Respectfully, I’m Evolving

Age gaps in dating can definitely get people talking! 👀😂 But how much does age really matter when two adults genuinely connect? In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving , I’m talking about dating someone older or younger, maturity, compatibility, different stages of life, and whether there really is such a thing as “too old” when it comes to dating. As always, we’re evolving, learning, and...

Can I appreciate how far I’ve come and still want more for my life? Absolutely. 💛 In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving , I’m talking about the difference between being ungrateful and simply knowing that you’re ready for more. You can be thankful for where you are while still dreaming bigger, setting new goals, and becoming the version of yourself you know you’re capable of being. I don’t...

Have you ever had to stop and ask yourself… “Wait. Am I the drama?” 👀😂 Sometimes it’s easy to point out what everybody else did wrong. But growth also means being willing to look in the mirror and ask some uncomfortable questions about your own behavior, reactions, choices, and patterns. In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving , I’m talking about accountability without beating yourself up,...

Do you really want a relationship… or do you just want somebody? 👀❤️ Sometimes we miss the good morning texts, the companionship, the attention, having someone to call, or simply knowing somebody is there. But does that mean we’re actually ready for a relationship? In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving , we’re talking about the difference between wanting love and wanting attention, missin...

Dating can teach us a lot about what we want from other people—but when was the last time we looked in the mirror and asked, “Would I date me?” 👀 In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving , I’m getting personal about dating, relationships, accountability, healing, and the ways I’ve grown along the way. I’m talking about the qualities I expect from a partner—and whether I’m bringing those same...

No big lesson. No pressure. Just us talking. 💛😂 In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving , I’m catching up on life lately—motherhood, friendships, adulthood, the craziness of being grown, and everything in between. Sometimes we don’t need a motivational speech. Sometimes we just need a space to laugh, talk, and be ourselves. So pull up a seat and welcome to the podcast group chat! 💕🎙️ Real...

There comes a point when you realize you don’t have to apologize for simply being YOU. 💛 In this episode, we’re talking about saying no, changing your mind, choosing yourself, protecting your peace, wanting more, and letting go of unnecessary guilt. We’ll still take accountability when we’re wrong—but we’re done apologizing for growing, setting boundaries, and taking up space in our own lives. It...

Life has been a little heavy lately, and I’m still finding my footing through a season of change. Instead of pretending I have it all figured out, I wanted to simply check in. This mini episode is a reminder that we don’t have to solve everything today. Sometimes, taking life one day at a time is enough. 💛 Thank you for giving me grace and continuing to grow with me. Keep evolving. 🌿

What if, instead of expecting the worst, you started believing the best is still possible? In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, we’re talking about choosing hope over fear, trusting God through uncertainty, and learning to ask a different question: What if it goes right? Life has a way of making us prepare for disappointment, but what if your next chapter is filled with opportunities, he...

Not everyone who watches you is rooting for you—and that’s okay. In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, we’re talking about protecting your peace, letting go of the need to explain yourself, and choosing growth over gossip. When people misunderstand you or make assumptions, your greatest response isn’t an argument—it’s continuing to heal, grow, and build the life you’re proud of. Remember:...

💛 What I Wish I Knew 10 Years Ago If I could sit down with the version of myself from 10 years ago, I’d remind her that every setback, every lesson, and every season was preparing her for the woman she’s becoming. In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, I’m sharing some of the biggest life lessons I’ve learned about peace, growth, self-worth, starting over, and embracing the journey. If yo...

We spend so much of our lives waiting… Waiting for the right time. Waiting until life slows down. Waiting until everything is “perfect.” But what if the life you’ve been waiting for is already happening? In this week’s episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, we’re talking about Romanticize Your Life—finding joy in the little moments, celebrating yourself, and learning to make ordinary days feel ext...

Life doesn’t always come with a clear roadmap. In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, I’m opening up about navigating seasons of uncertainty, dealing with anxiety, and learning to take life one day at a time. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, overthinking your next step, or carrying more than people realize, this conversation is for you. Together, we’ll talk about giving ourselves grace,...

Protecting Your Peace at Work is for anyone who has ever felt stressed, overwhelmed, unappreciated, or emotionally drained by their job. Sometimes you can give your all and still be misunderstood. This episode is a reminder that your peace, your boundaries, and your mental health matter too. ✨ Setting healthy boundaries ✨ Protecting your mental health ✨ Dealing with workplace stress ✨ Knowing...

Father’s Day is about more than gifts and celebrations—it’s about honoring the fathers, grandfathers, mentors, and father figures who show up, lead with love, and leave a lasting impact. In this special Father’s Day episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, I celebrate the men who guide, protect, support, and inspire us every day. 💙 Happy Father’s Day to all the amazing fathers and father figures.

Sometimes we’re so focused on where we’re going that we forget how far we’ve come. In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, I share why I’m learning to celebrate my progress, acknowledge my growth, and give myself credit for the things I’ve overcome. You don’t have to be perfect to be proud of yourself. 🌱💛

Starting over can feel scary, but it doesn’t mean you’re starting from scratch. In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, I share my thoughts on embracing change, rebuilding after difficult seasons, and trusting that every lesson you’ve learned has prepared you for what’s next. Because you’re not starting from zero—you’re starting with experience, wisdom, and growth. 🌱💛

🎙️ Just Checking In… 💛 A quick check-in episode is available now. Thank you for your patience and continued support as I navigate this season of growth and transition. 🌱 The full episode will be uploading tonight. As always, thank you for growing with me. 🎧 Respectfully, I’m Evolving 🍏 Apple Podcasts | 🎧 Spotify

For years, survival mode became second nature. In this deeply personal episode, Shantay opens up about emotional exhaustion, constantly being the strong one, losing herself while carrying everyone else, and what it means to finally slow down and rediscover who she is outside of survival mode. This conversation is for anyone who has spent so much time surviving that they forgot what it feels like t...

After 16 years of love, memories, routines, and growing through life together… everything changed. In this deeply personal episode, Shantay opens up about heartbreak, accountability, grief, healing, and what it means to start over after the end of a long-term relationship. Without placing blame or sharing every private detail, she reflects honestly on the pain of letting go, owning her part, and l...

Motherhood changed me in ways I never expected. 💐 In this special Mother’s Day episode, I’m opening up about the beauty, pressure, love, sacrifices, and emotions that come with being a mom while still trying to heal and evolve myself. This episode is for the moms who: • don’t always feel perfect • but never stop loving • never stop trying • and never stop showing up If you’ve ever felt exhausted,...

“When my son was diagnosed at 3… I blamed myself.” I questioned everything. What I did. What I missed. What I could’ve done differently. Nobody talks about that part. Episode 4 is LIVE 🎙️💙 Autism Changed My Life Too This isn’t just about my son… this is about me learning how to unlearn guilt, to heal, and to love differently. Motherhood changed me. Autism changed me even more. If you’ve ever carr...

In Episode 3, I’m opening up about motherhood, letting go, and the emotions of watching your child grow into their next chapter. My son is graduating and heading to college, and I’m sharing what it feels like to be proud, emotional, and learning how to evolve in this season. If you’re a mom navigating change, this one is for you. 💙

⚠️ This episode includes conversations about mental health. Please take care of yourself while listening. Everybody talks about being strong… but nobody talks about how exhausting it is. 💔 In this episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving, I’m opening up about the pressure of always being “the strong one” — especially as a Black woman — and what that really looks like behind the scenes. I share my pe...

This is my very first episode of Respectfully, I’m Evolving. I’m just starting where I am—no pressure, no perfection… just real life. In this episode, I’m introducing myself and sharing a little about where I am in life right now. I’m in a season of growth, healing, and figuring things out one day at a time. If you’ve ever felt like you don’t have it all together but you’re still trying… this is f...