Reflections

You’ve been told that to be “successful,” you have to do life a certain way. Grind. Hustle. Move to the next project. Do it all over again. But during last week’s Strategic Planning for Life live session, one powerful truth grounded the entire conversation: “We must unwind from those stories so that we may step into what’s possible… in our own time and at our own pace.” You don't have to go s...

We’re wrapping up another round of our 9-week Guide Training and Strategic Planning for Life Live Sessions. Every time we do, I’m left shaking my head at what unfolds. Jobs changed. Businesses launched. Relationships evolved. Houses remodeled. Trips booked. Healing ignited. Peace returned. In just 9 weeks. It’s not magic. But it is something close. It happens because these individuals allow it to...

Every chapter of life has both energy DRIVES and energy DRAINS . The key is learning how to work with both. We just wrapped a powerful live session inside our UNLOCKED Community, where we explored how to stop resisting what drains us—and instead use it as data to design what’s next. Here’s the mindset shift: Don’t just try to escape what you don’t want. Get clear on what you do want—and move towar...

Lately, in my own quest for health answers, I've observed a pattern with people, specifically women, facing mysterious or persistent health issues. They’re all high-functioning. Thoughtful. Disciplined. Self-aware. They move their bodies. They nourish their families. They lead in their work. They have supportive partnerships. And yet, something’s breaking down. In nearly every case—including...

Last Friday, I guided hundreds of women through a grounding visualization at the Fill Your Cup event. Something we do each week here in these emails. The imagery was simple: Imagine each of your responsibilities as grocery bags you’re carrying. Not one at a time, but all at once—arms aching, fingers strained. Then, visualize yourself setting them down—just for the day. The reactions were powerful....

If life feels heavier lately, you're not imagining it. And it's not just you. There's a weight moving through the world right now. An undercurrent of uncertainty, agitation, exhaustion. Over the past few weeks, we've noticed an increase of conversations around relationship strain and career transition. Here's what I think is happening — the weight of the current economic a...

What if the answers to the biggest challenges you’ve been facing aren't “out there”—but within you? So many of the challenges we face—anxiety, burnout, disconnection, hopelessness, confusion—can’t be fixed with a single solution. But over the last decade, we’ve found that the practice of Intentional Lifestyle Design consistently guides us to the answers that unlock more relief , clarity , and...

Ever feel like you’re in the fog? Like you can’t see the way forward—no matter how hard you try to figure it out? That was me this past week. Mentally overloaded. Sick with sick kids. Emotionally done. Physically spent. The pressure to perform was louder than my own inner wisdom. The to-dos were piling up, and I couln't keep up. I snapped at Phil. I ached from the overwhelm. I was not being t...

Most of us are so busy watering everyone else’s garden—our company’s, our kids’, our partner’s, our community’s—that we forget to tend to our own. We give our best energy to other people’s visions, other people’s timelines, other people’s expectations. Meanwhile, our own garden—our health, our clarity, our dreams—dries up. This week’s post is about what happens when we finally stop and decide to p...

When you’re lying on your deathbed, will you want one more unnecessary meeting with that one frustrating colleague? Or will you want one more connected moment with your child? Will you want to clear one more email from your inbox? Or will you want to hear the birds on a beautiful spring day ? I ask myself these questions often—especially when I’m out on a run. I see the cars sitting in rush hour t...

You weren’t meant to do life and work the way it’s been handed to you. The systems we live in weren’t built for people who carry careers and caregiving. They weren’t built for people who hold all the details, all the weight, all the moving pieces. They were built by (and for) people with far fewer responsibilities. And yet, every day, we show up. We push through. We squeeze ourselves into structur...

Most people will spend the next 10 years doing what they’ve always done. Waking up to the same schedule. Following the same patterns. Thinking about making a change but never actually doing it. That’s 5 million minutes. Gone. And in the end, they’ll wonder why they still feel like they’re waiting for their “real life” to begin. I know this, because 10 years ago, I was almost one of them. But inste...

The Key to Moving Forward (Even in Uncertain Times) What if life is actually happening for you? If you want a life of tension, burnout, and agitation—stay stuck in believing life is happening to you. If you want a life of alignment, growth, and fulfillment—get curious about how it’s happening for you. This is more than a nice idea. It’s a necessary practice for anyone who wants to live in alignmen...

One of the most profound emails I’ve ever received was from a client who had just been laid off. But instead of fear, she felt inspired and grateful. She had been wanting more time with her family. She had been craving alignment with her values. She had been yearning for change. But she wasn’t going to make the move herself. Her layoff wasn’t the plan, but it was the push she needed. How often do...

Here’s where most of us get stuck: we choose the safe, logical path because it promises security. We’re told that financial freedom will buy us the time freedom we crave if we just work long, hard and smart enough. But that’s a lie. I’ve watched far too many people retire with anticipation of time freedom only to have it snatched away by an early death just a couple years after their last day of w...

"My time is not valuable to 99.9999% of people in the world. But my time is the most valuable thing in the world to a few people." The Trap of Overextension We’ve all been there: giving too much to people or pursuits that don’t align with what matters most and don't return what we had hoped. Pouring our worth and power into our hopes for external validation. We spend our time and en...

Living intentionally doesn’t guarantee ease or perfection.  It requires making hard decisions and staying true to your values, even when the path is challenging.  Ultimately, there’s no right or wrong answer. Just choices. Made one after the other to the best of your ability.  With intention at the helm, those choices lead to outcomes that - although difficult - are filled with pride, love and gro...

Every time I’ve found alignment and peace, it’s because I slowed down and listened to my intuition. I let go of the rush and trusted the pace that felt right for me. I chose to: Simplify instead of overextend. Stabilize instead of sprint. Feel instead of force. And in those moments, I remember something powerful: Freedom isn’t in doing more. It’s in trusting your own rhythm. True freedom comes fro...

Life has a way of derailing our carefully laid plans. Whether it’s the chaos of the holidays, an unexpected illness, or the daily demands of work and family, the pressure can feel unbearable at times. It’s easy to lose ourselves in the doing, striving to make everything “perfect” and taking care of everyone else’s needs while ignoring what truly matters to us. But what we really need is what groun...

When we find ourselves stuck in a cycle of sacrifice or overwhelm, it’s worth pausing to ask: Am I gripping the wheel because it serves me, the situation and those around me? Or because I’m afraid of letting go? I read something this week from Elena Brower that cements this point. In reflecting on the death of her dear friend and honoring her beautiful soul and life, she shared words of wisdom tha...

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy and connection, but when you’re navigating career change or business growth, the season takes on a unique weight. For many of us, the pressure isn’t just the packed social calendar or the endless to-do lists—it’s the quiet hum of professional stress that never turns off. It’s the worry about finances, the question of how to build momentum for the new y...

The most profound changes in life happen with a healthy mix of intention and surrender. The intention grounds us in a deep understanding of who we are and what we want - independently or with a partner. Surrender is acceptance that we don’t have control over “how” or “if” something unfolds. But with a conscious balance of both, we can move forward in more alignment, ease, respect and acceptance, u...

True wealth is in how we feel about the life we’ve lived looking back on it. And when I think back to all the financial challenges we’ve faced, I feel proud. Each one felt insurmountable at the time, but each one taught us to lean harder into our values. To learn, grow, and build something more intentional. To resist the pull of society’s narrative and instead craft our own. What Do You Want to Re...

The most powerful tool I ever use is the question, “If I died tomorrow, would I be proud of the way I lived today?”  That question has sparked tremendous clarity and change in our lives.  It has put the power in OUR hands instead of in the world outside of us.  It has guided us to say yes to what matters and no to what no longer serves us.  It has provided a path forward when everything has felt d...

Today, we’re going to talk about the vital exchange of ‘listening’ and ‘feeling heard’ in our relationships. And why it’s an act of love that builds some of the greatest momentum in our lives. PERSONAL REFLECTION This is a reflection opportunity for you to get clear on where this exists in your own life. Take a moment to settle in consider the questions below using the audio to guide you. Who is n...