Insource

Its been a minute since I've shared a live coaching call with you. I've been having a lot of deeply personal conversation with my clients that have felt best kept private. But, this is a portion of a group coaching call I had in my membership.   This brave woman has been battling a bit with who she is, and thinking perhaps she is too difficult, too emotional, too much for people. I've been going t...

Its the most wonderful time of the year, right? So why have I been feeling so low?   A couple weeks ago my depression came on, and it came on strong. There were a few things that seemed to be the catalyst for it, but regardless of why its here, in todays episode I want to share with you what I am doing to manage through it.   I have 8 tips that I have been deploying during this season that help me...

As we grow, comfort zones and requests grow and change with us. Change is hard. Our brains don't like it, and the people who are effected by us changing can often struggle with how it impacts them.   As we begin to prioritize ourselves and insource our lives, we might need to pull out of commitments we once were all in on, or set a boundary that had never been enforced before, or create discomfort...

On the surface our fears sound reasonable… I am afraid of confrontation, I am afraid of public speaking, I am afraid of what they'll say or what they'll think. You talk to your friends about your fear and mot can relate.   BUT, what if what you're afraid of isn't actually what you're afraid of at all?   In todays episode I offer a different way to look at your fears, to dig deeper, to peel back th...

Most of us have gone our whole lives spending all of our attention on being whole the world has told us to be, filtering ourselves through the lease of "what are they thinking of me."   We have a fear that we're not good enough, that we don't bring enough value, that we're too much, that we're annoying, that they won't like us, etc… but like, SO WHAT? Maybe they don't like you. Maybe you are too m...

Staying where you are often feels like the safe choice. But, I'm guessing that since you're here with me, safe isn't what you're after. You, like me, want growth, evolution, expansion. Which means, for people like us, we're bound to be confused sometimes as our conscious self wants more, but our subconscious brains says, "nah, we good." In todays episode I talk about how to lean into the growth se...

The number one way to build self confidence, is to follow through on the commitments you make to yourself. The thing is, we generally make BIG commitments, like: I'm going to start this workout program and not miss a day, its 60 minutes a day for 60 days. I'm doing my diet for real this time. No more sugar, carbs, junk food, alcohol, etc. I am going to build this side hustle into something great s...

Through my years as a life coach, and in doing my own self coaching, I've learned that we all have, what I like to call, Default Operating Systems. Meaning thought patterns that our brains tend to think after years of practicing those beliefs.   What we're doing here is trying to uncover what those thought patterns are, and then, create new programming for our brains. Thoughts that ultimately will...

A lot of what we do here and what I teach is to focus on our thinking, because our thoughts truly create our reality. It is crucial that we understand this- because right now we're blaming our life on the facts and circumstances and people around us.   But, today I want to teach you an evolved concept. One where we take your painful thought and instead of trying to thought swap to get to a better...

Episode 49: A Pause for Jane My husband's mom died on Saturday, and nothing has felt right since. I will do another episode on managing though and processing grief at some point, but today I just want to share with you something that has helped me in past times of grief, and I hope that it also brings you some amount of comfort, even if tiny, as you wade through the wreckage of saying a final good...

We pay attention to our blood pressure, our temperature, our heart rate, our oxygen… its time we pay attention to our fifth vital sign: our cycle. As women, we're not taught or encouraged to support our bodies incredible hormone cycles… but thats where Jacqueline from The Menstrual Mogul comes in. She joins us on this episode of INsource to share what the four stages of our cycle are, and how we c...

I lost a soulmate of mine over a few misunderstandings and miscommunications… I have a friend who is currently in the midst of dealing with some misunderstandings in a very important relationship in her life, and I have clients who we are actively working on healing their thoughts about significant relationships in their lives that are happening as a result of misunderstandings.   In todays episod...

The Body Positive Community was a saving grace for me for several years. It helped me find peace and freedom and hope in moving away from being diet addicted and body obsessed. But, it also became another space where there were rules to follow and right and wrong ways to be body positive.   Following the body positive "rules" blindly felt good, until they didn't. I had to do some work around what...

I am just coming off one of the most transformative weekends of my life. It was a highlight that I will never forget. As I was thinking about what made it so magical and unforgettable, I came up with a list of things I learned, or that were reaffirmed for me about life in general. And in todays episode I share them with you. They are: Getting uncomfortable is almost always worth it. The Universe i...

In life, pain is inevitable. But suffering is always optional. Of course it doesn't always feel that way. When we're in pain and suffering it can often feel like we have no choice. But we do. We always do.   Sometimes pain is appropriate. Grief is appropriate. Sadness is appropriate. But suffering truly has no upside.   In todays episode, I bring you part of a live coaching call I did with one of...

You do things your way, he does things his way. The problem is, your way is the right way and when he does it differently, you get angry.   I hear you. I've been you. But, in todays episode, I share how you can overcome those differences to get on the same page again. I specifically share how this has come up in my own life in regards to the way we parent. But, the message applies to anyone, in an...

I made a huge parenting mistake recently that sent me into a tailspin of guilt and regret. I felt like I had let my daughter down in a significant and irreversible way… but showing up from a place of regret and guilt over a mistake doesn't have me showing up as my best self. I knew I deserved forgiveness, and my child deserved a mom who showed up from strength and love.   In today's episode I walk...

I found the enneagram several years ago and was fascinated by how accurate, and informative, it was at explaining how I work, what I'm motivated by, and what can be my Achilles heel if I don't watch it.   More than that, it helped me to better understand those around me. It helped me to not take things so personally when I saw clear as day how different we're all wired and motivated.   On today's...

You've done it so many times that you've started to believe that you're actually not capable of following through a plan to take care of you. You commit, you continue for a while, and then, maybe a week later, maybe a month, but always eventually, you quit. WHY?   In todays LIVE COACHING call, I explore the brain of my client around why she has been giving up, and offer some different thoughts to...

Everything and everyone is totally neutral. Things and people don't become a positive or negative thing until we have a thought about it. And we are the only thinker of our thoughts… Sometimes things happen or people act in a way that makes us feel frustrated, angry, resentful, judgmental, etc and we say "they need to change so that *I* can feel better." But, THEY can't make YOU feel anything. Its...

When was the last time you gut checked whether the decisions that you're making everyday are in alignment with your values overall? So often we're so zoomed in on that *one* meal, that *one* comment, that *one* bedtime routine, that *one* disagreement, that we forget it doesn't really matter to us in the big picture, the macro values of our lives.   I hope todays episode offers you some perspectiv...

The very first step in changing any thought is creating awareness around it. But, sometimes we have thoughts that feel so true, and so factual, that they don't feel like thoughts at all. They don't feel optional, they feel absolute. In todays episode, I walk you into the first step of discovering what those thoughts are that you have about yourself, where you likely learned them, and how its possi...

So much of our suffering in life comes from people not behaving the way that we want them to. People do things and we get upset and blame them. But, you know by now that its never the thing that causes your pain, its your thoughts about them.   In todays episode we take some listener questions regarding expectations we have for others, and how we can manage them to give ourselves peace. We can't c...

I spent most of my life focusing solely on how I looked and what other people thought of me. I ate when and what the "experts" told me to, and it led me to being the most unhealthy version of myself possible.   Then I moved into rejecting the diet industry and embracing intuitive eating. For years I was motivated to heal my relationship with food and my body. After a couple years of doing this I w...

For the last couple years, I was dealing with debilitating brain fog and fatigue, I was exhausted all day, but not be able to fall asleep at night, I struggled with motivation and excitement, my libido had taken a nose dive, I felt short of breath a lot, restless legs were a regular thing, and I started wondering if this was just my new normal… If I'd lost the energized, excited, passionate Ashlie...