Love Life With Matthew Hussey

Have you ever had something happen in your love life that affected you far more than you thought it should? Maybe someone pulled away. You got rejected. Or a relationship ended. And instead of simply feeling disappointed or hurt, you couldn’t stop thinking about it. You replayed what happened, obsessed over what you could have done differently, and felt desperate to get back the person or connecti...

You’ve been ghosted. They’re gone. But somehow, the conversation with them is still happening in your head. You reread the messages. You wonder what you did wrong. You search for the clue that will finally explain why they disappeared. The problem is, our need for closure can become a desperate attempt to regain control in a situation where we have none. And every time we go looking for an answer,...

What do people who are naturally good at flirting do differently? It’s easy to assume they’re more confident, more attractive, or simply better at knowing what to say. But after nearly 20 years of studying attraction and watching hundreds of first dates, I’ve noticed something else going on. In this week’s episode, I break down three great flirting scenes from movies that look completely different...

What if the reason your heartbreak isn’t getting better isn’t because you haven’t tried hard enough to move on, but because there’s a part of it you still haven’t allowed yourself to feel? I recently sat down with David Kessler, one of the world’s leading experts on grief, and something he said stopped me in my tracks: “You don’t have a broken mind. You have a broken heart.” We spend so much time...

Have you ever noticed that the moment someone starts pulling away, you suddenly want them more? Maybe they’re taking longer to reply. Their texts are getting shorter. Or they haven’t made plans to see you again. Nothing has actually happened, but you can feel that something has changed. And suddenly, someone you were still figuring out becomes the person you can’t stop thinking about. Before you k...

Have you ever realized that you’re the one keeping a relationship alive? You’re the one who reaches out. The one who checks in. The one who remembers, helps, gives, and shows up. And after a while, instead of feeling generous, you start feeling resentful. We often think the answer is to get the other person to give more. But what happens when they don’t? In this episode, I talk about why sometimes...

There are small things we do in the early stages of dating that can have a surprisingly big impact on how someone sees us, and on the kind of relationship we end up creating with them. Sometimes we’re so focused on whether someone likes us that we don’t stop to think about the tone we’re setting. Are we showing them what we value? Are we making it too easy for the relationship to exist entirely on...

Why can someone who treated you terribly still be so hard to get over? You know they lied. You remember the manipulation, the gaslighting, and all the ways they made you question yourself. And yet, even after you leave, you can still find yourself replaying what happened, searching for answers, or wondering whether somehow  you  were the problem. That’s because getting a narcissist out o...

Have you ever walked away from a conversation with a guy thinking,  “Wait... what did he actually mean by that?” Maybe he says he “isn’t ready for a relationship right now” but continues acting like your boyfriend. Or he tells you he “doesn’t want to hurt you” while still pursuing you. Suddenly, you’re analyzing every word, wondering whether you should give him a chance or take what he’s sayi...

Have you ever wondered why you can feel  so much  chemistry with someone who's inconsistent, unavailable, or clearly wrong for you... yet struggle to feel the same spark with someone who actually treats you well? You may genuinely want a healthy, stable relationship. But when you've become accustomed to the emotional highs and lows of unpredictable relationships, healthy attention can fe...

Two years ago, I met Ann at one of my Retreats. She stood up in tears and told me something I’ll never forget: “I feel like I’m not worthy.” Life had given her plenty of reasons to believe it. She had spent years feeling unseen, making herself smaller, and slowly losing touch with the person she used to be. Two years later, I sat down with Ann again to find out what happened next. And even knowing...

Sex can bring up some of the biggest questions in dating:  When is the right time to sleep with someone? Should you talk about what it means beforehand? And what if you have sex and they suddenly pull away? If you've ever worried that sleeping with someone too soon could make them lose interest—or felt like having sex somehow meant giving away your power—this episode is for you. I'm answering...

It starts off feeling like the relationship you've been waiting for. The connection is instant. They can't get enough of you. Every text makes you smile. They talk about the future, make you feel chosen, and leave you wondering how you got so lucky. Then everything changes. The messages slow down. The excitement disappears. You're left replaying every conversation, trying to figure out what happen...

After so many requests, Audrey's finally back! In this week's episode, she's answering some of your biggest relationship questions. We talk about rebuilding trust after heartbreak, jealousy over a partner's past, feeling "behind" in dating, keeping a marriage strong, and what really makes someone attractive. Whether you're single, dating, or married, I think there's something in this conversation...

"Where can I actually meet someone?" It's one of the most common dating questions, and one that's become even more frustrating in the age of dating apps and endless swiping. In this episode, we explore why so many people feel stuck meeting the same kinds of people, whether there's really a "best place" to meet someone great, and the simple shifts that can dramatically increase your chances of find...

Love bombing can feel exactly like the beginning of the relationship you've always wanted. The chemistry is instant. They want to see you all the time. They talk about the future, make you feel special, and everything seems to move at lightning speed. Then, just as quickly, something changes. The messages become less frequent, they start pulling away, and you're left wondering whether any of it wa...

Some people stay with us long after they're gone. Not because they were the right person, but because we remember how they made us feel. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who can't seem to let go of someone she met two years ago. Their chemistry felt effortless. Their connection felt rare. Yet the relationship never became what she hoped it would. Together, they explore why cert...

I still remember the worst heartbreak of my life. I remember thinking I'd never feel okay again. I remember searching for answers. And I remember realizing that knowing what to do isn't the same as actually living through it. Over time, I discovered a handful of things that genuinely changed the way I healed. Not because they made the pain disappear overnight, but because they helped me stop makin...

There's a particular kind of heartbreak that comes from seeing your ex move on before you have. It can leave you wondering what they saw in someone else that they didn't see in you, or whether they were always meant to end up with someone else in the first place. In this episode, Matthew answers a question from a live audience member who is trying to let go after the end of a five-year relationshi...

Heartbreak has a way of changing everything. It can make the world feel unfamiliar, leave you questioning yourself, and convince you that no one could possibly understand the weight you're carrying. In this special episode, I wanted to do something different. I'm reading an essay I wrote over the last ten days about heartbreak, what it really feels like, why it can be one of the most devastating e...

Heartbreak has a way of convincing us that what we're feeling is unlike anything anyone else has ever experienced. But not all heartbreak is the same. The pain of losing someone you never really got to have isn't the same as the pain of losing a long-term relationship. And neither of those feels like the heartbreak of someone walking away without warning. The truth is, different kinds of heartbrea...

Worried that sleeping with someone will change the way they feel about you? In this episode, I tackle one of the biggest sources of anxiety in dating: when to have sex, how to bring up the conversation beforehand, and what to do if you're afraid of being rejected or ghosted afterward. I also share a simple script you can adapt to make that conversation feel more natural, along with the mindset tha...

If you've ever felt like you're running out of time to find love, you're not alone. It's easy to look around and feel like everyone else is moving forward while you're standing still. That pressure can make us settle for relationships that feel like progress, even when they're taking us further away from the love we actually want. In this episode, Matthew shares seven mindset shifts to help you le...

Have you ever convinced yourself that one dating mistake cost you someone who could have been really special? Maybe you replayed the texts. The conversation. The moment you wish you could take back. And because genuine connection can feel so rare, you started believing you'd ruined your chance. It's a painful place to be, but it's also where our minds tend to tell us stories that simply aren't tru...

One of the hardest things about people-pleasing is the fear of what might happen if you stop. What if someone gets upset? What if they pull away? What if the relationship changes? In this episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen explore why so many of us struggle to set boundaries, speak honestly about our needs, and tolerate conflict in our relationships. They discuss how people-pleasing often begin...