Reclaiming Pride: LGBT+ Survivors of Narcissistic Abuse

Send the host a message here! This week, we’ll be looking at the ways in which narcissists use – or do not use – eye contact to control people and situations. If this sounds familiar from your relationship with the narcissist - tune in for a deep dive into this NPD tactic. I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here! This week we will take a look at how society, and even those who are trying to help survivors of narcissistic abuse, can inadvertantly make us feel just as invisible as when we were in the abusive relationship. If you’ve ever winced at something a friend or even a therapist has said to you, while they thought they were helping – this episode is for you.  I look forwar...

Send the host a message here! This week, we’ll be looking at the narcissist’s magical thinking and how damaging this can be. Magical thinking is the belief that one's thoughts, words, or actions can directly influence the world around them, often in ways that defy logic or reality. It's the idea that there's a causal connection between unrelated events, often based on superstition,...

Send the host a message here! This week, we are going to be looking at when narcissists flip the script, literally, and play the victim.  A hallmark of narcissistic grandiosity is the tendency to portray themselves as victims. This contradictory behavior often confuses and manipulates others.  Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder frequently perceive themselves as unfairly treated. Th...

Send the host a message here! In this week’s episode, we’ll be looking at how narcissists use spirituality and / or religion to control you. Has the narcissist in your life abused you using something that is meant to bring peace? You are not alone - tune in to this episode to hear what happens with spiritual / religious abuse and how to deal with it.  I look forward to healing with you.

Send the host a message here! This week, we will be looking at something infuriating for those of us who have survived narcissists in our lives: when the narcissist pretends they’re an empath.  Many narcissists claim to be empathic, sensitive and compassionate, because that’s what they believe about themselves. As survivors of their calculated cruelty, we know a very different story. Tune in to fi...

Send the host a message here! This week,  we delve into the challenges posed by narcissistic individuals in professional settings. These individuals possess a knack for manipulation and can create significant hurdles for those around them. In the workplace, people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are acutely attuned to who receives recognition, opportunities, and decision-making power....

Send the host a message here! This week, we delve into the often-misunderstood topics of narcissism and gaslighting. These terms are often thrown around casually, but the reality of their impact in relationships goes far deeper than common usage suggests. We will look at the damage that misusing these terms can cause and, by contrast, what they mean in clinical and experiential reality. I look for...

Send the host a message here! This week we will be looking at a question which puzzles many people who have not been in an abusive relationship – why did we stay in it? I hope this episode will provide you with answers and also ways to explain to someone who doesn’t understand. Next time someone says, "Why don't you just leave?" take a deep breath - and tune in for answers. I look f...

Send the host a message here! This week we will be looking at sexual intimacy in the relationship with the narcissist. Truly, this is a misnomer – because narcissists / people with NPD cannot experience true intimacy. This is only the lie they tell themselves and the lies they feed you during the initial love bombing stage. While narcissists can wreak havoc on most aspects of intimacy, their behav...

Send the host a message here! In today’s episode, we will be looking at two sneaky tactics narcissists use to control and manipulate us: sleep deprivation and its best buddy, the circular conversation. Does this sound familiar to you: You're finally ready to unwind after a long day, but your partner starts a dramatic argument or needs your "urgent" help right before bedtime.  This d...

Send the host a message here! This week, we’ll be looking at why the narcissist always seems to bored by us and the world around them. This can be extremely hurtful, particularly when we’ve bent ourselves into a pretzel trying to make the narcissist happy and feel loved. Narcissistic boredom is a specific manifestation of boredom often associated with individuals with Narcissistic Personality Diso...

Send the host a message here! In this episode, we explore a common question from listeners: Is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) nature or nurture? The episode delves into recent research suggesting differences in brain structure for individuals with NPD and also antisocial personality disorder.  We will also look at recent medical research on the biological, neuropsychiatric, and even genet...

Send the host a message here! In today’s special episode, I will be talking with Tiphany Kane, a remarkable entrepreneur, podcaster, and the CEO of KaSa Media Productions. Tiphany joins me from California to talk about her extraordinary journey, from her upbringing in a cult to enduring a toxic relationship spanning nearly two decades. In our conversation, we explore the profound parallels between...

Send the host a message here! In this episode, we will be taking a look at the top ten things that people should not say to a survivor of narcissistic abuse. Sometimes, the people who care about us may not understand what on earth we’ve just been through and may only be trying to help, but some of the things that they say can be counterproductive.  Supporting a survivor of narcissistic abuse requi...

Send the host a message here! Today we embark on an exploration of the different dynamics to look out for to see whether you are in, or have been in, a narcissistic relationship. If you’ve listened to previous episodes of this podcast, you’ll notice that the various dynamics I explore here follow the cycle of narcissistic abuse – from idealization, through to devaluation and possible hoovering. If...

Send the host a message here! Missing an abuser is very confusing and can lead to us feeling immense shame. Someone who’s never been in a toxic relationship, may not understand why this happens and, in this episode I seek to take away the shame of this and explain why it happens and how we can move forward from this.  We will also look at some of the clinical and emotional reasons we miss the narc...

Send the host a message here! This week's episode explores a common, yet little talked about abuse tactic employed by narcissists: using the car as a place to abuse a person.  In the episode, we explore  how being abused while in a car that’s driven by our abuser  can leave us feeling trapped, helpless, and isolated. we also cover the various ways narcissists can exploit their power over thei...

Send the host a message here! This episode, we’ll be looking at what the narcissist really means when they say, “I love you.” When people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) say "I love you," they often mean "I love how you make me feel" or "I love the way you reflect positively on me." Their love tends to be self-centered and focused on their own needs and d...

Send the host a message here! This week is one for the psychology buffs out there – we are going to be taking a look at how the narcissist has you addicted. The narc uses the functions of operant conditioning and its sidekick, intermittent reinforcement to do this. We will look at how these function in narcissistic and toxic relationships. Even though this may sound completely alien to you if you’...

Send the host a message here! This week's episode is a special edition! I had the pleasure of sitting down and talking with Hannah Jenarine from the Victim Service Center of Orlando, Florida. We spoke about what it is like to be LGBT+ and live through a relationship with a narcissist and come out the other side.  We cover everything from inherited trauma and signs of narcissistic abuse, to he...

Send the host a message here! Emotional reasoning is a cognitive distortion in which people believe that their emotions are accurate reflections of reality. Narcissists are particularly prone to emotional reasoning because they have a strong need to maintain a positive self-image. They often interpret events and other people's behavior in a way that confirms their own superiority and importan...

Send the host a message here! This week, we are going to be looking at the ways in which narcissists and toxic people use financial abuse to coerce and control us. We will take a deep dive into how this happens including examining financial gaslighting, control, debt accumulation and how the narcissist will use financial abuse to further isolate you. Excited to announce that this episode also incl...

Send the host a message here! This week we will be looking at the insidious and debilitating use of the silent treatment by the narcissist.  We will look at why silence is such a loaded weapon to the NPD  abuser and explore some of the things we do to avoid it.  Then we pan out and look at the bigger picture of their plan to isolate you from friends, colleagues and family.   I look forward to heal...

Send the host a message here! This week we will be diving into how and why narcissists ruin holidays, celebrations and special times. We will be looking at what is present in their disorder that makes them do this and also why they will try to make it look like it is you who is ruining the event. We will also look a the pathology behind why their own birthdays and celebrations will never be good e...