Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves

Do you still feel young inside, even when your body reminds you that things have changed? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores what it feels like to realize, “I’m not as young as I used to be”—and how we can adapt, stay safe, and keep enjoying our lives. From recognizing changing physical abilities to accepting help, getting older can bring frustration, vul...

A little perspective can change the way you carry your day. Join author and host Lisa Tarves for 10 Minutes of Real Talk—honest conversations about overthinking, relationships, self-worth, grief, and the changes life brings. Each episode offers relatable reflections and practical encouragement to help you feel understood, think a little differently, and move forward with more confidence. You’re do...

You still love them—but you don’t want all the same things anymore. Does that mean you’re growing apart, or is it time for your relationship to grow with you? Tonight on Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves explores what happens when one partner wants more connection, adventure, or purpose while the other feels comfortable with things staying the same. We’re talking about changing nee...

If nobody needed anything from you for the next two hours, would you know what you wanted to do? When you’ve spent years taking care of everyone else, that question can be surprisingly difficult to answer. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, I’m talking about finding yourself beyond the roles and responsibilities that have shaped your life. We’ll explore the guilt that can sho...

Do you rehearse conversations in your head, then stay quiet because you’re afraid of your partner’s reaction? Lisa Tarves explores why speaking up can feel so difficult, how to express your needs and set boundaries, and why your emotional and physical safety must come first. Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind—honest conversations to help you feel heard, understood, and less alone. Explore more:...

Do you ever feel like the older you get, the less people see you? Like everyone still needs something from you—but fewer people stop to ask how you’re doing? In Season 2, Episode 18 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves opens up a conversation about aging, feeling overlooked, and remembering that your worth goes far beyond what you do for everyone else. Getting older doesn’t mean yo...

Can love be comfortable and still feel fulfilling? As we get older, relationships change. The excitement may look different, routines settle in, and sometimes we wonder whether what we have is enough. In Season 2, Episode 17 of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves opens up a conversation about companionship, connection, and the difference between feeling at peace in a relationship and...

One disagreement, and suddenly your mind is asking:  Is this the fight that ends everything? In this episode of  Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind , Lisa Tarves talks about why relationship conflict can feel so frightening, especially when anxiety turns a tense conversation into a prediction about your future together. We’ll look at the urge to replay every word, search for signs that your part...

When do you keep trying, and when is it time to walk away? In this episode of  Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind , Lisa Tarves talks about one of the hardest questions we face in relationships, goals, friendships, family situations, and even seasons of life. How do you know whether you are giving up too soon, or holding on too long? This conversation is for anyone who has been overthinking a de...

Conflict is part of every real relationship, but the way we fight can either bring us closer or slowly tear things apart. In this episode of  Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind , Lisa Tarves talks about what it really means to “fight fair”: how to disagree without attacking, how to speak honestly without being cruel, and how to stop arguments from turning into old wounds, blame, shutdowns, or em...

Have you ever looked back at your younger self and felt a kind of grief you couldn’t quite name? We often associate grief with losing someone we love. But as we get older, we may also grieve who we once were—the energy we had, the possibilities ahead of us, our younger bodies, our innocence, lost time, past choices and versions of life that no longer exist. In this edited episode of Real Talk for...

In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves breaks down the real reasons we replay conversations over and over — including anxiety, uncertainty, embarrassment, fear of rejection, and the brain’s need to make sense of what happened. We’ll also talk about practical ways to interrupt the replay, separate the facts from the story your mind is creating, and figure out when a co...

What if they leave? For someone with anxious attachment, that question can become the background noise of an entire relationship. You notice changes in their tone. You reread texts. You worry when they need space. You wonder whether you said too much, needed too much, asked for too much—or somehow pushed them away. And underneath all of it is often an even deeper fear: Who am I if they actually do...

Do you look calm, capable, and successful on the outside while feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or exhausted on the inside? High-functioning anxiety often hides behind productivity, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and the constant pressure to keep going. Others may see confidence, but they don’t see the racing thoughts, overthinking, self-doubt, or fear of slowing down. In this episode of  Real Talk...

You’re the one everyone calls. When there’s a crisis, a problem, a family conflict, or someone who needs support, you’re the person who steps in. You hold everything together, keep everyone calm, find the answers, and make sure everyone else is okay. But who takes care of you? In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa Tarves talks about the hidden exhaustion of being the strong...

Tonight’s episode is a deeply personal conversation about angel numbers—why they seem to appear at exactly the right moments, what they may be trying to tell us, and why certain number patterns can feel impossible to ignore. I also share a few personal stories from my own life and explain why I do not believe these moments are random. Whether you keep seeing 111, 222, 333, 444, or another repeatin...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation wondering if you’re the problem… even though you were sure of what happened just moments before? That’s how gaslighting works. In this episode of  Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind , Lisa Tarves explains what gaslighting really is, why it can be so confusing, and how it slowly causes people to question their own thoughts, memories, and reality. You’...

Have you ever ignored a red flag because you wanted the relationship to work? Not because you didn’t see it—but because you hoped things would change. In this episode of  Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind , I explore why intelligent, caring people sometimes overlook warning signs, how hope can override intuition, and how to begin trusting yourself again. 💬 Have you ever looked back and realize...

Sometimes the greatest act of love isn’t holding on—it’s having the courage to let go. In this heartfelt episode of  Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind , Lisa Tarves explores one of life’s most difficult emotional experiences: letting go. Whether you’re grieving someone who has died, healing after a breakup, watching your children grow up, caring for an aging parent, ending a friendship, or rele...

Have you ever gone out with your spouse, partner, friend, or family member and watched them become the life of the party—laughing, smiling, telling stories, making everyone else feel important—while acting as if you weren’t even there? It’s one of the most confusing and painful experiences for people in relationships with narcissists. In this episode of Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, Lisa T...

Have you ever looked around and thought, "Why am I so exhausted? I haven't done anything different." Maybe you tell yourself you're just burned out. But what if that's not the whole story? What if you've simply been the strong one for too long? In this episode, we're talking about the emotional weight of always being the dependable person—the one who keeps showing up, solves everyone else's proble...

Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind with Lisa Tarves Life can be complicated, overwhelming, and sometimes downright exhausting. If you spend too much time in your head, carry the weight of being the strong one, struggle with anxiety, grief, self-doubt, or simply wonder why life feels so hard sometimes, you’re in the right place. Join Lisa Tarves for honest conversations about the challenges of be...

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt a strange sense of loss—not because of vanity, but because life is changing? Aging brings wisdom, experience, and perspective. But it can also bring grief. Not the kind of grief we usually talk about, but the quiet grief of realizing time has passed. The grief of watching your children grow up, your body change, your parents age, your roles shift, and yo...

REAL TALK for Your Overthinking Mind Podcast #10 I Thought More People Would Show Up… | My First Live Experience - (BACKSTAGE BEFORE AND AFTER INCLUDED!!!) Tonight I’m talking honestly about doing my very first live… and the overthinking spiral that came afterward. I went into it excited, nervous, hopeful… and then found myself wondering if I failed because only one person joined the live for a re...

You can be surrounded by people… and still feel deeply alone. In this episode of "Real Talk for Your Overthinking Mind, with Lisa Tarves", we talk about the kind of loneliness people rarely explain out loud — emotional loneliness. The kind that happens when you’re needed, depended on, caregiving, aging, exhausted, functioning, smiling… but internally feel unseen. This episode explores: •...