Renovating the Soul

You can feel “behind” and still be exactly where you’re supposed to be. This season finale starts with a simple reframe that changes the whole emotional storyline: you might not be lost, you might be searching, and those are not the same thing. We get honest about what we are really reaching for when our behavior looks messy on the outside. Promotion-chasing, relationship-hopping, religious certai...

Content note: this episode contains discussions of spiritual abuse and sexual abuse. Something didn’t add up for me anymore: if knowing God is supposed to transform us, why do so many Christians look no different from everyone else and sometimes feel worse to be around? I’m Alexandria Robinson, and I’m sharing a vulnerable, unscripted checkpoint in my faith journey where I admit what I’ve been car...

Strangers can find your work, celebrate it, and even say it changed their life, yet the people who have known you the longest say nothing. If you’ve ever felt that hollow, specific kind of hurt, I’m holding space for it, and then I’m asking us to slow down before we label it as hate. I start by defining support the real kind, the bearing-weight kind, the showing-up kind and why we keep confusing i...

The “next message” feels so convincing. The next sermon will make it click. The next prophecy will confirm it. The next podcast will finally calm the anxiety and tell us exactly what to do. But what if that pattern is the very reason we stay stuck? We get honest about how easy it is to confuse constant input with real growth. I define what I mean by a message, share my own complicated relationship...

Hard things are not a sign you’re doing life wrong. They’re often the first evidence that something real is being built. I start by naming a problem I see everywhere, including in myself: we call something “hard” when it is actually uncomfortable, inconvenient, or demanding discipline. Once we separate hard vs impossible vs uncomfortable, the fog clears and we can stop using our feelings as final...

Healing culture promises freedom, but a lot of us end up more tense, more self-conscious, and more afraid to live. I am Alexandria Robinson, and I am naming the pattern I see everywhere: we stack up therapy, journaling, prayer, meditation, and “self-work” and still stay triggered by the same people, repeating the same relationship cycles, and carrying the same pain in a new outfit. We get honest a...

Dr. Shalli Deyo spent over 20 years as a pharmacist before she stopped trusting the system she worked inside. Two sons with compounding health conditions, a medicine cabinet full of things that weren't solving anything, and eventually, a decade of watching food and gut health do what prescriptions couldn't. That journey is what brought her to functional medicine, and eventually, to this...

Outsourcing your child’s formation sounds normal until you blink and realize you don’t recognize who they’re becoming. I’m Alexandria Robinson, and I’m walking you through why our family chose homeschooling, not as a trendy identity, but as a conviction about parenting, responsibility, and the long game of raising future adults. I unpack the biggest homeschooling myths head-on: “homeschool kids ar...

More than 20 rejections. Not one acceptance. And somehow, the hardest part is not the “no” itself; it is the shame that tries to make you whisper about it. I’m Alexandria, and I’m sharing the part of the story we usually skip: not getting into law school after going all in. I walk through the law school application process from the inside, what it’s like to study for the LSAT as a wife and mom of...

Alexandria comes back to the mic for Season 3 with something she hasn't fully said yet: the last year was hard, and she's still in the very messy middle of it: You can be hurting and still not be lost. That’s the line we keep coming back to as I tell the truth about a year that did not go to plan: leaving ministry and watching friendships go silent, losing my job, applying and hearing no...

The ground can feel solid—until it isn’t. When mass layoffs hit the federal government, I lost the job I’d poured nearly five years into, right after earning my warrant and hitting a career stride that finally felt like mine. What followed wasn’t just a scramble for the next paycheck; it was a full-body pause to ask what kind of life I actually wanted to build. I walk through the shock, the one-we...

Have you ever refreshed your social media feed obsessively after posting something meaningful—as if your soul was waiting for permission to believe in itself? You’re not alone. This deeply personal exploration pulls back the curtain on how we’re slowly losing ourselves in the pursuit of visibility, engagement, and validation. What began as simple research into why we crave viral moments turned int...

For a long time, I thought I needed closure to move on. I thought I needed that one final conversation, the apology, the explanation, the moment that would tie it all together and make it make sense. But what I’ve learned is that closure doesn’t always come . And even when it does… it doesn’t always heal. In this episode, I’m sharing the hard truths about closure—the ways we chase it, the reasons...

We all want real, deep, meaningful friendships—but do we actually know what that looks like? Friendship isn’t just about funny memes, shared interests, or convenient connections—it’s about loyalty, depth, and showing up when it matters. So why do so many of us struggle to find real, lasting friendships? In this episode, we’re challenging everything you thought you knew about friendship , including...

"Family is family." We’ve been told this our whole lives—that no matter what they’ve done, how they treat us, or how much pain they cause— we owe them: loyalty, forgiveness, and endless chances. But let’s be real— blood alone doesn’t make someone family. In this episode, we’re stripping away the lies we’ve been conditioned to believe. We’re confronting the guilt, the obligation, and the...

Let’s face it—if you’re feeling stuck, there’s a good chance that someone in your life is either enabling your behavior or you’re enabling someone else.  You might not see it at first, but enabling keeps both sides trapped in a cycle of dependency and avoidance. In this raw, unfiltered episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on how enabling works—whether you’re the one enabling someone’s bad habit...

Your soul is breaking, and your body is paying the price. In this episode of Renovating the Soul , we’re diving into the truth we’ve all been avoiding: unresolved emotional pain is ruining our physical health . You’ve been carrying the weight of brokenness , stress , unhealed wounds , and trauma for far too long, and it’s showing up in your body—through chronic pain, exhaustion, digestive issues,...

Your roots , what you believe, what you've been taught, what you've absorbed without ever questioning—are what make you who you are. The hard truth? If you don't dig deep and confront what's buried beneath the surface , you'll never be able to grow beyond your past. In this raw, unapologetic episode of Renovating the Soul , we pull back the layers and expose the uncomforta...

For too long, the church has sheltered predators and silenced survivors . Behind pulpits, under the banner of faith, spiritual abusers have twisted scripture into a weapon, demanded loyalty over truth, and convinced people that obedience to them is obedience to God.  In this episode, we expose how predators hide in plain sight, why the church protects them, and what it costs to break free. If you&...

Breaking Cycles, Rebuilding Souls If your soul is your home— why are you still living in a place built by other people's expectations, past wounds, and false beliefs? This season, Renovating the Soul is about breaking free from toxic cycles, confronting the beliefs that have shaped us, and figuring out how to move forward from where we are. Healing isn't about perfection—it's facing...

As we celebrate the season finale of Renovating the Soul , Alexandria invites you to embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery by asking a profound question: What are your soul goals? In this empowering episode, we delve deep into the essence of setting intentions that resonate with your true self. Alexandria explores how identifying your soul goals can lead to a more fulfilling and pur...

In this thought-provoking episode of Renovating the Soul , Alexandria explores the powerful and often misunderstood emotions surrounding revenge. While many of us feel the urge for retribution, how often does it truly bring us the satisfaction we seek? Alexandria dives into the lingering "shoulda, coulda, wouldas" that keep us stuck in a cycle of emotional unrest. From old wounds to fres...

In this episode of Renovating the Soul , Alexandria delves into ancient philosophical perspectives on the soul, exploring how these early theories have shaped our modern understanding of self-awareness and personal growth. By examining the insights of philosophers like Plato and Aristotle, she reveals timeless wisdom that remains relevant today. By connecting these philosophical theories to everyd...

In this episode of Renovating the Soul , Alexandria delves into the profound impact of societal concepts like equality and manifestation on our self-perception and comparisons with others. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and embracing our unique gifts, talents, skills, abilities, and passions. By focusing on our individual strengths and how we can leverage them to benefit ourselves an...

After a brief hiatus, Alexandria returns with a compelling installment of Renovating the Soul . In this episode, she introduces Soul Talks —a series of intentional, direct conversations that delve into the essence of the soul and the transformative process of its renewal. Drawing inspiration from the HGTV show Unsellable Houses , Alexandria uses home renovation as a metaphor for personal transform...