Roots and Attachment Podcast

What is family abolition, and why are some people questioning the role of marriage, parenting, and the traditional family? In this episode of Roots and Attachment , we explore the growing conversation around family abolition, Sophie Lewis’s book Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation , parental rights, and the cultural shift toward viewing family relationships through the lens of...

Why does the partner of someone with narcissistic traits sometimes start acting like them? Many adult children and former partners of narcissistic family systems describe the same confusing experience: over time, the other parent—or partner—begins to sound, think, and behave more like the narcissistic person. They defend the same stories, minimize the same harm, and sometimes become emotionally un...

Why does an unanswered text feel devastating? Why can criticism feel unbearable? Why do some people struggle to trust, ask for help, or feel safe in relationships—even when they desperately want connection? In this episode of the Roots & Attachment Podcast , we’re exploring the hidden impact of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) and how early relationships shape the way our nervous systems experience the world....

Why do you always feel like the responsible one? Or the fixer? Maybe you’re the one who keeps everyone laughing, disappears into the background, or somehow always ends up being blamed. These patterns aren’t random. They often begin in childhood. In this episode of the Roots & Attachment Podcast , we’re exploring the hidden roles children take on in dysfunctional families and how those survival str...

Attachment styles shape how we love, argue, pull away, cling, shut down, or stay silent in relationships—but most people don’t realize they formed long before adulthood . In this episode of Roots & Attachment , Denver trauma therapist Erika Baum, LPCC , breaks down how attachment styles develop , why they exist, and why they are not personality traits or character flaws . Through a relatable story...

Home Alone isn’t just a Christmas classic — it’s a powerful story about attachment, the nervous system, and emotional survival. In this episode, attachment trauma therapist Erika Baum explores Home Alone through the lens of avoidant attachment , breaking down how dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant patterns form in childhood — often in families that look “functional” from the outside. Using K...

Do you feel responsible for everyone else’s emotions? Do you step in, smooth things over, and fix problems—often before anyone even asks? Do you struggle to relax unless everyone around you is okay? In this episode of Roots & Attachment , we explore the Fixer role — not as a personality flaw, but as a nervous-system survival strategy that often develops in childhood homes shaped by emotional unpre...

Living on Guard: The Fear of Losing Loved Ones Roots & Attachment — with Erika Baum We are wounded in relationship and we heal in relationship — because insight alone doesn’t transform us. Corrective relational experiences do. In this episode of Roots & Attachment , Erika explores a deeply common but rarely named experience: living on constant alert for the people you love. Do you feel uneasy when...

Have you ever wondered why you can read the books, journal endlessly, try new habits — and still feel stuck in the same emotional patterns? In this episode of Roots & Attachment , we explore one of the most important shifts in trauma healing: understanding the difference between symptoms and core wounds . Most of us focus on stopping behaviors — people-pleasing, numbing, overworking, emotional shu...