Polycurious

Chamberlin and Michael struggled a lot in their relationship, having periods of opening and closing, cheating and hurting each other and ultimately breaking up. About a month after they broke up, Chamberlin found out that she was pregnant. And for reasons we discuss in the podcast, this pregnancy completely shifted their relationship, for the best. Today we also talk about Michael’s process gettin...

Today I chat with metamours JD and Lorena, as well as their common partner Aviva (a metamour is a partner’s partner.) Even though Aviva and Lorena were dating first, JD has become Aviva’s nesting partner. And today we chat about how even though that transition was a little difficult, Lorena was also very happy for Aviva and JD, someone she knew and really liked. I was left feeling warm from this c...

Today I speak to Sarah Tilley, Founder and CEO of Beautiful Space . Sarah is a psychedelic guide, integration specialist and couple therapist. Today she tells us about her work leveraging the power of psychedelics in relationships. We also talk about what couples might do to increase intimacy even without the use of these substances. Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠...

In this episode I talk about the 12 lessons I have learned in my Polycurious journey. Be Patient. Go as fast as the slowest person Find the right time to talk Check with your partner before making plans with other people Feeling guilt at first is normal Don’t sugarcoat. Be honest with your partner Determine how much you want to share with your partner Meeting your partner’s partners (metamours) he...

Today I bring to you the second part of my conversation with Natasha + Jeremy, sex coaches and educators behind All The Feels. They give amazing tips around communication in and outside of the bedroom. Jeremy talks about ways that are sexy and respectful to approach women and they both share how to have a threesome that is fun and sexy and where everyone feels safe. We also talk about what one can...

Today I had a wonderful discussion with Natasha and Jeremy, the couple behind All The Feels. They are certified sex coaches, working on empowering people to have better sex lives. Besides coaching, they also educate through their instagram and their porn videos . Today we chat about their journeys taking charge of their sexuality and navigating non-mongamy. Natasha also tells us how she went from...

Today I speak to Jessica Esfandiary, the host of the Open Late podcast. She tells us how she opened up her now 9 year relationship only a few months in, after an ‘accidental’ threesome. We talk about how she went from hiding her open lifestyle even from her closest friends to having a podcast about non-monogamy. She also tells us the reasons why she likes being polyamorous, including seeing a side...

In the second part of our conversation with Jenny and Kris we chat about a time when Jenny fell in love with a secondary partner and had a hard time managing both relationships. Jenny also tells us about the parties she organizes and how it all began as a way to connect the non-monogamous community. Follow ⁠Space Invader Social Club⁠ on Instagram Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠...

In today’s episode Mariah and I chat with Jenny and Kris, who have been together for almost a decade and navigated non-monogamy from the beginning. They tell us everything about their introduction to the non-monogamous world and what they learned in this process.  Follow Space Invader Social Club on Instagram Get tickets to their event Purple Haze on 420   Follow Polycurious on: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠...

Today I chat with Philip, the host of the podcast Dear Poly where I was a guest last year. We go deep into Philip’s coming out story and how he had to break so much stigma in his religious community to be his true self. If you have ever had a hard time letting go of shame, as a queer person, non-monogamous person or simply someone with a high sex drive, I think you will resonate with this episode....

Jess is a trauma centered relationship coach and plant medicine guide. Zach is a breath work facilitator and men’s intimacy coach. Together they have the Sacred Ships podcast, where I had the pleasure to be a guest last year. Today we talk about how they healed their sexual trauma, partly through their relationship. Zach opens up about using porn in a way affected his sexual performance, and revea...

In the first episode of our third season Mariah and I spoke to Taylor and Alan, who identify as solo poly and nonhierarchical. Both of them started their non-monogamous journey in high school and have since been immersed in the poly and sex-positive community.  Today we talk about their experiences of seeing each other fall in love with other people and experiencing jealousy. They also share how p...

In the last episode of Monocurious we interview Tory and Jackson, a couple living in at Lightning Society, a co-living residence and event space in Brooklyn.  Today Tory and Jackson give us a crash course on non-sexual intimacy. Tory tells us why she decided to remain single for most of her twenties, focusing on her independence and building intimate friendships. Jackson, on the other hand, f...

In today's episode, we discuss dating culture, the various contrasts in experience men and women have, as well as some hot tips on communicating expectations after a first date. Tory recently moved to NYC from San Francisco, for work and to find partnership with a Jewish woman. Ava, our Monocurious co-host, has lived & dated in NYC for 8+ years. Tory and Ava share how their family, culture, an...

Sue & Jon became exclusive not long after their first date and married exactly one year after they met. When we joined them late last year, they were just six weeks away from having a baby. Despite going down what might seem a very conventional path (getting married, buying a house, having a baby), they are welcoming and understanding of the alternative paths many of their friends have taken....

In our season finale, I speak to Mariah (the occasional co-host of the podcast) about the story of how we grew to be best friends who occasionally play. We also give you an update on where we are in our relationships and exploration of non-monogamy. I talk about how a deeper level of engagement with someone I am dating is teaching me to prioritize my primary partner and making me reflect on the bo...

In this episode, I speak to Ari and Jeshua, a polyamorous couple that has been together for 2.5 years. In our conversation, we talk about their experiences dating people together and separately, their growth from secondary relationships, and their polyamorous community. We also have an interesting conversation about expressing your feelings for other people to your primary partner. Lastly, Jeshua...

In this episode, I chat with Marcela, also known as thehypnoqueen . Marcela tells us about her shared sexual and romantic experiences with her former partner Brad, including forming a beautiful triad with another woman. Marcela also tells us how Brad and she decided to separate after over 4 years of being together and how they are approaching this new phase of their relationship. Follow Marcela on...

In this episode I chat with Valentin (Awake and Sexy on Instagram,) an Internal Family Systems-trained Intimacy Coach & Guide. In this conversation we talk about Valentin’s own struggles with anxiety and intimacy and how they led him to delve into several mindfulness techniques and to leave his corporate job to start Awake and Sexy . We talk about Neo-tantra, MDMA therapy, and briefly touch on...

A common challenge couples who start opening up face is realizing that they have different ideas of what that actually means. In this special episode we listen back to some guests from the first season who had different desires or faced an imbalance in the way they approached non-monogamy. Guests from Season 1 included in this episode: Book a free exploratory coaching session with me ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Carol and David have been in a polyamorous relationship for about eight years. In this conversation, we chat about their boundaries evolving from a three page document to simply having to check in with one another. They share some of the difficulties that they experienced as they navigated having more than one serious romantic partner. We talk about an accidental breach of trust and about how that...

In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring. We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often t...

In this episode, London shares her reasons for being solo poly and not seeking a primary partner. She tells us ho she is working on getting validation from herself and letting go of expectations when it comes to relationships. We talk about the importance of communicating intentions and feelings, even with people one is casually dating. Last but not least, we go in-depth about London’s experience...

In this episode I chat with my friends Jasmine and Felipe, who have been together for about a year and a half. With the exception of a short period at the beginning where they dated independently, they have only had experiences as a couple and mostly with women. They tell us why dating separately sounds both intriguing and threatening to them. We also talk about the complexity of making moves on f...

Queer Dating Coach, Ariella Serur, works with queer people navigating the dating world, so it becomes an enjoyable process and part of their personal growth journey. In this conversation, Mariah and I chat about Ariella’s own queer and non-monogamous journey. We talk about how to date as a newly queer person and how to deal with feelings of infatuation and new relationship energy. We also discuss...