Note to Self

#218. Are you ready for the universe to start working in your favor? Les Alfred of the She’s So Lucky podcast is sharing how to be the luckiest woman you know in just 3 steps. We’re talking making your own luck, growing & starting over at any age, and much more in today’s episode of Note to Self.  Listen to She’s So Lucky wherever you get your podcasts and follow Les at @lesalfred and @sh...

#217. We’re kicking off this episode of ASK P with a few personal anecdotes ranging from luteal phase rage to calmly settling into my new home & routine. The girls were really into relationship chats this week, so we’re talking the ‘to move on or wait for him to realize we’re perfect for eachother’ phase of a breakup, as well as continuing last week’s convo on leaving a good relationship for t...

#216. Margot Lee is an OG YouTube creator and founder of No Particular Order. After moving to London for her longtime boyfriend, she faced one of life’s hardest truths: sometimes two people can love each other deeply and want completely different futures. In this conversation, we talk about how wanting different things isn’t a failure, and why coming home to yourself is the bravest decision one co...

#215. I’m sitting down with creator & best-selling author, Eli Rallo, to talk about navigating a new era of life, building community through change, & more. Eli’s new book, Does Anyone Feel This Way?, is out Oct. 14!                         PROMO LINK:  https://www.h...

#214. I’m sharing all my fall favorites for 2025 in this episode. We’re covering beauty products, shopping destinations, tech and apps, must-follow accounts, and my personal fall themes for the season. Everything you need to curate your best hot girl fall yet.                        &...

#213. Dr. Tara brings her PhD expertise in human sexuality to tackle the conversations most of us are still too uncomfortable to have—from unlearning sexual shame to talking about what you actually want with a long-term partner. She addresses realities like foreplay that no one discusses openly, and offers concrete guidance for women who have never experienced orgasm. With frank expertise, Dr. Tar...

#212. Forget everything you think you know about wedding planning. Jaleigh Friend, founder of The Friend Club and veteran of 1,500+ couple consultations, is here to demolish the outdated rules keeping your wedding from feeling authentic. We’re talking about which traditions you can toss, how to handle family pushback when you go rogue, and why the “rules” might actually be costing you money. Wheth...

#211. I'm opening up about five things I'm actively learning rather than pretending to have figured out. From adopting patience as a daily practice to learning that disappointment is a fact of life, we’re discussing what I’m currently working through. This isn't about having all the answers—it's about staying curious, staying human, and finding freedom in the messiness of still figuring it out. Jo...

#210. What if your financial plan received the same amount of care as your skincare routine? In this episode, fractional CFO and "dumb rich" newsletter creator Ariel LaFond joins me to reframe money as wellness. We're breaking down the HENRY trap (High Earner, Not Rich Yet), sharing financial rituals that actually work, and building budgets that include joy—not just survival. Because money isn't j...

#209. Breakups, boundaries, and brutal honesty. In this Ask P, I answer your questions on handling hate comments, moving on from long-term relationships, opening up to friends after heartbreak, navigating toxic family dynamics, and finding peace when you feel out of place.                      ...

Today we are revisiting a classic Note To Self episode: Dating Horror Stories with Emon and Kristen. Hope you enjoy! #132. We are reading & discussing some pretty horrific listener dating stories in this episode of NTS. I have two of my favorite friends, Emon & Kristen, in the studio to weigh in on your experiences and share some of their own. SHOP NOTE TO SELF MERCH:  https://shop.de...

#208. Feeling stuck, confused, or like your “real life” hasn’t started yet? In this episode, we’re talking about the sneaky ways we postpone joy, progress, and big decisions while waiting for the “perfect” timing. I’ml sharing practical, low-pressure strategies to help you get unstuck, from clarifying your values to taking small, meaningful risks. Whether you’re in a career limbo, a relationship c...

#207. I’m catching up with my favorite roommate of my 20s, Taylor King aka TK, while our paths crossed in NYC. We’re talking dating in the modern era, the formula for finding the perfect roommate, and so much more. This ep is best listened to on your hot girl walk, pregaming the bars, or doing an apartment deep-clean, btw.             &nb...

#206. Only 2% of art sold globally is by women — and today’s guest is working to change that. Nuria Madrenas is the founder of Tacit , an online gallery and art consultancy dedicated exclusively to female artists. In this episode, we talk about how to start your own art collection — even on a budget — and how to choose pieces that feel personal, meaningful, and lasting. Whether you're filling your...

#205. In this Ask P episode, we’re talking through the messy, beautiful in-betweens of life and love. I’m answering listener questions about hooking up with an ex you’re not over, wanting a dog when you’re not settled down, and moving cities for your partner’s career when you’re still building your own. These aren’t black-and-white situations — there isn’t always a “correct” answer to some of life...

#204. Violet Witchel, aka the Dense Bean Salad Girl (my fav), earned a degree in economics and swam competitively in college—then walked away from it all for culinary school. What began as a single recipe turned into a viral movement and a nationwide pop-up series. In this episode, we talk about the courage it takes to choose a different life, how to follow an idea that makes no sense on paper, an...

#203. Is your relationship just going through a rough patch — or is it time to walk away? This week, I’m joined by relationship therapist and author Laura Caruso ( The Empathy Deficit ) for a candid conversation about love, conflict, and compatibility. We talk about how she dates as a therapist, what really happens in couples therapy, and how she personally handled a recent breakup. Laura breaks d...

#202. In this solo episode, I’m breaking down everything I’ve learned from 10 years of creating content online — from blogging in 2016 to building a six-figure brand today. Whether your goal is to become a full-time influencer or just earn some extra income on the side, this episode is your permission slip to start. We’ll talk pivots, sustainable growth, the real ways people make money online (eve...

#201. Jade Beguelin is the co-founder of 4AM Skin — a cheeky skincare brand for girls who work hard, play harder, and sometimes fall asleep in their makeup. In this episode, Jade shares how she went from a high-stress finance job to building a brand that’s redefining what beauty can look like. We talk about career pivots, the power of leaning on your network, and the importance of putting yourself...

#200. To celebrate 200 episodes of Note to Self, I’m tackling listener questions ranging from crash outs, to the *benefits* of depression, to my personal regrets, and things I’m not supposed to admit about my finances. I hope this episode can make you feel more normal, more understood, or at the very least, entertained. Thank you for letting me be a little part of your week every week. I appreciat...

#199. In this installment of ASK P, we’re talking about various relationship-related topics like infidelity in long-term partnerships, boredom within your partnership, and what happens when you make your partner the center of your universe.  FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain    https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain   https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https:...

#199. I’m sharing my spring favorites from styles, to skincare, to hair & makeup and more in today’s chatty episode.  FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain    https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain   https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain   https://pinterest.com/paytonsartain   SUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF: → Ask P: Advic...

#197. In this soulful and honest conversation, I sit down with Lindsey Simcik, co-host of the Almost 30 podcast — someone I’ve considered an “older sister” of the internet. We talk about the disorienting experience of becoming a new version of yourself — in love, in identity, in life — and how to stay grounded in your truth through it all. As I prepare for marriage, and Lindsey shares her spiritua...

#196. You don’t need another green juice — you need to clean up your feed. In this episode, we’re going on a digital detox: unfollowing the people who make us spiral, muting the noise, and decluttering our digital lives for more clarity, calm, and confidence. If your phone is frying your brain, this is your sign to unplug and reset — one scroll-free moment at a time. FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagr...

#195. Add this to your to-do list: stop confusing chemistry for compatibility. Also, demand both! Class is in session, and we’re discussing how to attract the “right” partner.  FOLLOW PAYTON: https://instagram.com/paytonsartain    https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain   https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainhh https://amazon.com/shop/paytonsartain   https://pinterest.com/payt...