Relationships Let's Talk About It!

In this solocast I talk about how being a fixer can be detrimental in some relationship dynamics. The idea of "stop being a fixer" in relationships refers to avoiding the role of trying to change, rescue, or "fix" your partner's behaviors, emotions, or life circumstances. The mindset often stems from a well-meaning desire to help but can lead to unhealthy dynamics. Related Content: Other Podcast E...

Megan Hearne is the owner of Vitality Coaching and provides neurofeedback and integrative nutrition health coaching in Asheville, NC. Her training was through the Institute for Applied Neuroscience, EEG Education and Research, New Mind Academy, and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Megan has been a neurofeedback practitioner for over 6 years. She is currently accepting new clients who are r...

In this solocast I talk about how focusing on your primary relationship to create a ripple effect of thriving in other areas of your life is about nurturing that bond with intention, presence, and care. By tending to your primary relationship with intentional acts, you're building a foundation of love and trust that makes everything else feel possible. That is why relationships can be viewed as a...

Emma Olyff is passionate about artistry, personal development, and spiritual practices. Eight years ago, she founded Emwa Jewelry, a high-end brand where she creates collections, custom designs, and leads workshops. Alongside her work as a jewelry artist, she has also become a business coach. In both fields, she weaves together embodiment, practical tools, and spiritual wisdom—offering a grounded,...

In this solocast I talk about how you get what you expect in relationships. Expectations in relationships are a double-edged sword because they can both guide and undermine connection. On one hand, clear expectations set standards for respect, communication, and mutual effort, creating a framework for trust and stability. For example, expecting honesty or support fosters accountability and helps p...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about mind reading. Mind reading is a cognitive distortion where individuals believe they can accurately guess or know what others are thinking...

Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice-empowering workshops,...

In this solocast I talk about asking for what we want and need in our relationships. It can be tricky, but it's about clear communication and mutual respect. It's also about building a dynamic where both of you feel safe, heard, and willing to stretch for each other. The deep wants always have a "root," and it is very good to identify it. So, what's the toughest thing you've held back from asking?...

Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an  Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric life coach, mother, natural builder, hairdresser, and conflict mediator in her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender, and class differences. She enjoys su...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about taking accountability and admit when we are wrong. We discuss what blocks people from doing that, what are common challenges to do so and...

In this solocast I talk about the different types of problems or issues that come up in our relationships: perpetual (or unresolvable) vs. solvable ones. The key to relationship success is not eliminating perpetual problems (which is impossible), but rather learning to navigate them with respect and humor while effectively resolving the ones that can be solved. Healthy couples recognize which cate...

Derek Rutter is a therapist in private practice in Asheville, North Carolina. His approach specializes in using somatic parts work in the treatment of trauma, addiction, and attachment wounds. In addition to working as a therapist, Derek is a father, partner, artist and athlete. He loves the big questions and cherishes the small things. Some people think he's funny. In this episode, Derek and I ha...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about revitalizing your romantic relationship. Many relationships become stale when not nurtured and paid attention to. Revitalizing a relation...

In this solocast I talk about the ways stubbornness shows up in our relationships and how detrimental it can be to the flow of connection and harmony. Stubbornness can indeed poison relationships by creating a toxic environment where one or both partners feel the need to always be right, leading to conflicts and a lack of mutual respect. In a relationship, stubbornness can manifest as an inability...

Lisa Mazzonetto, LCMHC, LCAS is a lifelong student of exploring relationships, primarily the relationship to self through various lenses. She is a mental health, trauma, and addiction therapist who owns her own private practice in Asheville.   Lisa works with people to help change their relationship to self and their past through self compassion, self love and empowerment through changing their na...

Cea (pronounced like "seeya soon") Rubin White is ever-curious about the human experience and healing. She specializes in body-centered mental health therapy, CranioSacral Therapy, and therapeutic movement. Her licenses and certifications reflect her passions and purpose; she is an LCSWA, MSW, LMBT, RYT-500. In this episode, Cea and I have a conversation about the transitions and turning points we...

In this solocast I talk about the ways we hide our true selves in our relationships. Many of us put on a mask in how we relate to people. We sometimes do not fully show our authentic selves and we "hide". I explore the reasons why we may do this and ways to overcome. Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes Shedding People Pleasing into Authentic Relationships People Pleasing Encourage Your Partner...

Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric Life Coach, mother, natural builder, hair-dresser and conflict mediator at her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender and class differences. She enjoys supp...

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville's Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about healthy communication tools. Most of us didn't learn healthy ways of communicating and resolving conflict in our families. Some families...

In this solocast I talk about my recent experience and observations during Hurricane Helene's devastation that hit Western North Carolina and the Southeast. For those of you not local, Hurricane Helene swept through the Appalachian mountains, bringing two days of relentless rain (32 inches at my house) and strong winds. The storm saturated the earth, causing historic flooding and leaving unimagina...

Dawn Dominguez a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is the founder, supervisor, and director of Windows of Hope Counseling Centers, offering services online worldwide, and in person in both Palm Desert and Long Beach, California. With a background as an instructor at Chapman University, Brandman University, and UMASS Global University, Dawn is currently teaching through Windows Of Hope as...

Thank you all for listening and journeying with me these past six years! In this episode my wife, Rainbow and I talk about how doing this podcast has affected our relationship over the last six years. We discuss ways that we have grown, been challenged and worked together in this project. We also talk about how compatibility is navigated in our relationship. Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder...

Jared Hinton M.A, M.A.T, LCMHC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Asheville, NC. Jared is a husband, father, and a person in long-term recovery. His work focuses on helping individuals and couples heal from patterns of ancestral, familial, and relational trauma. Jared is a graduate of Naropa University's Contemplative and Buddhist Psychology program and a student of the Appalachian Gestal...

Brandon Greenstein is a partner and father and long-time member and resident of Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC). He is currently practicing Somatic Experiencing therapy and will be entering the final year of the SE professional training program. Brandon is also the owner of Integrated Ecological Solutions; consulting and coaching on sustainable land use and development and all aspects of...

Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an  Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric Life Coach, mother, natural builder, hair-dresser and conflict mediator at her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender and class differences. She enjoys sup...