Make Your Damn Bed

People generally just want to feel heard and being a good listener is a huge part of that. Practice waiting to respond, silence allows space for people to continue. Practice making eye contact + repeating what they've just said back to them in their own words. And practice really being there while they create their own conclusions. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed ....

Sometimes it can be the right move to just change the subject. Whether to diffuse, or just escape an awkward situation - learning how to change the subject can help others get out of toxic cycles too. Whether discreet or obvious - don't be afraid to change the subject if things are starting to spiral out of control. Thank you for listening to the daily motivation podcast to help you get out of bed...

The more we remind ourselves that we don’t need to be positive all the time, we will realize there is also no need to be negative either - but by relaxing and redirecting to my breath I can remind myself that there’s nothing I can do NOW and the best possible thing I can do - for my own well being - is to drop it. To let it go. To move on. And allow myself some space between me and the perpet...

If you’re finding yourself dwelling and turning the same concern over and over and over and over, you’re ruminating. And even though it’s incredibly common, it’s also terrible for your mental health. Although the reflection portion of rumination can often be fairly beneficial in finding a solution or process the strong emotions that are associated with the situation, rumination in general is often...

Take your time with the journey and lean into what YOU really want at a pace that works for you, not against ya. There's a freedom in traveling alone, don't be afraid to do it and take control of your own schedule. Pit stops are enjoyable, when you let yourself enjoy 'em. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The  Pareto principle  states that for many outcomes, roughly 80% of consequences come from 20% of causes (the "vital few"). Increase productivity by focusing on the 20% of the input that impacts 80% of the output. https://www.forbes.com/sites/kevinkruse/2016/03/07/80-20-rule/?sh=37bfd0a3814b “How to 80/20 your work: (1) Make a list of the 10 things you spend the most time on. (2) Circle...

Sometimes we think we're helping and we're actually making it worse. Protect yourself first, it'll show others they can do the same. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Parkinson’s Law - according to wikipedia, is the adage the amount of work expands to fill the time available for its completion. If you wait until the last minute, it only takes a minute to do. If you give yourself a week to do a two hour task, psychologically speaking the task will increase in difficulty to fill the time available. Typically stress and tension and overwhelm fill the space of the...

I had high expectations for this trip, and while I only met a few of them - I am proud of myself for prioritizing the things that weren't optional for me. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Take care of sh*t before it compounds. Take care of future you. Ask yourself: "is this gonna cause me more pain/drama/stress in the future?" And if so, take care of it NOW. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cleaning tips for sloppy babes: NEVER LEAVE A ROOM EMPTY HANDED  TOUCH IT ONCE STRATEGY - instead of putting it down, put it away  CLEAN AS YOU GO  DO EASY STUFF FIRST to inspire later stuff USE TIMERS 5 MINUTE NIGHTLY TIDY Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chores can be hella irritating because no matter how well you do them, you still have to show up and do them again in a day or so. I will be sharing some tips to make chores less tedious and more efficient, enjoyable, and sustainable. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a healthy relationship, you will feel respected by your partner. Your emotions are validated and they don’t tell you how to feel or get angry with your emotional states.  A healthy relationship means you and your partner respect that you each have lives outside of each other. You respect each others space, privacy, relationships, and goals. Encouraging each other to be full people outside...

TW: ABUSE https://stopthehurt.org/is-your-relationship-headed-for-trouble-recognizing-red-and-yellow-flags/ Yellow Flags in a Relationship Early signs of abuse may be based on attempts to control the other person. Some “Yellow Flags” that a relationship is turning abusive include:  Always checking in on you (by text, calling, or asking your friends/family/workplace where you are)  Not su...

@ALEX_ELLE on instagram: I stopped doing these things to create healthier relationships with others (and myself): Expecting people to read my mind. Instead, I started naming my needs and being clear about my boundaries. Pretending to be strong and okay when I'm not. Instead, I started being honest and vulnerable about my feelings. Being silent about the things that have hurt me. Instead, I started...

If you’re struggling to know whether or not you’re falling victim to the sunken cost fallacy in your current relationships, there are some reflective questions you can ask to check in and ensure you’re not settling.  Do you feel like you need to stay in your relationships? Or do you feel like you want to stay in your relationships? Do you resent the amount of time or energy you’ve put in? Or...

People seem to think because they have invested months or years of time into a person that they shouldn’t give up on the potential for them to change, when their current reality is miserable and undeniably better if they cut ties.  I have heard countless friends justify staying too long bad relationships with “but we’ve been together for so long” or “I’ve put so many years into this,” or and...

staying aligned with that favorite version of you, in every situation, no matter how stressed, how hungry, how angry, how frustrated, how down, how unheard you feel, is the highest form of alignment and self-mastery in my honest opinion. If you can still make choices that make your favorite version of you feel the most proud, no matter how crappy and off kilter you feel? It’s not easy - it may not...

If you do find it to be a struggle to know what the next best choice is for your current self - channel that version of you that feels the most badass before you make a decision? If you need to create a more confident alter-ego, great! Whatever you need to do to ensure you’re making the choices that make you feel the most empowered on a regular basis.  Support this show http://supporter.acast...

Don’t be afraid to go after anything you want even if you’re a lil scared its not the perfect fit because who the hell cares if its a temporary gig, at the very least you’ve got a dope party story and best case scenario you get to combine all your skills into the ideal life for yourself.  Open yourself up to new experiences, be brave, face the what if I hate it’s with so what if I hate it - a...

In the book, Stumbling on Happiness, Dan Gilbert says: "Most of us do have the expectation that our lives are improving and will get better and better, but often we’re not ready to do anything to actually achieve that next level. So, we spend our days hoping for better, our evenings dreaming of better, but our time doing nothing to make anything better - which means - things probably aren’t actual...

Save the work until you get to the work.  So often, we get caught up in our heads about potential problems and our workloads that we basically double the work on our plate by basically having to go through it twice.  Have you ever been driving to work and pre-writing emails, or pre-planning meetings, or predicting problems?  How many times have you left a job and started planning fo...

When being propositioned for anything, practice saying oh that sounds great can I get back to you in ____ insert appropriate time frame here.  I typically tell people I will put it in your calendar and check back in closer to the date. Then immediately I will set a second calendar event for a week or a day or so prior to the event reminding me to check in about it.  That way I can have t...

Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/ https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/ Duck Duck Go: Private searching browser. Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed . Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Good morning sunshine! Hope today is magic for you. Today's (and tomorrow's) episode references: https://time.com/4116259/google-search-2/ https://www.usatoday.com/story/tech/2019/11/02/expert-tips-for-google-search/4113013002/ MEDIA BIAS CHART EXPLANATION: https://adfontesmedia.com/how-ad-fontes-ranks-news-sources/ https://www.allsides.com/media-bias/media-bias-rating-methods 1. Language is impor...