I’ve been there too

What does it feel like to be 10 years old and struggling with pain so big it feels impossible to carry? In this deeply personal episode, Treavor sits down with his daughter, Cozette, for a tender and age-appropriate conversation about her journey through anxiety, self-harm, and thoughts of not wanting to be here. With honesty, vulnerability, and courage beyond her years, Cozette opens up about wha...

In this episode, Treavor and Cassidy dive deep into the emotional roots of shame, how it shows up in relationships, and how they've worked together to build a marriage where honest, vulnerability, and healing are safe. They discuss their individual experiences with shame - how it impacted their trust, intimacy, and communication - and the daily work it takes to create a relationship where neither...

In this episode, Cassidy and I open up about the raw, unfiltered reality of parenting while navigating our own healing journeys. From dealing with childhood trauma to supporting kids who are struggling emotionally, we share the lessons, the missteps, and the breakthroughs we’ve had as individuals and as a couple. This conversation is about showing up imperfectly—but with love, accountability, and...

Men have been taught for generations to bury pain, to “man up,” to pretend. But what happens when that silence becomes a death sentence? In this deeply personal and unfiltered episode, I walk through my journey from emotional isolation to healing — and why choosing vulnerability over silence didn’t just change my life, it saved it. If you’re tired of carrying it all alone… if you’re ready to rewri...

In this deeply personal episode, I open up about the silent battles so many of us fight behind closed doors, especially as fathers, veterans, and men who've been told to "just thought it out". I talk about the weight of wearing the mask, the pressure to be everything to everyone, and the moment I finally broke the silence and chose healing over hiding.  Whether you're a dad trying to stay strong f...

In the 10th episode, Cassidy and I sit down for an honest, vulnerable conversation about how hard it can be to care for your body when your mind feels heavy. We dive into what it looks like to start making your physical health a priority when you're battling anxiety, depression, self-doubt, or feeling unworthy of love. Together, we share actual, practical steps from our journey and remind you that...

In this episode, I sit down with my wife, Cassidy for an honest and powerful conversation about her story. She opens up about losing her mom to cancer at a young age, navigating an unhealthy and abusive first marriage, and the impact those experiences had on her life. We also discuss the tools and practices that helped her heal, grow, and rebuild. This is a real look at resilience, pain, and perso...

In this episode, I sit down with my great friend Gabe Davis as he opens up about his journey through some incredibly challenging seasons of life. Gabe shares the raw truth about his mental health struggles while navigating a toxic relationship, and how those battles followed him even into deployment. Together, we dive deep into the emotional toll, the coping mechanisms he developed while overseas,...

For the last 10 years, I have completely distanced myself from spirituality. After being part of a religion earlier in life, I became reluctant—skeptical even—of anything beyond what I could see and understand. But this past year, I watched my wife, Cassidy, embark on her spiritual journey, and despite her experiences, I wasn’t ready to follow. In this episode, Cassidy joins me to share her perspe...

In this deeply personal and emotional episode, I share the story of my son, Princeton-his birth, his fight, and the five days he spent battling for his life. Born premature, Princeton showed more strength in his short time here on earth than I ever could have imagined. He was a fighter. But despite his fight, I had to face a reality no parent should ever endure- losing a child. For years, I buried...

Divorce is never easy, especially when kids are involved. In this episode, I opened up about the mental and emotional battles I faced while going through my divorce, the struggles with my ex-wife, and how it all impacted my mental health. But here's the truth: leaving that marriage was the best thing I could have done for myself. I'll share the moments that nearly broke me, the fight to stay conne...

Shame is a powerful force - it kept me stuck, silent and convinced that I didn't deserve better. After my second suicide attempt, I found myself trapped in a cycle of depression and a marriage filled with emotional and financial struggles. In this episode, I open up about the weight of shame, how it shaped my darkest moments, and the realities of a marriage that drained me instead of building me u...

In this episode, I share the harsh reality of life after my first suicide attempt - admitting myself to the hospital, and trying to process the overwhelming shame, confusion, and hopelessness that followed. I talk about the ongoing mental and emotional toll of being trapped in a toxic marriage, a situation that only deepened my despair and pushed me toward a second attempt. This time, survival was...

In this deeply personal episode series, I share the painful journey that led to my first suicide attempt, a journey shaped by the weight of a toxic and unhealthy marriage. I opened up about the emotional turmoil, isolation, and constant strain that slowly pushed me deeper into depression and anxiety. It wasn't just one moment - it was a buildup of silent suffering and unresolved pain that eventual...

Introduction episode - explaining why I am starting this podcast and its motivation. Get to know a little bit about me before we dive deep into my mental health story. Instagram: @ivebeentheretoo_podcast