you realize they carry minimal risk. I've been in situations where I wanted certain things in life but lacked the courage to act because I was too focused on things...

First and foremost, it is crucial to distinguish between what is within your control and what is not. Once you have this understanding, you can reflect on the reasons behind your lack of action despite having control. We often overlook our superpower—control—because we're preoccupied with external factors, such as opting for the easy way out. Accessing this power becomes difficult when our minds a...

“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." Here, we break down the Serenity Prayer, not just in its relevance to our relationship with alcohol, but also in its applicability to our everyday lives. I struggled with discerning the aspects within my control and those beyond it, as I often found myself co...

Just as your body reflects your habits, your social circle reflects you. As we strive for sobriety, it's crucial to take stock of our surroundings. Our environment has a profound impact on our journey. By assessing the places we frequent and the people we surround ourselves with, we gain clarity on how they shape our efforts towards sobriety. Choosing supportive and constructive influences can gre...

I realized I wasn't following the right people, and it was hard for me to connect with their past experiences or understand their journey to where they are now. What I lacked was an appreciation for the drive and perseverance that can be found in anyone, no matter their financial situation. In our rapidly changing world of technology, it's crucial to pay attention to those actively pursuing their...

Our time is incredibly valuable, yet we often find ourselves committed to stuff that neither benefit us nor bring us happiness. Why is that? Are we so comfortable that we fail to acknowledge when something impedes our growth? I'm not suggesting you quit your job, travel the world, and search for yourself, but it's time to make some changes, and that starts by recognizing when an activity, pursuit,...

Season 2 has started, diving into the lessons I've learned and how they apply to our everyday lives! Do we love our 9-5 job while we pursue our side hustle? Perhaps not! But that’s okay because it is beneficial in ways we may not realize. We should be cognizant of how we utilize our time while balancing it between someone else’s business and our own. The ultimate goal is to love what we do, but le...

Let's dive into all four episodes and highlight key takeaways as we continue this incredible journey together! Connect with me on Instagram for health, wellness, and lifestyle stuff within a modern, sober, and collective space.

It is crucial to evaluate your surroundings when in recovery from addiction because your environment can greatly impact your success. This includes evaluating factors such as exposure to your triggers, like alcohol. It is important to limit or avoid them as much as possible. The people you surround yourself with can either support or hinder your recovery efforts. It is important to evaluate whethe...

This topic discusses the difference between quick bursts of dopamine and long-term stimulation, and how our behavior changes in response to seasonal shifts. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter associated with pleasure and motivation, and our brains can experience short-term spikes of dopamine from things like social media notifications or sugary foods, or long-term stimulation from activities like exer...

In addition to focusing on your mindset and support system, it's also important to reflect on your journey so far. Take some time to ask yourself how you felt over the past few months. Did you feel accomplished? Did you feel rewarded? Did you feel disappointed? Did you feel regretful? It's essential to understand what brought you to considering or pursuing sobriety and to stay true to your motivat...

Questions related to your sobriety journey can be deeply personal and emotional and may trigger feelings of vulnerability or discomfort. Make sure to take time before disclosing your sobriety until you feel ready for potential difficult conversations. For us to take time, we must learn to win in silence and enjoy the grace period. This allows yourself to adjust to your new way of life and build th...